Mugihe cya paradoxique, nzatangira ikiganiro ntabwo ari inzozi, ariko nicyo gishimishije ababyeyi benshi bonsa. Kwonsa ninzira yibinyabuzima ibaho nkumuntu wikiremwamuntu. Imirimo myinshi yanditswe hamwe na miliyari y'abagore banyuze muri iki gikorwa ku bunararibonye bwabo. Hariho inyigisho zitandukanye zerekeye iyo ndangije kugaburira umwana, iyo bitera kwangirika mumitekerereze. Ariko amaherezo, buri mubyeyi akemura iki kibazo wenyine, akoresheje inama zikusanyijwe cyangwa ubushishozi bwabo. Kubyerekeye urugero rwumuti nkurwo ruzavuga inzozi za Intwari.
Ati: "Bagerageza kuntumira mu rukiko cyangwa ubushinjacyaha bwo gutanga ubuhamya ku kazi kanjye. Umuntu wese arakomeye, ibihuhagenda, bishobora koherezwa muri gereza, nubwo mubyukuri urukiko ari ubushakashatsi gusa bufite asen. Mbere yo kuba akazu ry'ubuhamya bwanjye, duhora dutekereza kubyo nkeneye kuvuga ko nta jambo ryo kugira, kubyo gufata no gukora ubushakashatsi. Ku munsi w'urubanza, ndasaba imbabazi umucamanza mukuru, avuga ko nta makosa asaba imbabazi ndetse anatekereza ku kurenganya. Hamwe na we yakuyeho amakenga yose kandi ntagikomeza. Ndabashimira, kuraba, ndavuga ko ntazi uko nabyitwaramo, ahubwo nanone ngaburira umwana wanjye amabere, kuko ngomba kwiga cyane. Ndetse no mu nzozi, ndumva ko atazakomeza gusonza, ahubwo, bizaba ibintu bitunguranye. "
Inzozi za Vineine zimugaragaza uko zifitanye isano numwana we. Muyandi magambo, kwizirika muburyo bwo kugaburira ntabwo ari gusa kubana, ariko inzozi zacu zifite. Inzozi zigaragaza ibyago bitandukanye hamwe nuburyo bukabije umunsi umwe uru ruhumanye rugomba guhagarara. Kandi kuri we birashobora kuba ntadutera ubwoba no guhungabana kuruta umwana.
Muri icyo gihe, ndetse no mu nzozi, yumva ko kugaburira ari inzira idakenewe mubuzima. Noneho umwana arashobora gukora atamufite, bivuze ko aricyo gihe cyo kwitegura kujyana nurwego rushya rwo guhura.
Ababyeyi bato, ubuforomo, bazi muri iki gihe: Umwana arashobora guhora arangaye, guhinduranya, gutuza cyangwa gusinzira hamwe nigituza, ariko ntagera kumyaka 18 akoresha iyi mayeri? Nubwa mama gusa, ariko mugihe kizaza, mugihe umwana atagikeneye amata haba mu biribwa n'amazi, ugomba kumenya uburyo bushya bwo guhuza no kubuza umugereka muburyo bushya. Cyangwa bigaragaye nko mu giseke: "Umwana afatwa nk'igitugu igihe Ikigo kirangiye."
Kubireba inzozi zacu, agomba kubaka umubonano mushya numwana wo kumugisha no gutuza, hindura mubundi buryo. Twifurije amahirwe kuri we!
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Maria Dyachkova, umuganga wa psychologue, umuvuzi wumuryango, amahugurwa yambere yibikorwa byimikurire yimyidagaduro Marika Khazin