Twavuze inshuro nyinshi ko inzozi ziyobowe, nk'uko Feud abivuga, "inzira y'umwami igana ku butuzi."
Ubwenge butumva cyane cyane. Ariko, abayoboke ba Freud Carl Jung yatangije muri psychologiya igitekerezo cyo "gukusanya ubwenge", ni.
Ingero nyinshi zerekana "guhuza ibitekerezo" zirashobora kwigira kubumirire nimana. Bakomeza kwibuka nibintu byose byabantu. Kurugero, niba Ivan ari uko ni umuswa. Ariko kubwimpamvu, ibintu byose bimubaho kandi arabaho, kandi arabaho, ntabwo ari undi, akabona undi muntu, yisanga ari umugore wihariye, umwamikazi.
Ihuriro ritagira ubwenge riraboneka binyuze kuri imigani imwe n'imwe mu bukorikori busanzwe muri sosiyete, binyuze mu migani n'imigani usoma abana.
Mu muryango, ibisakuzo biboneka binyuze mu nzozi. Rero, buri wese mu bagize umuryango afite isano itaziguye n'abavandimwe.
Dore ingero zimwe. Ibaruwa ya mbere yohereje nyina w'umuhungu w'imyaka itatu:
"Saa 4 am, ndota ibitotsi byoroheje kandi byiyongera.
Ndabibira hamwe na scuba munsi y'amazi. Inshuti yanjye iri kumwe nanjye, kandi bisa nkaho ari umunyeshuri wanjye. Nambaye, nkuko bikwiye, muri imyenda yuzuye kandi wetsuit, kandi ni muri koga.
Kandi ngomba kuvuga ko ibisabwa byo kwibira bikabije: igihome gikomeye, inzira y'amazi, gutwika korali.
Ndabaza uburyo namurekane mumazi adafite amazi?
Hanyuma, itangira kuyitwara hasi, kugoreka inzira yamazi, kuganira no guta.
Ndumva ko nshobora guhangana niki kibazo, kandi ni intangiriro kandi ntazi rwose icyo gukora.
Ndamutakambira nti: "Humura, ntukarwane! Kandi icy'ingenzi, guhumeka !!! "
Najugunywe mu gusinzira mukinisha, ndumva ko ntakiri asinziriye.
Bukwi na bukwi, muri ako kanya, umuhungu wanjye yatangira kurira, aryama mu mugongo. Ndasimbuka mvuye kuryama kandi nshoboye kuyihindura. Dore inzozi. Irasa n'incamake iri hagati yanjye n'umuhungu wanjye. "
Uru rugero rurashimishije, ndetse rukagira ubwoba buke. Ariko, turashobora kwitegereza ibyo bitotsi muburyo bumwe bwerekana ibibera mubyukuri. Umuntu, kubantu barota bafite inshingano mu nzozi, akeneye ubufasha bwe kandi kugirango bahumeke neza, kugirango batanikora. Iyo akangutse, ikigaragara nuko umuhungu we ashobora guhitamo niba adafasha.
Ibitotsi bibangikanye nukuri birasobanutse kandi bisobanutse. Kandi birakwiye ko tubona iyo sare ikomeye ko hariho umubyeyi n'umuhungu we. Muri urwo rwego, birindaga byizewe.
Turashobora kureba uko inzozi zohereza ubutumwa bwa Amerika bujyanye natwe muri twe mumurima rusange. Binyuze mu bitotsi, dufite amahirwe yo kumenya umuryango wacu utazi ubwenge.
Ubu twimukiye kurugero rwa kabiri. Yoherejwe kubanditsi umukobwa muto:
"Nari nkeneye kujya mu mujyi n muri Mutarama 2012 kugira ngo nige. Kuri Eva narose inzozi zidasanzwe kandi ziteye ubwoba, aho umugore arota, wampamagaye kuri terefone. Yavuze ati: "Ivanovka - Umujyi wa N-reba! Gutwikira isanduku yawe gusa. " Hanyuma amanika terefone. Nyuma yibyo, nabyutse mubintu biteye ubwoba ... Sinigeze mvuga inzozi mbi, cyane cyane ... Ivanovka ni umudugudu ntuye. Ku mujyi n - 300 km. Kandi uyu mugore mu nzozi, nkuko mbisobanukiwe, nahanuye urupfu kuri uyu muhanda. Uwo ari we, simbizi. Nabuze amafaranga menshi nimuye mu kigo ngo tujye kwiga. Kubera ibi bitotsi, ntabwo nagiye mu mujyi, nubwo nari nkeneye cyane. Ibyambayeho kuri ibi ntabwo ari ugutanga ... Sinzi icyo gukora. Nagerageje kujyayo inshuro nyinshi, yagiye mu rusengero, ariko i nkaho umuntu akomeza cyane ... Nakora iki ??? Birumvikana ko nari mpangayikishijwe cyane no mu rugendo rwo muri uyu mujyi, natinyaga ko hari ikintu kizambaho, nuko mbona inzozi nk'iki, kandi ahari nta ... "
Hamwe ninzi inzozi zizagora cyane. Turabona ko mu nzozi zo kurota uzi ikintu giteye ubwoba. Urashobora gutekereza kuri inzozi kubuhanuzi, urashobora kubisobanurira ikimenyetso cyamayobera. Niba dukurikiza icyerekezo kitoroshye ni isano numuryango wacu tukaza, noneho ndasaba umukobwa kwiga amateka yumuryango we mubisekuruza byinshi bishize.
Ahari, ibyago nkibi bimaze kuba mu muryango w'izo nzozi, no mu nzozi yabimenye. Birashoboka ko atari iye, ariko afitanye isano n'abo bagize ubwoko aya makuba abaho. Hariho icyerekezo cyose cyo kuvura umuryango, gishakisha amateka ya ba sogokuruza. Umwanzuro rusange ni: Umuryango Mukuru mu bigize byinshi bigize: sogokuru, ba nyirakuru bakomeye, ababyeyi bacu, natwe ubwacu kubivuga, harimo n'impanuka zitunguranye Muri Arhine yacu) Byongeye kandi, amahirwe ibyo bintu bisubirwamo mubisekuru bikurikira. Ku rugero runaka, abana babo barashobora kwishingikizwa kubisubiramo udashaka muburyo burambuye kugirango bamenye amateka ya basekuruza.
Ariko iyi ninkuru itandukanye rwose.
Inzozi zishimishije kuri wewe. Niba kandi ushaka kumenya icyo bivuze, ohereza inkuru zawe kuri aderesi: [email protected] Byashyizweho "Inzozi".
Maria Zebekova, umuganga wa psychologue, umuvuzi wumuryango, amahugurwa yambere yiterambere ryumuntu wubucuruzi Marka Hazin.