Ukuboza, iyi ntabwo ari inzozi zambere zabasomyi kubyerekeye umubano numugabo we. Ingingo rusange ni ukubura hafi, umubano wubufatanye. Birasa nkaho iyi ari inzira ibabaje. Kubwamahirwe, ntabwo twigishijwe kugirango dushyireho urukundo rwurukundo. Amashuri yigisha ibintu bitandukanye, ariko ntibikurikizwa mubuzima bwumuryango. Kandi ababyeyi benshi ntibazi uko amasomo yo mu muryango ashyikirizwa abana babo. Kurugero, kubana kubana, kurimbura abafatanyabikorwa. Umwana mu muryango nk'uwo, ntabwo ashima umubano w'ubufatanye, kuko baguye mu maso ye, kurundi ruhande, humva icyaha cyimbitse kubuzima bwababyeyi. Gusa iyi Habisi, abantu bakomeza gupfa ababyeyi babo kandi baracyakomeza kuba umwenda udasabwa.
Ku byerekeye uyu mwana w'intwari yacu: "Ndota inzu yacu twe n'umugabo wacu n'umwana wacu mu kagare k'abamugaye, ba nyina, abashyitsi, inshuti. Umuntu wese akeneye ikintu: umwana - kugenda, Mama - gushyikirana, inshuti zanjye zitwa ahantu runaka, munzu ukeneye gusohoka, gutegura ibiryo. N'umugabo wanjye, nashwanyaguye hagati y'ibi bibazo ndetse n'abantu. Muri icyo gihe, mu nzozi, turi kumwe n'umugabo wanjye kandi ndashaka kwigobotora impungenge zose no gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina, tugume hamwe kandi ntukarangara umuntu uwo ari we wese. Kandi ndamufitiye mu nzozi guhinda umushyitsi, witonda, ukomeye, nko mu minsi y'amatariki yacu ya mbere. Numinjagira gutekereza ko mubuzima bwanjye ibyiyumvo byacu, hari ibintu byinshi hagati yacu nabandi bantu. Kandi ndifuza cyane hamwe n'urukundo rurangwa n'ubwuzu. "
Gusinzira bimugaragariza uko abantu benshi bitari ngombwa we n'umugabo we batishoboye ko: ababyeyi, abana, inshuti, abo mukorana, babitayeho. Ntibasize ahantu. Inzozi ziragaragaza icyifuzo n'umubabaro umwe mubafatanyabikorwa kubyerekeye ko bataboneka.
Nubwo niba bajuririye umuvuzi wumuryango, birashoboka cyane, icyerekezo cyakazi cyaba cyo kugarura ubufatanye budashoboka. Umuganga wo kuvura umuryango avuga ko umubano wacu na mugenzi wawe arimbere kandi ushyira imbere, hanyuma hamwe nabana n'ababyeyi. Iyi sano, niba iramba kandi itavogerwa, ituma bishoboka gukunda abandi bagize umuryango no kubitaho. Mu muco wacu, iyi ni axiom itavugwaho rumwe, kuko abana bahoraga babanza imiryango myinshi. Kandi intwari zacu zigomba kubona ubufatanye bwe numugabo we. Mugihe ari uw'awe ku ihame risigaye, karengane kumushaka. Ntabwo ari ukubabazwa gusa, ahubwo ni we, n'imibanire yabo.
Kubwibyo, umubano ntabwo uhoraho, bazahora binjizwa kandi witondere umufasha. Ubuzima burahinduka, umuryango ukura, umubano uzahindura kandi ubwuzu kandi urukundo ruzashira. Kubwibyo, birakenewe kubikora ubishaka kandi buri munsi. Kandi ibi birakwiye akazi.
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Maria Dyachkova, umuganga wa psychologue, umuvuzi wumuryango, amahugurwa yambere yibikorwa byimikurire yimyidagaduro Marika Khazin