Abana bafite imyaka 2 kugeza kuri 6 bakoresheje kurira kubwimpamvu zitandukanye, ariko akenshi muri ubu buryo bakorera ababyeyi ububabare, uburwayi cyangwa kutanyurwa. Ariko amarira y'abana ntabwo ari ikimenyetso cy'abana, ahubwo ni uburyo bwo kuyobora ababyeyi, kwerekana ibitekerezo byabo, kwerekana imico cyangwa kwerekana gusa amarangamutima, kwandika amarangamutima,.
Ariko, rimwe na rimwe ibitero by'abana birakomeye ku buryo bamenyekanisha ababyeyi kugereranya kandi ntibashobora gusa gutuza umwana wabo. Niki gukora mubihe nkibi? Nigute ushobora guhangana nibi bihe? Reka tugerageze ku ngero kugirango twumve iki kibazo kandi dutezimbere inzira nyinshi zo gutuza umwana.
Rero, ibyo ukeneye, kandi ko ntakibazo gishobora gukorwa muri hysterics yabana.
Niba umwana yararwaye ... mubisanzwe, kurira birashobora kuba ikimenyetso kirwaye. Niba umwana ahangayikishijwe n'amenyo, amatwi, umutwe cyangwa igitambaro, afite icyizere azakubwira inkomoko y'ububabare. Niki muriki gihe cyafasha umwana? Mbere ya byose, ugomba gukuraho impamvu zimpungenge ze. Nubwo waba utumva neza ibisebe byose byibisebe byose, biracyafite neza kwita umuganga, kandi mbere yuko agera ku ngabo zose kugira ngo yorohereze imiterere y'intoki - gutanga antipykic, kuzamuka no guhobera umwana, Mumuze.
Mubisanzwe ibimenyetso bibabaza bigaragarira kubimenyetso byose - guhindura imyitwarire, ubushyuhe cyangwa isesemi, impiswi, kuruka. Ariko niba nta bimenyetso byo hanze, ntugomba kwirengagiza ibirego by'umwana no gutekereza ko agereranya. Mubisanzwe, abana bafite ibihe by'amashuri abanza ntibabikora. Gerageza rero kuvura ubuzima bwawe kubibazo byose.
Niba umwana yaraguye, akubita, arakomereka ... Umwana arashobora gutaka kubera ububabare, inzika cyangwa ubwoba, kandi ni ngombwa ko ubasha kumufasha neza, kumwizeza no gushyigikira no gushyigikira. Hariho tekiniki zidasanzwe zo mumitekerereze, abana b'uburezi kugirango bahangane n'amarangamutima kandi bahita batuza iyo arira. Ubu buhanga buratandukanye nuburyo busanzwe bwo kwizeza, ariko barabafasha cyane.
Noneho reka dutekereze kubyo udakeneye gukora. Mbere ya byose, ntugomba kuvugana numwana mugihe arira, ndetse birenze - kugirango ucyaha cyangwa kubimenyesha. Ntugomba kumubwira ngo "Genda, nzakwicuza," Kandi nzihindura cyangwa gushushanya "umukene, gake, umutobe ucecetse. Ubwa mbere, bizaha umwana kumva umutekano no kwizerwa kwawe. Icya kabiri, reka uhangane n'ibyishimo n'amarangamutima. Ntugomba kugeza kumwana wibyishimo bye kurwego rwumubiri no kwitondera, ugomba kumuha amahoro yo mumutima n'imbaraga. Uku guhobera gutuma bishoboka gusobanukirwa nikibazo nubwonko kandi ntiturenze kumakuru.
Ntukavuge ibikomere, uhite ugerageza kumufasha - niba aribyo, birumvikana ko atari amaraso akomeye cyangwa kuvunika. Hamwe na chision isanzwe cyangwa abrasion, ni ngombwa cyane gufasha umwana psychologique.
Ntugomba gukubitwa ibikinisho cyangwa bombo, urutare nkumwana. Imyitwarire nkiyi mumuha impamvu yo gukoresha ibintu no kwinjira muri hysterics. Ubutaha umwana aragwa, kandi ntuzamukubita ubwoba, ntuzatangira kunyunyuza ntukagire, ntashobora kwishyura na gato, ahubwo azabyihanganira kugwa kwe. Azahaguruka, agutwika akaza aho uri.
