Abakobwa beza bakurura ibitekerezo. Buri gihe bahinduka ikintu gishimishije - kandi ntabwo ari abantu gusa, ahubwo no kubahagarariye igitsina cyabo. Abakobwa beza bakikijwe na Halo, wagaragaye muburyo bwinshi ukesha imyumvire, akenshi yibeshya. Nibyiza gufatwa nkaho bitaboneka, kwishima (byibuze murukundo), akenshi bidafite ishingiro ndetse nubuswa. Iyi Halo n'izi myumvire akenshi igora ubuzima ntabwo ari ubwiza ubwabwo, ahubwo no kubagabo bashishikajwe no kugaragara kwe.
Paradox: Birasa natwe ko ufite umuntu ufite, kandi mwiza ntagomba kugira ibibazo mubucuti abafana bagomba guhagarara kumurongo, kandi umurimo wumukobwa mwiza ni uguhitamo wenyine cyangwa byiza guhura ibyifuzo bye. Birasa natwe ko irungu - ububi, biragoye kubyizera. Ariko mubikorwa, akenshi "sulfuru" bigenda neza. None se kuki ubwiza bukunze kwigunga?
Stereotype ni ukuvuga ko ubwiza bukenewe, bubatera ubwoba muri bo agace kaboneye abafana. Shaka kwanga umugore ufite ubwoba bwinshi bwumugabo, kandi benshi bahitamo kwisubiraho, shimishwa numugore mwiza kure, kuruta kunanirwa. Ukuboko kwera hamwe niyi stereotype nundi - kubyerekeye ubwiza bufite amahame yo hejuru, kandi ntabwo buri muntu ayihuye. Mubice, mubyukuri ni ukuri, uyumunsi ubwiza bwinshi bumenya igiciro cyabo (akenshi barenga). Umuryango wacyo ugira uruhare kuri ibi, ubwiza nurubyiruko birakenewe, benshi biteguye kubishyura neza. Ariko ibi ntibisobanura ko ubwiza bwose butwara cyane, gusa ntabwo bari biteguye kugenzura ibi kuburambe.
Stereotypes kubyerekeye abakobwa beza basunika abagabo benshi
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Ubwiza akenshi bufitanye isano no kutabaho no gusahura. Umugabo yabanje kutabona umubano numukobwa nkuyu, yanze uruhare rwumukunzi wawe cyangwa nyirabuja. Mubyukuri, iyo ubwiza aribwo bunini kandi bwintwaro gusa, umubano muremure uragoye, mubyukuri - ntakintu nakimwe cyo gukora. Akenshi haba muri mwembi, n'umugabo, ibyo bitegereje bitatsindishirijwe, kandi umugore asezeranya ko agomba kumukunda gusa.
Akenshi abakobwa beza bahinduka ingwate zo isura yabo, bizera ko bazahora bafite umwanya wo kurongora, batigeze bamenya ko abaparerezi babo cyangwa batanga uburezi bwabo bwose, umwuga wabo. Iyo uburezi bwakiriwe kandi umwuga ujya kumusozi, biza igihe cyo gutekereza ku rukundo, ariko bigaragarira ko abakunzi bahoze bashakanye igihe kirekire, kandi hafi ya bose ntabwo ari ubuntu mu nshuti na bagenzi babo. Muri make, hitamo ntabwo uva kumuntu.
Ibi byavuzwe haruguru birashobora kwitwa ibintu byo hanze, ariko usibye ibyo kandi hariho imbere. Kurugero, umutekano muke. Igitangaje, abakobwa beza akenshi bagira isoni ubwiza bwabo, kwizera (kandi ntabwo arimpamvu) ko abantu bashishikajwe gusa no kugaragara kwabo, ndetse nisi yimbere, inyungu no kwishimisha ntibikenewe kubantu bose. Ubundi buryo bukabije ni ibyiringiro birenze urugero no kwigenga. Umukobwa nkuyu yemera ko ibintu byose bizagerwaho, no gufasha (kenshi, ntabwo ari ubuntu) kumubusa. Kumenyera ibintu byose kugirango ushake kandi ushishikarire wenyine, umukobwa nkuyu aragoye kureka mubuzima bwe bwundi muntu.
Byemezwa ko ubwiza buri bwigenga cyane, cyangwa butose mubukwe
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Imyitwarire y'abaguzi b'abagabo kubwiza akenshi bikubiyemo gutenguha murukundo nabagabo. Indi mpamvu ntabwo ishaka cyangwa kudashobora gukoresha iyambere mubucuti. Akenshi bihinduka ingaruka zo kureremba kandi gushishikarizwa n'ababyeyi b'Umwamikazi. Indi mpamvu yingenzi ikumbura cyane umunezero wawe ni icyifuzo cyo kwifuza kurongora. Abagabo nkabo bafite ubwoba nubwo bameze neza.
Uyu munsi, ubwiza bwabaye umusaruro mwiza utagurishwa gusa, ahubwo nabwo yaguzwe. Byabaye byoroshye kuba mwiza, serivisi z'abagore ni Styliste, abaganga ba cosmetologiste, abaganga ba plastike. Abakobwa biteguye gushora imari mubwiza bwabo, mubindi bintu, kugirango bakureho irungu, nibyiza - kurushinga neza. Nibyiza birushaho kuba byinshi, ariko umubare wintambwe ntugabanuka. Kandi byose kuko ubwiza budangana nibyishimo byihariye. Umubano nigikorwa kitoroshye, kandi isura yabo igira akamaro, ariko idasobanura uruhare.
Ntibishoboka ko tutavuga ku yindi mpamvu. Umugore wigunze nimwe mumucyo afata igihe cyacu. Abagore barushaho gukomera, kwishingikirizaho, kwigenga. Batanga, bashira intego zikomeye imbere yabo, barabigeraho kandi ntibiteguye kwihanganira inshingano za kabiri. Abagore nkabo ntibashaka kandi ntibiteguye kureka urukundo, ariko bashaka umufatanyabikorwa ungana cyangwa urenze. Biragoye kubyinginga. Bari bonyine, ariko ntibatakaza ibyiringiro byibyishimo.