Abasomyi bitondera kandi abashaka gusobanura inzozi bamaze kwiga inzozi zabo hamwe no hakurya. Isesengura rya Ungian, ibisobanuro kuri freud cyangwa ubuvuzi bwo guhagarika gusesengura ibyo urota ni. Ibirimo Inzozi birashobora kugusunikira mubitekerezo bitandukanye, ariko hariho undi mutungo wibitotsi, ibyo tutavuze. Ntabwo bifitanye isano nibikubiye mu nzozi, ariko bizaba bikwiriye kumuvugaho.
Haramaze igihe ibitotsi ari leta idasanzwe, ntatangaje ko habaho icyerekezo cyo kwiga indimi z'amahanga mu nzozi. Turabona noneho ntabwo tubisobanuka, ariko twibuke amashusho, kubwibi, isi yiburyo ishinzwe, kandi ibi birashoboka biterwa no kuba mugihe cyo gusinzira dusinzira. Ntabwo twisobanura ubwacu ko "bidashoboka", kuko inzozi ni leta ushobora kubona icyo nta mwanya wubuzima bwa buri munsi kubera ibitekerezo bya buri munsi bitewe na logique ya buri munsi kubera.
Turashobora rero gukoresha inzozi z'undi muntu kugirango tumuzana ibyo atumva mubushyuhe bwa gutongana cyangwa amakimbirane.
Ikigaragara ni uko umwanya wuburyo bwayo ari leta itemba. Ntabwo byoroshye gutandukana nuburyo bwiza. Abantu bahangayikishijwe nubwoko runaka bwibitekerezo bishoboye byinshi, gusa kugirango bagaragaze ko babibona. Ibuka poropagande ya politiki ikora cyangwa inama zinyuraya cyane kugirango zimenyere abana, cyangwa inama zuzuye. Buri kintu cyingenzi muri bo, ibintu byose bisukurwa ku tuntu bito, ntibishoboka kugira umwanya wabo. Guhangayikishwa nuburyo bwo kwizera guhumye mubyukuri ko ikintu cyiza, ntihagomba kubaho ubundi buryo.
Umuganga uduturaho kenshi: mu rukundo rwinshi no kwizera ko "udafite uyu muntu, ntabwo nkora amahoro," cyangwa bitewe na nikotine n'inzoga. Nta biciro byiminsi nta kunywa. Gerageza gutanga gusa kuvuga - ibyumba bigeze binaniza byubuzima bwiza bizagutera kandi bikaba bisabwa ninzoga. N'icyo kuvuga ku itabi. Ibyiza ubwabo, bishora mu gushakisha imyanya, igihe, babara itabi hamwe nibishoboka byo gutinda. Ibi nibindi bimwe byoroheje! Ariko ibi ntabwo aribyo byose: Amasezerano, siporo kubagwa, indyo yuzuye, indyo ku bana, ku ndwara no kuvura ...
Muri ubu buryo, ibitekerezo byacu ni nko kugenda muri kane. Ntabwo habona ikintu cyose kizageraho uhereye kuri iyi nzira itaziguye kandi ifunganye. Muri ibyo bihugu nk'ibi, biragoye kuri twe kugera hafi (cyangwa im - kuri twe) no kwerekana uburambe bwabo, ibyo bakeneye n'impamvu n'impamvu iyo ari yo mpamvu, keretse iyo batanze ibitekerezo.
By the way, indwara nayo niyo yoroheje runaka. Nk'ubutegetsi, indwara iratera imbere nk'igisubizo cyo guhangayika, guhungabana mu mutwe. Ariko abantu ntibabifata, ariko ingaruka twafashe kumubiri. Muyandi magambo, guhangayikishwa bigaragarira mumiti no kuvura, aho gukemura ikibazo cyambere.
Hanyuma usinzire aje gutabara. Mubitotsi byinshi, turaruhuka, kugenzura no guhangayika biracika intege. Turashoboye kubona isi nta kurengera. Kuberako ushobora kuvugana nabakunzi bawe iyo basinziriye. Ucecekeye wicare hafi hanyuma uvuga ko udashobora kubagezaho muburyo bwo gukanguka.
Dore ingero zimwe:
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"Mama arashobora kuvuga umwana urwaye ko indwara izashira, izahangana kandi akire." Icyo arwaye yo kurokoka imihangayiko runaka atigeze yihanganira ubundi buryo. Kurugero, byararwaye, ntabwo bijya mu busitani, kandi mubyukuri ni uko yitwara ku cyuho na nyina, nkaho yamwanze. Mubyukuri, ntabwo aribyo, arakura, Mama aramukunda kandi yuzura umubano na nimugoroba;
Ati: "Urashobora kuvugana numugabo wawe kubyerekeye impungenge niba mubushyuhe bwibibazo bisanzwe byose birangirana kimwe kandi ntacyo bimaze kumpande zombi.
Ikintu cyingenzi muri ibi biganiro nuguhindukirira ubugingo bwumuntu utaba ufite intego yo kubona ubushake bwe, ahubwo kubwinyungu ze nabakunzi be.
Gerageza, Igeragezwa!
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Maria Dyachkova, umuganga wa psychologue, umuvuzi wumuryango, amahugurwa yambere yibikorwa byimikurire yimyidagaduro Marika Khazin