Mu myaka mike ishize, gutandukana byari gake cyane. Kugeza ubu, byahindutse bisanzwe, kandi abagore benshi barera abana bonyine. Ariko, ubuzima nyuma yo gutandukana bitarangira, kandi akenshi umugore aje mubukwe bwa kabiri. Hamwe nubukwe bwa kabiri - Umugabo wa kabiri kandi, kubwibyo, se wa kabiri kumwana ...
Ntawabura kuvuga ko isura yo hanze mumuryango ntishobora kunyura. Cyane cyane niba hari abana bo muri uyu muryango. Birumvikana ko hariho imiryango izo mpinduka zikomeza kubabara, ariko ibi ntabwo ari amahirwe.
Muri benshi mu muryango umwe, aho serfater igaragara, byanze bikunze guhura n'ibibazo byinshi n'amakimbirane, mbere ya byose, birukana mu mibavu, birukana mu mibavu, birukana mu bashakanye bakiri bato, birukanwa hagati y'abaterana, birukanwa hagati y'ababyeyi, birukanwa hagati y'ababyeyi.
Nshobora kubuza ayo makimbirane? Ibikoresho byisi yose, bikwiranye numuryango uwo ariwo wose, ikibabaje, ntirubaho. Nyamara, abahanga mumitekerereze myinshi bakomeje gutanga inama rusange rusange kugirango bafashe gukora iki gihe cyo kurwanya imihindagurikire.
Mbega ukuntu byihuse kugirango bikureho ibibazo bishoboka hagati ya papa numwana, bifasha gukurikiza ubucuti no kwiga kwizerana, noneho bizaganirwaho.
Birumvikana, kugirango umuryango mushya ube umunyarugomo kandi urugwiro, ugomba kwizihiza kwihangana n'imbaraga nyinshi. Ntakintu kidashoboka. Ariko ntabwo ari ngombwa kwiringira ko ibintu bizakemurwa ubwabyo, ndetse bikarushaho gukenera umwana, ibyo yakoze byose kugirango yiyunge. Muri ibi bihe, abantu bakuru bagomba gufata inshingano zose kubibera, kuko bafite uburambe bwubuzima, kandi ubwenge burenze ubwa umwana.
Uri nde?
Ikibazo cya mbere cyane kigomba gusobanurwa kuva intangiriro nuburyo umwana agomba gukoreshwa kumuryango mushya. Akenshi uyobowe nigisubizo vuba bishoboka kugirango yigishe umwana umugabo we mushya, amwita papa. Rimwe na rimwe, umwana ntaketwa na nyina atangira guhamagara papa hafi umunsi wa mbere. Nkurukwe, iterambere ryibyabaye mubisanzwe ni mubihe bibiri: yaba umwana aracyari nto cyane, kandi ijambo mama kuri we ni ukuri kudahinduka, cyangwa umwana kumutinya ko atagikemura gusa ko atagikemura. Ni. Niba kandi mu rubanza rwa mbere, nk'ubutegetsi, nta kibazo cyihariye kiba mu mibanire y'umubyeyi n'umwana, hanyuma mu gihe cya kabiri ibintu birushijeho kuba bibi cyane. Azitwa umuntu wa pape yabandi, ahubwo amukunda rwose uhora umwana adashoboka. Nibyo, ntazifatanyije amakimbirane afunguye na mama na papa, ariko dore ibizabaho mu bugingo bwe, bizakomeza kuba amayobera ku kashe karindwi
Niyo mpamvu abaterankunga bo mumiryango bafite ibitekerezo byabo byasobanuwe neza. Mubyukuri, ntuhinge umwana kubintu byose, ndetse birenze kugirango umwana amenye papa we ari mubi. N'ubundi kandi, kubwibyo umuhamagaye kandi ukayitera, guhatira papa kwitwa Papa biracyari umuntu uheshyikirwa rwose. Ubwenge bwinshi kugirango umwana yongere kumupfana nizina. Ku ruhande rumwe, bizaroha cyane ku mwana utazumva ari umuhemu ugana se kavukire, ndetse na kabiri - Ubujurire bwitwa bworoshye cyane kuri papa we. N'ubundi kandi, na we aramugora cyane - kandi cyane, araza ku muryango w'undi, aho bumaze, gahunda ye, inzira y'amavuko, umwana ... n'umugabo , ndetse no kwitonda cyane kandi kwitaho, bizakenera igihe runaka kugirango umenyere ibintu byose. Ariko aramutse atangiye gutsimbarara ku cyifuzo cy'umwana "papa", menya neza ko bavugana no gusobanura ko ari ngombwa kunoza abana n'umwe.
