Ariko bitinde bitebuke, umwana wigisha ubwigenge azakomeza kugira. Kubwibyo, birakenewe gukora amategeko ashizweho neza yimyitwarire yayo mbere, kuko umutekano wacyo no kwiyuhagira biterwa nabo.
Benshi batongana kubyerekeye imyaka ingahe basigaye murugo umwe. Subiza gusubiza iki kibazo ntibishoboka. Umuntu udafite ibibazo arashobora gusiga umwana wimyaka ibiri mugihe kirekire, kandi umuntu numwana wimyaka umunani ntashobora kugenda atabitayeho kumunota.
Abahanga mu by'imitekerereze y'abana bemeza ko igihe cyiza umwana ashobora gutangira gusiga imyaka itanu kugeza ku myaka itanu. Muri iki gihe, abana basanzwe bazi neza icyo "bidashoboka" kandi bazi impamvu. Byongeye kandi, kuri iki gihe, umwana aba ashoboye byimazeyo kandi byimazeyo kandi akumenya neza ibyo wamusobanuriye byose, usohoze amabwiriza yawe yose kandi ukoreshe terefone igendanwa. Ariko, birumvikana ko ko imyaka itanu ari intebe yintangarugero. Muri ibi bihe, byinshi biterwa nibiranga umuntu - uhereye kumiterere yabyo, ubuhanga, imiterere. Ababyeyi batekereje kandi bitonda barashobora kugena byoroshye "iki nikigihe". Ariko umwana uri munsi yimyaka itanu yasize inzu imwe ntagihagarara, nubwo yasaga nkubwito bwasaga - igitekerezo kirashobora kuba uburiganya, kandi umwana arumiwe mubihe bidasanzwe.
Kugirango tumenye urwego rwubwigenge bwumwana, rwanditse jlady.ru Abakinnyi b'imitekerereriro batanga ababyeyi mu kizamini cya psychologiya, aho igisubizo cyiza ari wongeyeho icumi ku ijana mu gushyigikira umwana:
1. Umwana arashobora gukina igihe kirekire kuruta amasaha abiri yikurikiranya atarangaye?
2. Umwana wawe ntagitinya imyanya ifunze kandi yijimye?
3. Umwana asobanukiwe nubusobanuro bwijambo "bidashoboka" ningaruka zishobora kuba?
4. Umwana wawe arashobora gukoresha telefone kandi azi kuguhamagara?
5. Umwana usanzwe afite inshingano ze kandi akabakorera byimazeyo?
6. Umwana yubahiriza gahunda runaka yumunsi wigenga?
7. Umwana azi igihe nuburyo bwo kwita abashinzwe kuzimya umuriro, ambulance na polisi?
8. Umwana arashobora gushaka ubufasha kubaturanyi?
9. Umwana asobanukiwe impamvu rimwe na rimwe agomba kuguma mu rugo wenyine?
10. Umwana ubwe abona icyifuzo, cyangwa byibuze ntizigaragambije?
Niba, mubitekerezo byawe, umwana yahanganye n'ifu, noneho ni ngombwa gutangira imyiteguro yo kuguma murugo wenyine.
Hano dukeneye buhoro buhoro. Ntukikore ubwacyo, utabasabye mbere. Kandi witegure kubayi mirimo izatwara igihe kinini. Ariko, ntukarakare - wibuke ko imyiteguro nini izaba iyambere gusa, kandi iyo umwana amenyereye kuguma murugo, azahinduka ikintu.
Icy'ingenzi kandi cyingenzi nuko ababyeyi bagomba kwitaho - uyu niwo mutekano wuzuye wamagati yabo. Kubwamahirwe, ababyeyi benshi bibeshye ko umwana wabo ari umuntu mukuru kubona akaga kose ashobora kumutera ubwoba, ntabwo rero azakora ku ibyuma, imikasi, imikino nibindi nkibyo.
Birumvikana ko ababyeyi bagomba gusobanuka rwose umwana kuruta umwe cyangwa undi ni akaga. Erekana umwana icyuma, imikasi cyangwa inshinge irashobora kubabaza - yibye umwana gato kuburyo yabiyumvamo. Erekana iyo gaze, imizigo no kutitora birashobora gutuma umuriro no gutwika, mbwira ko imiti n'imiti yo mu rugo bishobora gutera uburozi n'indwara. Byongeye kandi, urashobora kubona amashusho akwiye kuri enterineti, bizabera amashusho kumakuru yawe kubyerekeye akaga. Ariko videwo zikeneye gufata neza - ntabwo ari ngombwa gukomeretsa umuryango wihuta wa psyche yamaraso. Witondere kumenya neza ko umwana yakumva neza - reka avuga amagambo yawe yose n'ijwi rirenga, kandi nibyiza ntabwo ari kimwe cyangwa kabiri. Hanyuma hanyuma kubisubiramo buri gihe hamwe numwana wawe.
