Umutuba, Ubwumvikane, Guhagarara no guteza imbere ibintu bidahuye neza nimibanire yawe? Mubumwe hamwe numufatanyabikorwa cyangwa inshuti, urumva uhangayitse, wifuza gutsindishiriza, gusaba imbabazi, nyamuneka kandi ntukarakare? Twishimiye, uba urahohotewe n'imiterere y'ubumara, uwitwa uhohotera, cyangwa ku ngufu ku mugaragaro. Birumvikana ko biteye ubwoba, kandi ibi ni ukuri.
Iteraniro rinini ry'imyaka iherutse kuvugwa muri sosiyete yacu ryabaye intangiriro yo kumvikana, byasa nkaho ari ukuri: Ihohoterwa ntabwo buri gihe ari inkuru ijyanye n'ingaruka z'umubiri, imvugo ibikomere, kandi igitutu cya psychologiya kizahindura imico yacu. Aya ntabwo ari amagambo menshi, ariko intsinzi nyirizina, kuko kugeza nyuma yaho, ndetse bikaba bakubiswe na mugenzi wabo bafatwaga nk'ibimenyetso mu rukundo, bibuka byibuze amagambo: "Gukubita - bisobanura gukunda" na "Bay Babu Molota, hazabaho umugore ufite zahabu. " Niba ubujurire nk'ubwo bwamenyekanye nk'ibisanzwe kugeza ubu, icyo bwo kuvuga ibitutsi, agasuzuguro n'ihohoterwa mu marangamutima, bidasiga "ibimenyetso"? Yoo, ariko ubundi buryo bwo kugenzura no kugira ingaruka kumufatanyabikorwa ntibifatwa nkikintu giteye ubwoba. "Tekereza, antegure, ikintu cy'ingenzi nticyababara," "ahora agifuha kandi anshimisha, ariko ahora anenga, ariko birasobanutse, ndabyumva Ba beza "- Iki ni kimwe mu bihame bivuye ku bahitanywe n'abitwa abahohoteye (kuva mu Cyongereza -" Kujuririra ubugome "). Nihutira gutenguha: nta byiyumvo binini hano kandi ntibimpumunuka. None se kuki twibwira ukundi, ntitubona cyangwa twanga kumenya ko turi abahohotewe? Turabyumva!
1. Rushes
Niba umukunzi wawe, mugenzi wawe cyangwa umubyeyi cyane bituma atanga amakuru adashobora kwaguke hamwe nudukoko twagutse kuri aderesi yawe - kumenyesha! Iyi ishobora kuba umuhamagaro wa mbere.
2. Kugenzura
Icyifuzo cyo gukomeza ikiganza cyawe kuri pulse no guhora kiguhuza, ibikorwa byawe, ibisubizo, ingengo yimari nikimenyetso gisanzwe cya Aburazer. Ntukiteze: Ntabwo aribyitayeho, ariko hakenewe gusa kubabaza.
3. Ubukonje
Intonganya zawe zirashobora kumera neza Igitaliyani Cyiza, kandi zigabarirwa ishyari - rimwe na rimwe, ariko bitabaye ibyo, bidashoboka, nta impuhwe n'impuhwe n'impuhwe n'impuhwe n'impuhwe.
Ihohoterwa ntabwo buri gihe arinkuru ijyanye ningaruka kumubiri, ijambo ibikomere, hamwe nigitutu cya psychologiya kizahindura cyane umwirondoro wacu
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Ikinamico
Mbere ya byose, birakenewe kumva abo aribo, bamaze kwita abahohoteye. Ntabwo ari impfabusa yitwa uburozi - kuboneka kwa bagenzi nkabo mubuzima bwacu uburozi bubaho. Kandi ubanza, ingaruka nkizo ntizishobora kwiyongera, hanyuma urwego rwikinamico rwiyongera, kandi iyo usobanukiwe ko hari ikintu kidahuye na gahunda, kugirango uve mumiyoboro yashyizwe ahagaragara kandi igoye cyane.
Yoo, ariko abakora imashini nubugome bwo kurwanya ababo, ntabwo ari bike. Byongeye kandi, hafi mirongo cyenda ku ijana by'abashakanye bahura bamenye ko bumvaga bahohotewe mu bashakanye. Uwahohoteye arashobora kuba umuntu: inshuti yawe, umuturanyi, inshuti yegereye cyangwa umugabo we. Bigenda bite ko umuntu usanzwe ahinduka impyisi mu ruhu rwintama?
