Ubuzima bwanjye bwose tubwirwa ko gutsinda bitazihanganira amakosa, ariko mubyukuri? Birumvikana, ni ngombwa kugerageza gukora kugirango amakosa angana na genio hamwe no gutsinda, ariko ntabwo ari ngombwa kubura kugirango tubuze - nkuko byikora biba aribwo buryo bwiza bwo kwiga gukora amakosa, cyane cyane Iyo bigeze kubaka umwuga. Kuki tugitera ubwoba kugirango dukore amakosa nuburyo twungukirwa namakosa? Ibi tuzabyumva uyu munsi.
Ubwoba bwacu buturuka he
Nkuko tubizi, ibibazo byacu byinshi biva mu bwana, harimo gutinya kwibeshya bityo bigatera uburakari ababyeyi. Nyuma yigihe, ubwoba burahungabana, ariko ntibicika ahantu hose, gusa aho ababyeyi babanje kwigarurira umwarimu, hanyuma bakazi.
Ni gake, asobanura umwana ko isuzuma ribi atari imperuka yisi, irashobora gukosorwa no kuvuza ibintu nkibi nkibi. Abana bumvaga iri hame mu bwana biroroshye cyane kumenyera mubihe bakuze, kurugero, kugirango amaboko yabo adashoboka, niba, ibiganiro bitatu byambere birananirana, bidashobora kuvugwa kubyerekeye indashyikirwa Abanyeshuri bafite intebe yishuri, aho umwuga wese umwuga uhinduka ikibazo cyubunini rusange, kubwikibazo, umuntu nkuyu ni naho kandi ashobora kubura icyifuzo gishimishije kumurimo, kuko umufana we yamaze kubura.
Niba warashoboye kuba umubyeyi, gerageza gusobanurira umwana wawe ayo makosa ari igice cyo gutsinda, ntibakeneye kubatinya ndetse birenze no kumanura amaboko yabo.
Ntutinye "ibicucu"
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Nigute ushobora kwiga uburyo bwo kunanirwa kumwuga
Ni ngombwa kwibuka ko rwose ari amakosa yose ushobora kubyungukiramo, ariko ntagomba gutwarwa no guharanira kunanirwa nkuburyo bwo kubona uburambe - amakosa amwe arashobora gushyirwa hejuru ntarengwa kabiri.
Icya kabiri, reka kwishora mu kwigirira icyizere niba utari psychotherapiste wabigize umwuga, uzigira nabi. Nibyiza guhangana no gukemura ikibazo, aho kwitwara nabi muburyo bwihebye cyane.
Nta bwoba. Nubwo waba warabuze ", iyi ntabwo arimpamvu yo gufungura ubwoba, wifate mu ntoki, kuko ugomba gufata icyemezo gikomeye hashingiwe ku bunararibonye, kandi kubwibyo ni ngombwa kuguma mubitekerezo byumvikana.
Shakisha impamvu. Nibyo, biragoye kwibagirwa ibisubizo bibi, ibyo ibikorwa byawe byateje, nyamara gerageza kwibanda kubisubizo nkibi. Akenshi twibagirwa ko ari ngombwa guhangana nabyo, nkingaruka zibikorwa byacu, kimwe numuzi, kugirango mubihe bizaza bitabaye kuri wewe kandi ushobora kwimuka kurwego rwumwuga.