Turashaka gukemura byose. Ibitekerezo, ibisakuzo, imirimo y'imibare nibindi bibazo byingenzi byabantu. Iyo abantu baje iwacu bafite ikibazo, tugerageze kugerageza kubikemura. Iyo twe ubwacu duhuye nikibazo, dufite akarusho mugihe tubona ingingo zitandukanye kandi tukabona ibisubizo byoroshye kuruta umuntu ubibona. Noneho, iyo abandi baje iwacu kuvuga ikibazo, kuki bisa nkaho badashaka "Njyanama" yacu "?
Gerageza kwibuka mugihe uheruka kubabazwa kandi ushaka kubiganiraho. Urashaka ko umuntu agukemura ikibazo kugirango ubashe kubikora, cyangwa washakaga kuvuga igitekerezo cyawe ukumva ko ibitekerezo byawe byemejwe? Mubisanzwe, mugihe abandi batangiye kutubwira kubyerekeye ikibazo, barashaka kumureka ngo arumve ko ari ubuntu. Ntabwo twemera inama zabandi (nubwo batekereza gute), kuko dukunda kwirinda ibintu byose, cyane cyane iyo bigeze mubuzima bwacu. None, dukora iki mugihe bafashwe nikibazo? Iyi ngingo irerekana intambwe zoroshye zizafasha guhangana nibibazo abandi basabwa n'Inama Njyanama.
Kubaza ibibazo
Ingero ningirakamaro, reka rero dutangire na imwe. Inshuti yawe iraza kuri wewe ivuga ko atishimiye akazi ke kandi atazi icyo gukora. Niba warahawe inama, ushobora kuvuga ngo "Shakisha akazi gashya" cyangwa "ufite icyumweru kibi gusa, ukunda akazi kawe." Nubwo ibi byose bishoboka, ntitwigeze tumenya ibyo inshuti yacu atekereza cyangwa yumva. Iyo dufashwe nikibazo, ikintu cya mbere ugomba kubaza ibibazo. Menya impamvu bafite iki kibazo n'ibyo bumva. Niba twabajije ikibazo nk'iki nk "iki udakunda ku kazi kawe?" Turashobora kubona amakuru menshi kubyerekeye ikibazo. Bashobora kuvuga bati: "Nkunda ibyo nkora, ariko sinkunda amasaha yanjye y'akazi." Ikibazo cyabo ntabwo kiri mubikorwa ubwabyo, ariko mumasaha.
Kubaza ibibazo, ikibazo kirasobanutse
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Noneho ko dufite amakuru menshi, ntituri dushaka kubikemura ikibazo zabo. Turashobora gukomeza kubaza ibibazo kugirango tubafashe kuvuga kugeza babonye icyemezo cyabo. Gerageza kubaza ibibazo nka "Ni ubuhe buryo wifuza?". Ibikorwa byacu ntabwo ari ugukemura ikibazo cyabo, ariko turashobora kubafasha kubona ibisubizo basanzwe bafite, ubaze ibibazo gusa. Ntibashobora kubasha igisubizo cyabo muri ako kanya, ariko bazumva kandi baremezwa mugihe ubatayeho ubaza ibibazo.
Suzuma imico myiza
Indi nama (ntabwo) gutanga inama ni ukuvuga imico myiza yumuntu. Tuvuge ko inshuti yacu itugeraho kandi tuganira ku kibazo cyabo cyo kumenya niba bagomba gusaba kwiyongera ku kazi. Aho kuvugana nabo, baba bagomba kubikora nuburyo bwo kubikora, turashobora gutangira tubafasha icyizere kandi tukabemerera kubona inzira zabo zoroshye. Bu bumva ubwabo na shobuja / gukora neza kuturusha, kugirango bagire igisubizo cyiza kuri bo. Turashobora kwerekana imico myiza yabo, nka "nzi ko mukora cyane" cyangwa "mwamaranye igihe muri sosiyete kandi bisa n'umukandida mwiza wo kuzuza inshingano nshya." Turashobora kandi gukoresha ibyo bibazo hafi mbere, kurugero, ikibazo: "Ni ryari uheruka kurera umushahara?" Cyangwa "Ni mu buhe buryo soss yawe vuba aha?". Ibi bibazo bizabafasha gusobanukirwa uko ibintu bimeze no kutwohereza gufata ibyemezo.
Muganire kubisubizo bishoboka
Niba abantu batubwiye ikibazo, tugomba gutangira no gushiraho ibibazo byinshi tukavuga imico yabo myiza. Irabaha amahirwe yo kutubwira ibisubizo bishoboka. Ubu buryo burashobora kutubangamira kugirango tubaha igisubizo kinyuranyije nibyemezo bashaka. Tekereza inshuti yawe ikubwira ko afite ibibazo nuwo mwashakanye. Bavuga inkuru zerekeye uburyo nabi. Turashobora gutangira kubaha inama zuburyo bwo guca umubano cyangwa uburyo bashobora kugera kuri byinshi. Ariko tuvuge iki niba babuze kubona ibyo badashaka gutandukana? Tumaze kuvuga kubasiga, dushobora rwose kudusunikira inshuti, kuko ubu batekereza ko dufata nabi uwo bashakanye n'imibanire yabo. Nibyiza kubaza ibibazo nka "Urashaka gukora iki?". Kubabaza kubyerekeye amahitamo menshi, ubatera gutekereza kubisubizo bishoboka, kandi ntugushire mubihe bitoroheye aho wumva ukeneye kwerekana igitekerezo cyawe.
INKURU
Iyo abandi batubwiye ikibazo cyangwa ibihe barwanamo, akenshi tubabwira kubyerekeye imanza mugihe twarokotse ikintu gisa. Birashobora kuba inzira yingirakamaro yo gusobanura ibyo banyuramo, kandi ibafasha kutumva bafite irungu. Ariko, iki kandi nicyo gikorwa kitoroshye kuko hari umurongo unanutse hagati yo kubafasha no kuvuga ibyawe, kandi ntabwo ari ibyawe. Kugabana Inkuru hamwe numuntu, turashaka kwibaza tuti, Twaba dusangiye kugirango tubafashe kumva badakewe, cyangwa uhitamo gusangira inkuru yacu, kuko dushaka kumuvugaho. Twese dukeneye umwanya wo kubwira ibitekerezo byacu, kandi inkuru yabo irashobora kukubazanira ikintu ubu ushaka kuganira. Ariko, ubu ntabwo ari igihe. Tugomba kwemerera abandi kubona igitekerezo cyawe.
Vuga inkuru, ariko ntukare igitambaro wenyine
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Bahe gusobanukirwa ibyo ushaka ko bamenya ko atari bonyine. Ubabwire icyemezo wafashe mubihe kirimo, nuburyo cyaragufashije cyangwa cyaragushimishije, ariko ko iki cyemezo kiri kubwanyu, kandi bazakenera gushaka ibizaba. Menya neza ko utabaha kugirango wumve ko igisubizo cyawe gikwiriye kuri buri wese. Utanga ibitekerezo gusa.