Abigipilator baboneka mubuzima bwacu mubice byose, ariko akaga gakomeye kari hano, iruhande rwacu. Kandi aba ni ababyeyi bacu. Kenshi na kenshi kwigomwa kubabyeyi-Manigulator hafi - umwana we, kuko atakaraba kuri yo kandi, cyane cyane, ntaho ajya, kandi umuntu mukuru arabizi. Umwana ntiyumva igihe runaka uko ibintu bimeze munzu biri kure nibisanzwe, ariko uko byagenda kose yumva atameze neza, ibyo ahura na bene wabo. Umwana nkuyu akura hamwe nibyimba bitandukanye, kugirango akureho ari munsi yumwaka umwe mubiro bya psychotherapiste. Uyu munsi twahisemo kumenya uko interuro ishobora kubarwa kubabyeyi bafite uburozi nuburyo bwo guhangana nigitutu nkicyo.
"Ariko umuhungu wa Tamnatshin ..."
Byendagusetsa Intangiriro yari iyo "mwana wumukunzi wa nyina" ahora akuruta, nawe, nawe ni ugutsindwa karande. Iyi gahunda nkiyi yakoreshejwe cyane kubabyeyi bafite uburozi: "Urareba aho Sasha yinjiye! Ntabwo wari kwemererwa imbere. "Kandi bose muri ubwo buryo ubwo Mama bazavugana n'inshuti ye, umwana we yatsinze neza ibizamini muri kaminuza nkuru. Mu bihe nk'ibi, guta agaciro k'umwana biratangira, umubyeyi aragerageza "guhamagarira ubwenge" umwana wo gusenyuka, bityo akora ibikomere bikomeye cyane aho umuntu akuze ahangana na psychologue.
"Buri gihe mpora ndi mwiza!"
Abaminisitiri w'ababyeyi bahora bafite igice na Narcissus. Ubu bwoko ntibusanzwe, ariko birashoboka ko arimwe mubwoko budashimishije cyane bw'ababyeyi bafite uburozi. Imvugo isanzwe ya mwene wabo izaba: "Biratangaje, ukunda umugabo wawe ikintu nk'ikintu runaka, kandi ndareba ari we mwiza, nubwo ukurusha cyane." Ntakintu kigira ingaruka hano - hariho gutakaza umwana wawe bwite, kugirango byiza bisa nkibyiza mumaso ye.
Umubyeyi wuburozi burigihe ujugunya imbaraga zose zumwana
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"Urishimye iki?"
Ubu bwoko bw'ababyeyi buzamura imitako kazoza no guhungabanya abantu. Abana mumiryango nkiyi ntakintu na kimwe kidashobora, ndetse n'iminota nko kurya ibiryohereye mbere yo kurya, umubyeyi arahamagarira icyaha cyose. Umwana ahora akora ibyangombwa byose byababyeyi, niba hari igihe, bikora icyo aricyo, ariko muri iki gihe, gake, ntibigaragara ko bidakunze kugaragara - umubyeyi atazamera ko ibikorwa runaka bidafite Ubumenyi bwe.
Hariho inzira yo gukorana uburozi hamwe nababyeyi bawe?
Fata intera
Inzira yoroshye yo kugabanya ingaruka mbi z'ababyeyi ni kure. Akenshi, umwana bigoye kwitandukanya na bene wabo, nubwo yaba ababazwa munzu ye, ariko birakwiye ko atangira gushaka inzira zo kwirinda kubandi bavandimwe, utangira kumva neza, kandi ibitekerezo bijyanye no kugaruka ntiruvuka.
Shakisha inkunga
Nko gushyigikirwa no guhumekwa birashobora kumera nkabandi bavandimwe, ninshuti nziza zizashobora kubona amagambo akwiye kandi buhoro, ariko ibikomere byawe bizakiza rwose. Urashobora gusangira ibyiyumvo nabakunzi mu mwuka wumuntu, bivuze ko amarangamutima mabi atazakurya imbere.
Ntutinye kuvugana ninzobere
Turacyatinya ibiro bya psychologue na psychoanaststs transfoni, nubwo akenshi iyi niyo nzira yonyine yo gukemura ibibazo byawe. Niba hari amahirwe nkaya, hamagara inzobere hamwe nababyeyi banjye, birashoboka gusa ko batazi neza uburyo ibibyimba byose bikuyoboye ninzira zabo.