Impamvu mbere: Kubura stereotypes
Iyo uhuye, umukobwa numusore bitwara bakurikije imigenzo yimiryango yabo. Dufate ko nyina w'umusore ari umugore wo gukubita mu gikoni. Papa yavuye ku kazi ararakaye kandi ananiwe, ifunguro rya nimugoroba, yagiye muri sofa areba TV. Kandi umukobwa uri mumuryango papa yizeraga ko umugore agomba kuba mwiza, ahura numugabo we amwenyura, mw'imyambarire yimyambarire. Nigute umubano hagati yabakundana uzabikwa muriki kibazo? Umusore akoreshwa mu kubona umugore murugo muri bwoge. Kandi umukobwa ahura na bakundwa be kumwenyura, arasiga, yambaye neza. Umugabo atekereza: Ari hamwe he? Atangira kugira ishyari. Kenshi cyane kugirango tubungabunge umubano, umugore yanze imyizerere yubuzima bwe kandi afunga. Mu gusubiza, abagabo bagaragara kubyerekeye ubuhemu. Umugabo atekereza ko undi mugore azamwitaho cyane, azashima kandi azitondera.
Niki? Gutangirana, kora wenyine. Reka imbaraga zawe ziyobowe kutayirinda umuryango, ariko kuri wewe. Ni iki gishobora gukurwa mu cyombo cyubusa? Nta na kimwe. Ubwato bugomba kuba bwuzuye imbaraga, ubumenyi bushya, ibitekerezo, urukundo kuriwe. Uhanze kandi ntanga, ugatakaza imico yawe, kwizera muriwe, numuntu uri hafi yawe yumva. Niba udakunda wowe ubwawe, ninde wundi muntu ugukunda?
Larisda Silnikova
Bitera icya kabiri: nyirabuja
Umugabo yatangiye nyirabuja, nubwo, wenda, icyarimwe aracyakunda umugore we. Ku bagabo benshi, icyitegererezo cyumubano nicyo gisanzwe. Nk'ubutegetsi, abo bagabo bayoborwa nubwenge. Ahari ikibazo cyongeye kuva mu bwana igihe umuhungu yabonaga imyitwarire nka se.
Niki? Birashoboka cyane, umugore mugitangira umubano wakoze amakosa atavuze imipaka yabo. Ingingo y'ubudahemuka ntabwo yigeze iganirwaho, kandi umugabo akemeza ko ari muburyo bwibintu. Niba wize nyirabuja, ugomba rero kuvugana numugabo wanjye kandi usobanukirwe impamvu ubuhemu bwabaye nicyo uwo mwashakanye afite gahunda. Ahari amenya ikosa. Ibyo ari byo byose, urashobora guhitamo niba ushobora kubana numuntu nk'uwo cyangwa udashobora. Ariko kugirango ujye kubahohotewe kubwabana cyangwa amazu, guhagarika, ntibikenewe.
Impamvu ni iya gatatu: Umugabo ararira
Rimwe na rimwe, umugore yinjiye cyane mu babyeyi bashakanye, akazi cyangwa kwishimisha, bibagirwa umukunzi we. Umugabo muriki gihe yumva ashimishijwe kandi agatangira gushaka ibintu hanze yinzu. Ntabwo bigira uruhare mubikorwa byo kurema umuryango, bityo ntibigaragaza indangagaciro kuri we. Nyuma yigihe, agaragara ibyo akunda, inshuti, kubwibyo, itumanaho kuruhande.
Niki? Gerageza gutegura weekend hamwe. Buri gihe ubaze umugabo wumugabo wawe kandi werekane akamaro k'igitekerezo cye kuri wewe, umugabo agomba kumva akeneye kandi akubyeza mu mibanire. Nibyo, biragoye ko ushishikajwe no gushimishwa numupira cyangwa kuroba, ahubwo werekanye abanza kumeranya kwa mugabo wawe ni bye.