Rimwe na rimwe mu nzozi tubona umuntu udafite isano mubyukuri. Ntabwo ari mwene wabo, ntabwo ari inshuti, nta nubwo umuntu ufite agaciro kandi ko ari ngombwa.
Mu nzozi hari amashusho yibyahise, ubwana, urubyiruko.
Amarangamutima yimiterere yubuzima ashobora kwifatanya nabo icyarimwe, ariko, ibirenze imyaka, ntacyo bivuze kuri twe.
Ariko, gusinzira hifashishijwe aya mashusho bituganisha ku burebure bushya bwo kubyumva kandi bibera mubuzima bwibyabaye.
Reka dusinzire umwe mubasomyi:
Ati: "Nahise mvuga cyane urukundo rwanjye rwa mbere, umugabo. Yaje iwacu (kuri njye n'umuryango wanjye) murugo unaniwe. Iburyo muri jeans, inkweto zaguye ku buriri. Nhagaze mu rujijo. Mumbabarire ye, ndashaka gufasha ... Ndatekereza: "Umugabo azabyifatamo ate aramutse abonye ishusho nkiyi?". Ntakintu cyashushanyijeho mu nzozi zumuntu wibagiwe. Twahuye igihe nari umukobwa wishuri, ngiye kubona hashize imyaka 8. Ihute bwa mbere nishusho yuyu mugabo - Urubyiruko, urukundo, kuba umwere. "
Urebye mbere - gusinzira biroroshye kandi byumvikana. Hariho intwari, hariho urukundo rwe rwambere, kandi hari ikibi kuri we.
Ariko reka tugerageze gusobanura ibitotsi muri ubu buryo: aho kuvuga umuntu runaka, tuzashyiramo ayo mashyirahamwe aho Dovyditsa abivuga.
Narose urukundo rwanjye rwa mbere - Urubyiruko, kuba umwere. Yaje aho ndi n'umuryango wanjye mu rugo. Ananiwe yaguye ku buriri. Nhagaze mu rujijo. Ihangane urubyiruko, urukundo ninbere. Ndashaka kumufasha. Ndatekereza nti: Umugabo azavuga iki iyo abibonye? "
Ishusho yibitotsi rero itandukana rwose. Nkaho Heloin abona muto, umuswa, murukundo no kwizera imitima yubugingo ntabwo ari muburyo bwiza. Ararushye, ananiwe. Kandi ntibikwiye kwereka umugabo wanjye.
Uru ruhande ni impuhwe, birakenewe ubufasha. Kandi akeneye kuruhuka.
Ahari intwari zacu zigomba kwitondera igihe kingana iki yarose, atekereza gutya? Ni kangahe bituma ubwabo bababaye, badafite uburambe, batemba?
Mubisanzwe abantu bagenzura eventations zabo kandi bakiri bato bareba bananiwe. Ahari ubutwari bwacu bwagize umwanya wo kurekura kwinjira kwa Samokontrol.
Ndagusaba, shuti basomyi, kora ubushakashatsi bumwe nibitotsi byawe. Ni ngombwa gukora gutya:
1. Andika inzozi zawe.
2. Andika amashusho mu bitotsi no kwishyira hamwe muri ubu buryo. Ikintu cyiza cyane nukwandika ikintu cya mbere kiza mubitekerezo, nta mubugenzuzi.
3. Andika ibitotsi byawe, gushyiramo amashyirahamwe bifitanye isano nabo aho kuba abantu.
4. Niba ufite ibishishwa no gufungura nyuma yiki gikorwa - andika.
Ndagutumiye gusangira ubwo buvumbuzi kumapaki yinkingi.
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Reba vuba!
Maria Zebekova, umuganga wa psychologue, umuvuzi wumuryango, amahugurwa yambere yiterambere ryumuntu wubucuruzi Marka Hazin.