Abantu bakunda ihohoterwa mumarangamutima, hafi ijana ku ijana yigeze kurokoka. Birashoboka cyane, mubana, mugihe ababyeyi, aho kuba intandaro yumutekano, batangaza umutekano muke mu mbaraga zabo, kutizerana amahoro no guhora. Kuba umuntu mukuru, umuntu nkuwo ntashobora gutsinda neurose nubugari bwe, ubwoba nubugizi bwa nabi buzacukura, bashaka inzira. Mubisanzwe hariho bibiri - cyangwa gutwara, ni ukuvuga ibikorwa byangiza bigamije, cyangwa kwanga abandi, mubisanzwe abantu ba hafi. Kenshi na kenshi, abahohotewe n'ababyeyi bafite uburozi, abana bakuze, babahindura uburozi kuri bo.
Mu mibanire, abadayimoni barafunzwe amarangamutima, bakuweho, ntabwo biteguye kuvuga, kuza guhura. Ikigeragezo icyo ari cyo cyose cyo gushyikirana, bahagarika interuro iteye ishozi ("Ntungemeranya" - imwe mu byamenyekanye cyane). Basa naho batitaye kandi bikonje mugihe bigeze kumarangamutima mubihe bigoye. Biragoye kuri bo kwerekana impuhwe, gusa kuba hafi yo kumenya amakosa yabo. Kuri buri kimwe, bafite impamvu zifatika, nubutumwa bwabo ubwo aribwo bwose bizasobanura byanze bikunze byoroshye. Icyaha n'icyaha ntibizaba - usibye mu magambo.
Uburyo bwose ni bwiza
Nigute uburozi bugaragazwa mubijyanye nabandi? Wibuke, birashoboka mubidukikije harimo umuntu umuntu utari - Oya yego kandi yita Umutego wamarangamutima. Nyuma yo kumuvugisha, niyomara, uzagena uko, ushikamye, ishyaka n'imyitwarire myiza irashira, kumva gushidikanya mu gihugu cyawe kiragaragara. Birumvikana, oya "vampirism" hano kandi ntabwo inuka - imbere yacu ni "bikoresho", bamwe ", bamwe mu buryo budasanzwe bazi neza ko bahangayikishijwe no gushidikanya. Ariko, biragereranya kwita umugabo nkuyu hamwe numuvuduko wamaraso.
Abahurs bafite ibimenyetso byabo byo kwakirwa nubuhanga bukwemerera kukuyobora. Ibintu byose byubakiye kuriga kwangiza kwihesha agaciro no gutesha agaciro imbaraga zawe. Kandi hano urashobora guhita ukora umwanzuro wumvikana: Umuntu ufite agaciro keza, uhagaze neza kumaguru, kumenya neza amaguru n'amahame yose, ni gake biba igitambo cyimitekerereze. Gusa humva mu cyerekezo cyawe imyumvire ya manipulative, ihagarika ibikorwa nkibi kumuzi. Yoo, ariko ubuzima bwiza bwumutwe hafi yumutwe hafi ya rimwe na rimwe bibaho, kuko twese tumeze muburyo bwo kubaho ibyago kubwihohoterwa mumarangamutima.
Rero, duhindukirira ibikorwa byihariye imyitozo yubuhinzi. Biragoye cyane gutegereza guhimbaza - byombi byemewe kandi byukuri. Urashobora kuzunguza imisozi, ube nyampinga wa Olempike kandi ufite umwanya wo gutegura ifunguro ryiza, ariko ihohoterwa ridanyuzwe naho ritanyuzwe ntirizatwara - kandi ibi nibyiza. Mubisanzwe ibyo wagezeho, intsinzi n'ibikorwa byashingwamo, guhitamo umwuga birangwa, kandi ibikorwa biranengwa muri fluff n'umukungugu. "Yego, ubu ufata abantu, urashaka gukomeza gusabana" - igice gusa cyo gufata ku ngufu.
