Ubushakashatsi buherutse gukorwa bwamagana imyumvire izwi cyane ko abagabo bafite ubuhanga bwo kuba hafi ugereranije kuruta igitsina cyiza. Rero, abagore bakunze kwita inshuro 4 nkimpamvu yo kuvunika umubano wikibazo mubuzima bwumugabo, aho kuba ibibazo kuri kimwe kuri buri gice1. Hagati aho, abagabo mubisanzwe ntibazi aho ubushobozi bwabo bugarukira mubibazo byimbitse kandi banyuzwe nubuhanga bwabo. Nigute umugore adatamba yishimira cyangwa umubano numuntu wakundaga?
Ati: "Kubwamahirwe, umugabo ntaziga kandi agakora imbaraga" zongeyeho ", aramutse amenyereye imyaka yo gukundana umugambi runaka, kandi ibintu byose bimukwiriye. Ntazumva impamvu ikintu gihinduka, niba byose ari byiza cyane. Niba umugabo ahita amenya ko impinduka zikenewe ubwazo, bizamutera impungenge, kandi ntibigomba guhumanywa nibitekerezo byimibonano mpuzabitsina. Umutozateri wa Ekaterina Lubimov avuga ko ubwenge bw'abagore ari uko umuntu atagomba kumva ko agerageza guhindura cyangwa kubigisha. "
Impuguke igira inama abagore kwerekana kwihangana, kutagira ibyiringiro birenzeho kumufatanyabikorwa, bishobora kugushimisha, kandi cyane cyane - kutareka impinduka zikarishye kandi zose zizana buhoro buhoro. Kugaburira kubabaza umufatanyabikorwa, abagore akenshi ntibagaragaza uko bakunda, kandi ibitari byo, kugirango umuntu adashobora gukeka mugihe atumye yakundaga cyane, kandi mugihe agomba guhindura amayeri. Ariko iki nikintu cyingenzi! Kubwibyo, umurimo wibanze wumugore nukugira umuntu utanga kumugabo ko mubyukuri anezezwa, ntukore kubwibone.
"Ni kangahe twe, abagore, gerageza gufunga amaso kuberako dukunda atari byiza muburiri. N'ubundi kandi, ntibwatandukanijwe kubera ibyo "bito" kandi ntitujye mu busambanyi, niba ushobora kwigisha imibonano mpuzabitsina, "ibintu bya Ekaterina Lyibimov.
Ekaterina Lyibimova, kuyobora umutoza wimibonano mpuzabitsina wu Burusiya