Ni ubuhe bucuti bw'ikibazo mu muryango? Ni iki bagaragayemo?
IMIKORANIRE MU MURYANGO Z'UMURYANGO NYUMA YO GUKORA UMUNYANGO WIZA CYANGWA UTATURAGEZE KUBA MBERE, batangira kubanza kubana, kandi igihe kigeze utangira kuntera, kandi igihe kigeze, abafatanyabikorwa bombi ntibakora Na gato hamwe n'abashakanye ntibagiteguwe utegereze cyangwa utange intego zawe ku ntego z'undi. Kurugero, umugore afite igihe kinini ashaka umwana kandi ntagitegurira gutegereza kugeza igihe umugabo yinjije amafaranga ku nzu, nubwo nawe ashaka kubyara, ariko nyuma. Ntagitegereje kugeza igihe umugabo ageze kuntego, kandi na we ahitamo kubyara umwana. Cyangwa urundi rugero, umugore afite igihe kinini ababyeyi be bimukira gutura mu rugo rwabo rusanzwe hamwe n'umugabo we, kandi umugabo we ntabwo yiteguye ibi, nubwo atavuga ibyerekeye.
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Ni ibihe bintu byo mu Burusiya bwa none akenshi bitera ikibazo cyumubano wumuryango?
Ibintu ahanini birasa na mbere. Abantu bameze nkabantu, gusa barabahujije ikibazo cyibibazo - ikibazo cyo kubura umwanya mumiryango yumuryango, impamvu zitera ibibazo byumuryango, cyane cyane iyo bibaye kubana. Ibindi bintu bisanzwe ni urutonde rwa mpandeshatu na polygons kandi, birumvikana, umubano wabafatanyabikorwa nababyeyi babo.
Ikibazo cyumuryango - Kwiheba n'icyizere n'iherezo ry'ingoro cyangwa hari ibyiringiro by'agakiza ka "selile ya sosiyete"?
Ikibazo cyumuryango ntabwo aricyo gihe cyigeragezwa gusa, ariko nanone amahirwe menshi yo guhinduka neza. Mumyaka irenga 20, wikendi imwe buri kwezi ndimo kuyoboraga ikibazo cyiminsi itatu "kubwurukundo", aho turi kumwe nabakiriya banjye bashaka inzira mubibazo bitandukanye byumuryango. Muri kiriya gihe, abakiriya barenga 5.000 ntibigeze bahanganye gusa n'ibibazo by'umuryango wabo, ahubwo byavumbuwe rwose kandi byaragaragaye ko umubano mushya mu mibanire y'umuryango, utarongereye. Ariko paradox ibinyoma mubyukuri ko kurwego rushya rwumubano habaho ibibazo bitandukanye rwose, ariko birakemuka.
Biroroshye kwerekana umubano uhuza mumuryango? Ibyo bisaba iki?
Umubano wumuryango ni umurimo wa buri munsi wabagize umuryango bose: abashakanye, abafatanyabikorwa, ababyeyi. Mbere ya byose, mubibazo byose, ugomba kuvuga kubibazo, kandi niba ucecetse, ibintu byose birakabije. Nibyo, ibikoresho birakenewe kugirango ikibazo kibeho, kandi niba atari byo, ugomba rero kubashakisha. Niba hari ugufunga (ikibazo), noneho igihome gihora gifite urufunguzo (igisubizo). Nkuko nta gufunga bidafite urufunguzo, ntakibazo nta gisubizo.
Ese amahugurwa afasha, imikino yo gukorana na "ibibazo"? Ni ubuhe buryo bwerekanye imikorere ikomeye?
Amahugurwa yerekanaga imikorere yabo nto mugukorana nibibazo byabashakanye. Niba abo bashakanye bakoranye ukundi, noneho ibi nibibi, biganisha ku rwego rwo kwiyongera kubibazo, kandi akenshi no guturika mumibanire. Niba umwe mubashakanye akora ku gisubizo, undi ntabwo, noneho bikaba byinshi. Icyemezo kiganisha ku kuvura corapy, ubwo abashakanye bombi (umufatanyabikorwa) baza kuvuka, kumva neza bavuga ibyiyumvo byabo, ibitekerezo, intego, kubuza, hamwe bashaka umutungo, gufashanya. Uburyo bwihuse kandi bunoze ni uburyo bwa sisitemu ya sisitemu, hashingiweho kubakiriya, uburyo bwo gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina.
Kuki mugihe cyo kwangirika umubano mumuryango nibyiza guhita hamagara psychologue? Ni iki ushobora kwifuza imiryango aho "atari byose"?
Mugihe habaye ikibazo mumuryango, itumanaho risanzwe rirasenyuka kandi akenshi risubiramo amagambo mabi ya kahise no kuba muri iki gihe bidashoboka kubibona no kubivamo, numunywamyi ubona Umubano muri couple kuruhande no kugumana uburyo bwo kutabogama vuba aha intandaro yikibazo. Hariho ijambo rizwi rizwi riti: "Mu jisho ry'undi, nabonye ubwoko, kandi mu kiti cyanjye ntibubona." Kuba mubibazo tutabona igiti cyane, kigaragara neza ku mwuga uhura nazo. Kandi imiryango murikibazo irashobora kwifuza gutangira kumva, tangira kuva muminota 20 kumunsi. Iminota 10 yambere ivuga umufatanyabikorwa umwe, undi aramwumva gusa, noneho bitandukanye. Amahirwe kuriwe!