Ariko ibyo sibyo byose. Menya neza ko umwana wawe yize ibintu byose, akusanya ibintu byose bishobora kuba byibura akaga kamwe, kandi ubihishe. Gishya. Nkuko babivuga, Imana yaratorotse.
Byongeye kandi, kora urutonde rwibintu byose bishobora kwerekana akaga kumwana. N'ubundi kandi, ndetse n'ibisanzwe cyane, ureba mbere, isakori y'amashanyarazi irashobora gutera imashini ishushanya niba umwana atayifashe mu ntoki. Kubwibyo, kuyikuraho no kugura thermos, aho ushobora gusiga umwana amazi ashyushye yubushyuhe bwifuzwa.
Umwana wawe azashaka rwose kureba TV - Menya neza ko ari byiza, kandi inyoni ntizihinduka, kandi umwana wawe ntazazamuka aho. Byongeye kandi, ntuzigere usiga ibikoresho byose murugo. By the way, insinga n'amashanyarazi muri rusange: Mbere yuko usiga umwana umwe, ugomba kumenya neza ko bishoboka k'umuzunguruko mugufi ukuyemo.
Ntabwo yifuzwa nta gukurikizwa gukomeye gusiga umwana murugo umwe wijimye. Kubwamahirwe, guhagarika amashanyarazi nimugoroba - phenomenon birasanzwe. Kandi umwana hafi ya gato yagumye kuri iki gihe ni wenyine, arashobora kuba ubwoba bwinshi. N'ubundi kandi, ndetse numuntu mukuru mumasegonda yambere ntashobora kuba wenyine. Ariko, niba koko ufite impamvu zifatika zo gusiga umwana umwe, kumuha ubundi buryo bworoshye. Ntawabura, ntigomba kuba buji, ahubwo ni itara. Ariko, biracyateganijwe ko mu bihe nk'ibi, umwana ashobora kuba afite ubwoba kandi ugomba gusura imitekerereze ya psychologue, gerageza rero kutava ku mwana umwe nimugoroba, ndetse no kuryama, kuko we irashobora gukanguka.
Mugihe uteganya gusiga umwana umwe, uzane umwuga ushimishije rwose. Urashobora kumugurira disiki hamwe na karato, igihe kinini yashakaga kubona, amabara mashya hamwe namakaramu, puzzles. Wibande ku mwana wawe uburyohe! Icyangombwa nuko umwana aricyo gukora mugihe udahari, kuko niba yararambiwe, arashobora gutangira kwishakira. Kandi nta garanti y'ibyo, azabona ikintu gikwiye, kandi ntabwo ari igitambo cyangwa, kirushijeho kuba kibi, kibabaza, kibabaje, oya.
Kwitaho bidasanzwe bigomba kwishyurwa kuri terefone. Abaganga ba psychologue b'abana barasaba ababyeyi mbere yo kugenda mu guhagarika terefone yo mu rugo, no kugura urugendo rw'umwana. Basobanura inama zabo gusa - gusa urashobora guhamagara mobile yo guhamagara, hamwe na terefone yinyongera kuri terefone yumujyi, cyane cyane iyo umwana ari murugo wenyine, ntukeneye. Niba nta bishoboka ko bishoboka, ntuzigera umenyesha umwana umuntu uwo ari we wese kuri terefone ko nta bantu bakuru. Ubushishozi buzaba, niba asubije ko mama arahuze kandi ahamagara nyuma gato. Kandi ntiwibagirwe guhamagara umwana igihe cyose bishoboka. Ubwa mbere, gerageza guhamagara umwana mugihe cyose, ariko byibuze inshuro enye kumasaha. Mubwire ibyo ukora muriki gihe, mbwira ko wabuze kandi ugerageze gusubira murugo vuba bishoboka.
Gushiraho neza umwana atari ugukingura umuryango gusa, ahubwo umwegera. Mubwire ko abantu bose badafite urufunguzo rwabo bafite urufunguzo kandi bazashobora kugera murugo nta kibazo.
Kandi wibuke niba umwana atinya kuguma murugo wenyine, noneho ntabwo yiteguye. Nta mpamvu yo kwihuta! Tegereza gato!
Matyushhina Olga