Ingaruka zo Gutungurwa
Kenshi na kenshi abantu bakuru ubwabo batanga ibisabwa byingenzi kugirango habe hagaragaye amakimbirane yimibereho hagati yumubyeyi numwana. Kandi ikosa rya mbere ryabonetse akenshi ni ingaruka zo gutungurwa. Nta rubanza rudatera uruhinja, rushobora kuba rudashimishije - ntugashyire umwana mbere yuko ibyo wagezeho.
Akenshi, umugore ahisha umubano wayo numwana, cyane cyane niba ari mu gihe cy'imyaka igoye, yibeshya ko bizaba byiza. Ntabwo ari rwose. Ubundi se, kuki ukuri k'umwana arihisha? Kuberako mama akeka ko ibintu bitandukanye bishoboka.
Ariko ugomba kumva ko utazashobora kwirinda amakimbirane kubyo runaka - bitinde bitebuke ugomba kumenyesha umwana niba, birumvikana ko uteganya kwemeza umubano wawe kandi ubane. Ariko, ikibazo kimwe cyongewe kuri ayo makimbirane yose - inzika zikomeye kuri wewe kubera ko wamwihishe ukuri.
Noneho, gerageza gushyira umwana kumenya ishyingiranwa rivugwa mbere. Nubwo, birumvikana, kandi, kandi umaze kumenyana n'umwana watoranijwe, birakenewe gusa niba umubano wawe urakomeye, kandi gahunda ni ukuri kandi byagenwe. Bitabaye ibyo, nyuma ya kabiri - Kurambagiza icya gatatu, umwana azareka kukubona byibuze.
Kandi. Gerageza kudasubika iki kiganiro mugihe kitazwi, kuko wabanje kwambura umwana kandi ugasubiza ibibazo bye byose, icyo gihe azaba afite umwanya wo kubana n'iki gitekerezo akagifata.
Inama ya mbere
Bikunze kubaho ko umugore ayobora uwo bashakanye murugo, atamumenyesheje umwana we. Ariko rero, ntukibagirwe ko gushaka mugitondo mu bwiherero cyangwa mu gikoni cy'umuntu wo hanze, umwana ashobora kugira ubwoba bwo mu mutwe. Ni ibicucu cyane kwiringira ko umwana azabyumva wenyine. Kubwibyo, umuntu wa mbere muziranye umwana hamwe na papa wawe muburyo bwiza bigomba kubaho mubutaka butabogamye, mu kirere cyaruhutse cyane.
Ati: "Ku nama ya mbere ya papa n'umwana, gutembera muri cafe cyangwa ikinamico, urugendo muri parike, picnic muri parike cyangwa urugendo muri hantu hantu hashobora kuba amahitamo meza. N'ubundi kandi, amarangamutima yahuye hamwe yegereye abantu cyane. Ni ngombwa kureba uko umwana abyitayeho, umuhe muganire kumwe n'umuryango wawe mu muryango wawe wenyine, menya uburyo bihuye, "psycholololololololololololololovniko yizera.
By the way, abahanga mu bya psychologue benshi bubahiriza ko amateraniro nk'izo agomba kuba afite nibura babiri - batatu. Kandi nyuma yibyo ushobora gutumira umugabo wogusura cyangwa kuyigenderaho. Byongeye kandi, muriki gihe, igihe cyo gusurwa kigomba kwiyongera buhoro buhoro kugeza igihe umwana amenyereye kunyerera.
Ati: "Bibaho ko kumenyera hamwe n'umuryango mushya umuryango urengana byoroshye kandi kubabara, mu zindi manza zose kugira ngo bikemure ibibazo byavutse mu buremere n'inshingano zose. Mubihe bigoye, nibyiza guhindukirira psychologue uzagufasha kandi umwana wawe yubaka umubano uhuza mumuryango. N'ubundi kandi, psychologiya - ubumenyi ku giti cye no kuri buri kintu cyihariye gikeneye gukora kuri gahunda, mu kigo gikomeye, kandi icy'ingenzi - hamwe. "