Kuva ku basomyi basomyi Umugore:
"Mwaramutse Maria!
Ikibazo cyanjye ni ugutaka kandi bidafite akamaro, birashoboka. Umubano wanjye wagiye ku mpera zapfuye, reka mpanga, kandi, nkuko ntekereza ko umusore wanjye. Mbere, ibintu byose ntabwo byari ... twaragendeye nimugoroba, tujya muri firime, twari dufite igitsina gihoraho. Twakundaga cyane ko ntamuntu wari ukeneye kuri twe. Noneho birasa nkaho urukundo rwarashize. Nta bisobanuro bimurikira mumaso, nta byishimo bivuye muri buri nama ... Imyaka 3 yo kubana yishe urukundo rwose. Birasa nkaho kavukire kuri mugenzi wawe, kubana turi beza, kandi urukundo rusa nkaho. Kandi rero ndabishaka, kuko kubwibyo tubaho kwisi. Niki wagira inama niba ukomeza umubano?
Svetlana, ufite imyaka 29.
Mwaramutse Svetlana!
Ikibazo cyawe ntabwo kiri mubibase byose, ariko bifite akamaro cyane. Cyane cyane muri iki gihe - mu mpeshyi ... cyane cyane ku myaka yawe iyo umugore yuzuye imbaraga nimbaraga.
Yareba mu buryo butaziguye ibitekerezo bigezweho kubyerekeye umubano mwiza wurukundo. N'abagabo n'abagore barota koga mu nyanja yibyiyumvo kugirango ishyaka ritemerwa kuburyo romance yamaze ubuziraherezo ... muriyo, twumva rwose. Uku kwerekana ni umugani wogosha uturutse hanze ufashijwe nubuvanganzo na sinema. Muri psychologiya igezweho, ndetse nibintu byasobanuwe bidasanzwe by "urukundo rwurukundo" ni urutonde rwose, ibitekerezo n'ibiteganijwe mumibanire. Ari mu kuba, gukundana, dutangira kwizera ko tuzabona intego yanyuma yubuzima mubintu byurukundo rwacu. Dufite ibintu bitandukanye bikomeye kandi byiza, tubikesheje ubuzima bufite agaciro. Kandi utabishaka dutegereje ko mugenzi wawe azashyigikira ubukana bumwe bwibyiyumvo no kwishima. Ariko ibi ntibibaho. Ntibishoboka kubaho ubuzima bwanjye bwose, uhora uhura niterambere ryinshi n'amarangamutima. Ntibishoboka ndetse no kumubiri! Kandi igisasu cyose nuko twirukana urukundo, kubitekerezo byiza, kandi ntabwo ari umubano.
Abantu bakunda kwizera ko urukundo rwurukundo ari rwiza, kandi umubano usigaye ntabwo ufite agaciro. Mubyukuri, ni inka, kuko bisaba ibimenyetso bihoraho byerekana ko umunsi umwe uretse kwakira. Kandi igihe ibibi byacu bihindura, twumva tutishimye kandi dufite irungu. Amarangamutima afite umwanda kandi birasa natwe ko urukundo rwarashize, kandi ubuzima burarangira.
Ntabwo aribyo rwose! Ntutinye ukuri! Ntabwo iherezo ryumubano, ahubwo ni intangiriro yabashya. Komeza gushyikirane byinshi, teganya intego zihuriweho hanyuma ufungure abandi wakoze hamwe nuwatoranijwe. Reba hamwe n'amaso afunguye, kandi ntabwo ahindura ibyiyumvo byabasazi. Urukundo nyarwo ntisaba ibimenyetso bihoraho. Noneho uzarebe niba uyu ari umugabo wawe, uzaba mwiza hamwe kandi utaziritse mumaso. Mugusoza, "Byoroheye" bimaze kuba bike wongeyeho ...
Noneho, niba umubano waretse guhungabanya amaraso, niba amaherezo uryamye nijoro ugahagarika gutekereza ku mukundwa buri munota, ntugomba gukora uhereye kuriyi myanzuro ikomeye. Kandi ntuterera ushakishe igikomangoma gishya;)
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