Ubuhemu bwumukunzi budashimishije, kandi mubihe bimwe na bimwe byagoshe gusa umubano wumuryango. Ubushishozi cyane, mugihe umugabo ahindutse, umutware wumuryango yabanaga mumyaka myinshi. Niki gituma umuntu ahindura mumibanire yigihe kirekire?
Byakagombye kumvikana ko ubuhemu butandukanye. Ntabwo bikwiye gushyira ikimenyetso cyuburinganire hagati yibintu byiringiro byiringiro mu munsi mukuru rusange cyangwa muri Sauna no kugaragara kwa nyirabuja uhoraho, bivuga ko dukura mumutima no mubitekerezo byumugabo. Mu rubanza rwa mbere, ubuhemu bushobora kubaho ku bw'amahirwe, nk'urugero, rufite inzoga cyangwa gusa kuva ku cyifuzo cyo "kugerageza ikintu gishya." Mu rubanza rwa kabiri, ibintu biragoye cyane.
Gutangira umubano na nyirabuja wumugabo ntabwo bituma "abagore benshi", ni bangahe ibibazo bimwe na bimwe mu muryango. Mbere ya byose, ibi nibibazo bya psychologiya. Nyuma yigihe, ibyiyumvo biri hagati yabashakanye biragoye, umugore atangira kubonwa numugabo aho kuba mwene wabo udafatika, kandi akato akurura mumabwiriza yimibonano mpuzabitsina. Niba hari amakimbirane ahoraho mumuryango, cyangwa abashakanye muri rusange batitaye kuri mugenzi wabo, ubutaka bwo ubuhemu bwegeranye, kandi isura ya nyirabuja ni "umurimo w'ikoranabuhanga" gusa.
Ntugereranye nyirabuja uhoraho na nyirabuja uhoraho
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Mu mibanire na nyirabuja, umugabo arashobora gushakisha ibyabuze murugo, hamwe numugore we. Kandi ibi ntabwo ari imibonano mpuzabitsina gusa cyangwa umubiri muto nkubwenge, impuhwe. Turashobora gusa nkibyo bitangaje, ariko abagabo benshi barahinduka ntabwiza buke. Kenshi na kenshi, nyirabuja ahinduka urugendo, cyangwa abagore bakuruye gato. Nububasha gusobanukirwa numugabo unaniwe ubuzima bwumuryango. Byongeye kandi, kubagabo benshi, kumva ashyamana, ibyiyumvo bishimishije byurukundo, byaranze ibyiciro byambere byitumanaho numugore uzaza ni ngombwa cyane. Hamwe na nyirabuja, umuntu ashaka kurokoka ibyo byifuzo, yize amarangamutima meza.
Ikintu cyihariye cyo gutora gituruka ku gitsina gabo ni uko abagabo benshi bagisigaye mu miryango (birumvikana, niba abagore batazi ku butunzi cyangwa kuba barabahagaritse amaso), umubano na ba nyirabuja ntibarenze kwidagadura. Niba kandi umugabo wawe "akurura ibumoso", hanyuma mbere yo gutangira amakimbirane, nibyiza gutekereza kubyo bitera kutishimira ubuzima bwumuryango bwa buri munsi.