Kugenzura nintego nyamukuru ya abuzer
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Usebanya ingingo zawe ku ngingo iyo ari yo yose, ibitekerezo byawe n'imanza. Byongeye kandi, kubabazwa gusa biraguseka gusa (bivugwa neza, mu gisekeje, ariko gifite inyungu zihamye kandi zirengagije ibyifuzo byo guhagarika kubikora). Niba ubabaye, uzahita ubona ibihembo byubumva nabi no kubyakira cyane. Nk'uko ku muntu wuburozi, ntashobora kwibeshya, nuko uri mubi. By the way, niba ugerageza gusetsa hamwe, uzabona uburakari no gusuzugura. Turasezeranye: Gutongana no kugarura icyubahiro cyababaje kiragutangwa.
Niba ibyo wagezeho byirengagije, amakosa nyayo azemerwa nabo kandi azaba umugani mubantu. Nta kantu kazabura nuwahohoteye hestream - byose bizakizwa mubisobanuro byose natunganijwe.
Ibi byose birasekeje, gusetsa, agasuzuguro, kwirengagiza no kwirengagiza ku buryo buhoraho - bitinde bitebuke bizakubahiriza ko kwihesha agaciro bizatangira kugwa vuba. Igihe kimwe, uzahagarika byimazeyo kwizera ko, gukora ku mirimo itatu, gukorana mu rugo n'inzu, kwiyubakira mu buryo no kugerageza kubana na "tox" bitari ngombwa. Ati: "Nta kintu na kimwe cyo kwishimira, abantu bose bahanganye n'iki ..." - Ubutumwa bw'ingenzi bw'umufata w'ingufu, abifashijwemo atangiye kukugenzura neza n'ubuzima bwawe.
Muburyo, kugenzura nintego nyamukuru ya Aburazer. Umugabo ufite icyubahiro cyatewe cyane kandi byoroshye, kuko nyuma yavuzwe haruguru, gufata kungufu mumarangamutima "birimo" Abambuzi baremereye. Kurugero, umufatanyabikorwa arashobora gutangira kugenzura amafaranga yawe yakoreshejwe, anenga amahitamo yawe cyangwa ibicuruzwa, urebye ko wemerera byinshi kugirango wemere (gusoma "bidakwiye iyi"). Ibyemezo byafashwe utaratanga ubumenyi no kwemerwa bizaterwa no kubangamira, kandi uzahamwa no kuba umwere mubururu. Ugomba rero guhuza mugenzi wawe murugendo muri cinema, muri cafe hamwe nabakobwa bakundana, ndetse no mububiko. Umuntu wese mubikorwa byawe byigenga arashobora gufatwa nkigikorwa cyo kutumvira - kandi kizaba impamvu yo kugutera amakosa. Muri rusange, kumanika ibirango, imikino yimikino hamwe no kugerageza kugushiramo icyaha cyo guhora - ibimenyetso byiza cyane bihumura byoroshye kubimenya. Ikindi kintu kiranga ni ibidashobora cyangwa kwanga gusaba imbabazi. Nta na rimwe. Nta bihe Ibidasanzwe: Iyo umuzimari akumva ko uva mubuhogiyo bwayo.
Mu magambo amwe, ndashaka kuvuga tekinike ya kera ikoreshwa mu buryarya, yiswe gare. Ijambo ryaje muri psychologiya kuva muri cinema: Muri Finey "urumuri rwa Fin" rwo mu 1945, ni mwiza, nk'umugabo, gufata ku muvuduko w'amarangamutima, guhatira umugore we, guhatira kumva ko ari umusazi. Mubyukuri, ibi bigizwe numunyu wubuhanga. Umufatanyabikorwa ukaze ahakana ibyiyumvo byawe nubunararibonye, umpatira gushidikanya ukuri kwabo. Murasarinye nawe ", mwese murasa nkaho atari ko!", "Nanjye, nawe ...", urabeshya "," urumva cyane " , "Ukunda gukabya", "Yego, nta kintu kidasanzwe cyabaye" - niba wumva iyi nama cyangwa isa n'umuntu wo mubo ukunda, witondere, hariho impamvu yo gutekereza ko bagukoresha. Kubara cyane ni kimwe mu bitagaragara, ariko tekinike mbi muri Arsenal ya Aburazer. Niba uhora ushidikanya kubikorwa byawe n'amagambo yawe, utinya gufata ibyemezo, ugaragaze amarangamutima, uhora usaba imbabazi, biragaragara ko ubuhanga bubahwa.