Mbere ya byose, guhobera umwana, ukamuhatira cyane kandi unaniwe kuva aho kugwa cyangwa ibyabaye. Reka yumve umubiri wose. Tangira neza kandi uhumeke cyane, tekereza ku icumi kugeza ku muvuduko gahoro. Uzabona uburyo umwuka wumwana nuburyo uhuza neza kandi ugarura neza. Mu bana, bibaho utabishaka kandi muburyo bworoshye - kugirango uhuze umwuka munsi yumwuka wumuntu mukuru. Urashobora kandi guherekeza umwuka ufite imirasire yoroheje, inkoni, patriting - mu ijambo, gukoresha uruhu urwo arirwo rwose. Ariko ibyo bikorwa byose bigomba kuba umucyo kandi utabivuze, kugirango tutarangaza umwana kumenya uko ibintu bimeze. Ntugerageze guhita guhagarika kurira - abana, kimwe n'abantu bakuru, rimwe na rimwe ugomba gusa gutanga amarangamutima amarira. Urashobora gukaraba byoroshye cyangwa kuririmba indirimbo nta magambo, bifasha kandi gutuza no kugarura guhumeka. Kandi nyuma yuko umwana atangiye guhumeka neza kandi agahagarika ibitekerezo, birashoboka gusenya ibintu nta marangamutima: kureba aho n'ibyabaye, vuga inkuru yo kugwa kwe, no gusuzuma no gusuzuma. Urugero, "wagenze, hasi uryame igikinisho, watsitaye ku gikinisho aragwa."
Mu ndunduro y'inkuru, umwana, wenda, azagerageza kongera kubabaza, ariko ubu ni uburenganzira bwe - agomba kubaho no gusobanukirwa no guhangana no gutaka no gutuza vuba.
Ibyibatsi by'abana nibitero byo kurira no kurakara no kurakara bituruka kubibazo byamarangamutima. Ubu ni inzira yo gukoresha abantu kavukire iterwa n'uburakari, kurakara, igitero cyangwa kwiheba. Iyi irarira ninde utoroshye gutuza ababyeyi, nkimvune n'imvura bibagirwa vuba, kandi kubwimpamvu za hysteria, umwana yibanze neza. Kubwibyo, ntabwo ari ngombwa mu nkuru itanga ibihe cyangwa imyitwarire yo gusuzuma umwana no guca imanza. Ntugomba kumubwira uko byagenze "ibi ni ukubera ko wajugunye ibikinisho", "ibi ni ukubera ko watinyaga", nibindi.
Muri ibi bihe, nta saha idahwema, muri buri gihugu birakenewe kugirango tubone inzira yabo. Ariko hariho inzira nyinshi zo gutsinda mubarezi nababyeyi benshi. Hamwe na hysteries ahantu hose, amaduka, kurubuga cyangwa amazu afashwa nubuhanga bukurikira:
• Fata umwana witondere ikirere, werekane hano "indege", igicu cyangwa ikintu kidasanzwe, byifuzwa kugerageza gukurura abandi bantu bakuru (mubisanzwe bakina). Bizagufasha byoroshye kurangaza umwana ikintu cya systerical. Kuba abantu bakuru, kandi hamwe hamwe, bishimishije cyane amatsiko no guhagarara hafi.
• Tangira gushakisha terefone cyangwa ibimenyetso biva muri mashini, wiyitirire ko baririmba. Menyesha umwana ukeneye gusubiza byihutirwa, uzimye, wiruke urebe imodoka, nibindi. Nabwiwe kuri terefone, ngaho kugutegereza ... " Ibikurikira - Wibande ku bihe.
• Kora igitekerezo ko kurira kurushanwa kuruta umwana, kandi birakubabaza. Mubisanzwe, abana bihutira gutuza ababyeyi, bibagirwa ibibazo byabo.
• Cyangwa, kubinyuranye, tangira kunama, gukubita uruhinja, kubaka amasura, kora ubuswa, muri rusange, muburyo ubwo aribwo bwose, gerageza guhindura hysteria yawe. Akenshi iyi tekinike ifasha papa, kuko bafite isura kandi isetsa nyina mwiza.
Kandi burigihe bifasha kuvugana numwana numuntu mukuru, amusobanurira uko bimeze. Ni ngombwa gukubita no kuzamuka umwana - abahisi cyane bakomoka kubura ikibazo no kwitabwaho, abana babimenyerewe, abana babukoresha nk'uburyo bwo gukurura mama na papa.
Matyushhina Olga