Benshi muribo bakunda kureba firime ziteye ubwoba. Benshi kandi abirinda "amahano", ntabwo bahinda umushyitsi muri Alley wijimye cyangwa hamwe nuruzitiro rutunguranye.
Ariko twese tutarinze ni inzozi mbi. Mubisanzwe abantu bakanguke mubyuka bikonje, bafite umutima ukomeye kandi mu mahano menshi.
Buhoro buhoro ubwenge, kandi twituje ko ari inzozi mbi gusa ko ari ngombwa kubwira umuntu vuba bishoboka.
Reka tugerageze kumenya icyo inzozi zijoro zerekanwa kurugero nyarwo.
Imwe mumoko akunze kwirava ninzozi, aho "muruhare nyamukuru" abavandimwe bacu basize nabakunzi. Ahari, mu nzozi, inama nayo ntabwo yari iteye ubwoba, ariko nyuma yo kubyuka ibitekerezo bizunguruka: "Baje kubwanjye ..."
Igihe cyose birakwiye kwibutsa ko amashusho yose adafite ibintu bidasanzwe mu nzozi ni amashyaka yimiterere yacu. Ndetse nabantu badafite umubano warangiye. Bumwe muburyo bwingirakamaro bwo gusesengura ibitotsi hamwe nabantu batandukanye batakiri mubuzima bwacu kubwimpamvu imwe cyangwa ubundi, ni ukugenzura imanza zitazimangiki zitaranzwe nabandi bantu.
Muri Gestalt psychologiya (bumwe mu buryo bufatika bwo gukorana n'abantu) hariho igitekerezo nk'iki "ubucuruzi butarangiye." Ibi bivuze ko hariho ibyiyumvo bimwe, amabanga cyangwa uburambe, byakomeje kuba bitarimo aba bantu. Cyangwa abo bantu ubwabo ntibadusobanuriye ikintu twashakaga: amagambo y'urukundo, kumenyekana cyangwa ubwuzu.
Birakwiye gutekereza kubyo ibyifuzo cyangwa amabanga byakomeje kuba ibanga muri iyi mibanire, ni ibihe byiyumvo bijyanye na buri wese bidashobora kwerekana.
Ihitamo rya kabiri ryinzozi za kera ni nziza, ibisimba biteye ubwoba cyangwa andi mashusho ateye ubwoba mu nzozi.
Ntabwo basobanuwe muburyo ubwo aribwo bwose hamwe na logique, hamwe nubuzima bwa buri munsi ntibuhujwe bike.
Amashusho nkaya atwemerera kuba mubi kandi atwikiriye guhangayikishwa nihungabana nyaryo. Nongeye gusubiramo ko ibitotsi bidufasha guhangana n'amarangamutima aho bitugoye kwihanganira ubuzima busanzwe, "umunsi" usanzwe.
Uko twibutse gutinya ikintu, gutinya no kugerageza gusa nkaho bishaje, byiringiro, bikomeye, niko guhangayika no gutinya birasa.
Urashobora gutinya - birasanzwe kandi byoroshye. Iyo tubyemereye guhangayikishwa ubwoba, dushobora kurushaho kwihagararaho mubuzima busanzwe kandi tugabanya umubare winzozi zinzozi zijoro. Kandi - mugihe abacu baracyariho - ntutinye kuvugana nabo kenshi kubyerekeye urukundo n'ubwuzu bwabo, ndetse no kukwitaho no gukunda.
Warose ibitotsi, kandi urashaka Maria kubifunga kurubuga rwacu? Noneho ohereza ibibazo byawe ukoresheje mail [email protected].
Maria Zebekova, umuganga wa psychologue, umuvuzi wumuryango, amahugurwa yambere yiterambere ryumuntu wubucuruzi Marka Hazin.