Kumenyekana - Intambwe igana gukira
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Hariho gusohoka
Nigute ushobora kuba niba wasanze hagati yubucuti bwuburozi? Ntibyoroshye guca ubumwe bwuburozi, kuko igitambo gikenewe rwose kubabajije. Ntamuntu ugiye kukureka ngo ujye mwisi, kandi hano hari inzira ebyiri.
Niba wumva ko umunyamuryango wa ahohotsiko hakiri kare uru rubanza kandi uracyafite imbaraga zo mumutwe no kwizera wenyine, urashobora kugerageza kurangiza iyi mibanire. Witegure ku gihaha, ishyari, ishyari rifite ishyaka, amasezerano y'urukundo ku isanduku, kugerageza gukina mu kumva ko ari icyaha n'imbabazi. Amarangamutima yamarangamutima yumva igiciro cyumugereka kandi rwose azakoresha ubu bumenyi kukurwanya.
Iyaba si imbaraga, nta mwanya wo kuzuza umubano na gushidikanya, kurugero, umufatanyabikorwa wuburozi numubyeyi wawe cyangwa umwana wawe, ugomba gukora intambwe nyinshi. Fata itegeko rimwe mu cyumweru kugirango ugire icyo ukorera ikintu cyanjye, udashyize umufatanyabikorwa kandi ntukemere icyemezo cye. Ntukajye kuri tox yababaje, ibuka inyungu zawe nicyifuzo cyawe. Menya ko ntamuntu uzababazwa nibyo utangaza kubyerekeye ibyifuzo byawe n'umupaka wawe.
By the way, kubyerekeye imbibi - kwiyibutsa ubwabo. Sobanukirwa ko bitemewe nawe ko utaza kwihanganira ko ukeneye guhagarara nonaha. Huza aya makuru kubanga hamwe namakuru yerekeye ingaruka zo guhuza imipaka yawe no kurenga ku mategeko. Witondere inkunga inkunga inshuti zishobora kugira, hamwe nitsinda ryabafasha mumitekerereze. Ni ngombwa kuri wewe kumenya ko ukunda kandi ushima.
Ntugerageze guhindura uwahohoteye. Ibyo ushobora gukora byose ntabwo ari ugugwa muri manipulation no kumwereka ikindi cyitegererezo cyumibanire. Ariko kugaburira ibyiringiro byo gukiza uwagabye igihano bidakwiye - ubu ni ubuzima bwe, kandi ntabwo ari wowe nyirabayazana.
Kandi icy'ingenzi: Ku mizi yakatiye ibyiyumvo mbere yuwakoze icyaha. Ntampamvu yo guhohoterwa mu cyerekezo cyawe birashobora kuba bifite ishingiro. Abazize kungufu mumarangamutima bemeza ibyo bakwiriye. Ninde wakubwira, birakwiye kwibuka ko uri umuntu wihariye ufite ubuzima bunini.
Niba uwahohoteye ariwowe ...
Kumenyekana - intambwe igana gukira. Abantu bashishikajwe n'urugomo rw'imitekerereze ntabwo ari ibisimba, ntabwo ari ibisimba, ndetse no mu mutwe bigira ingaruka ku mitekerereze, abahohotewe, ubugome kandi ntibakunda. Fata kandi ibiranga, gerageza kwibuka igihe nuburyo inzira yawe yatangiye amarangamutima.
Ni ngombwa cyane gutangira gusesengura ibikorwa byawe, kugerageza kumva igitera imbaga, ni ukuvuga imbarutso ihohoterwa mumarangamutima. IBAZE IBIBAZO: Bizagenda bite mugihe utasakuza / gutukana / ionize / uhaguruke muri pose yarababaje? Imyitwarire yumvikana nurufunguzo rwo gutsinda.
Ugomba kumva abahohotewe nta "ariko" gutsindishirizwa no gusobanura umubano. Igikorwa cyawe nuguhagarara mu mwanya wumuntu warwaye ubugome bwawe, kandi ugerageze kumva aha hantu. Kandi: Witondere gusaba imbabazi abo mwababaje, kimwe nawe. Kandi mumbabarire!