Inzozi zivuga ibyacu kuruta uko twizi ubwacu. Abandi barashobora kuvuga kuri bo ikintu icyo ari cyo cyose: ko twizeye, igikundiro, gushikama, tuvuga ko dutekereza, nibindi kandi muribi dugoye kutubuza. Bamwe, inzira, basuzugura ibyiza byabo, bavuga ko ari ibisanzwe, bidashoboka, gushika no mu kigo.
Aya magambo yose yerekeye ubwacu akunze guterwa nibyo twumva aderesi yawe yabandi cyangwa icyo dushaka kureba mumaso yabandi. Ariko, birashoboka, ibitotsi bidutera ishusho yukuri, kuko inzozi zikunda kugenzura imyumvire yacu n'imyitwarire yacu nka leta yacu.
Iri tegeko ni rusange kubagabo no kubagore. Uyu munsi dusuzumye inzozi z'umuntu umwe mu basomyi bacu.
Yiga inzozi ze cyane cyane kandi yimbitse, nkuko ikoresha imyitozo yinzozi mbi. By the way, abantu bose bashobora kwiga. Ikigaragara ni uko mu nzozi buri wese muri twe ashobora gukeka ibyabona gusa kwibeshya kwukuri. Benshi muriki gihe bakanguke, ariko nimukomeza kwitegereza ibibera mu nzozi, urashobora gukora ibintu bidasanzwe. Kurugero, hindura imyizerere nimyizerere itubuza kubaho imyaka myinshi.
Urashobora kwiga iyi myitozo ukoresheje igitabo cya Stephen Laberza "inzozi zungirije".
Ariko, noneho reka tujye kuryama intwari yacu:
Ati: "Narose ko amazu yarimbuye, umuhanda, ibintu byose byari ibibi kandi bidasanzwe, kuburyo nahise dukeka ko birota. Nahisemo ko iyi ari inzozi, nzabona ikintu kidashoboka. Nasunitse mu butaka ndahaguruka. Indege yari iteye ubwoba, nubwo ubanza indege zari zimeze mumikino ya mudasobwa ishaje: Verically cyangwa itambitse, nta fatizo, imirongo yoroshye nibindi bintu. Nyuma yaho, namenyeshejwe, natangiye gukira, nari ndumiwe. Hanyuma nahisemo ko bishoboka kuguruka, none urashobora gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina ukamenya ibitekerezo byawe. Ku bijyanye natumije, nahuye n'umukobwa mwiza, twarashaje, ariko mu buryo butunguranye, byabaye bibi, nagize igicucu, natangiye kugira isoni. Umukobwa kandi ntiyatwitse afite icyifuzo. Natekereje ko iyi ari inzozi, aho nanjye nzamuka mfite ibibazo, ndashobora kubakuraho buri cya kabiri, ariko no mu nzozi biragoye gukora ikintu hamwe n'isoni no gutinya bifitanye isano n'imibonano mpuzabitsina. Nabyutse kuri ibi. "
Urugero rushimishije! Birumvikana ko bidasanzwe kuko inzozi ubwe yubatse inzozi ze, guhera mugihe cyindege. Arashobora kuvuga ati: Yakanguriye ibitotsi, abihindura umugambi utaziguye.
Biterwa nuko twiga gucunga ibisubizo byawe bitagira ubwenge, inzira n'ibikorwa, biratworohera guhindura ubuzima bwacu nkuko dushaka ko ibintu bishobora kwiyongera. Kandi simulator nziza kubwibi ni inzozi.
Noneho subira muri kiriya gice cyo gusinzira, aho intwari yatangaye kubyerekeye inzozi, noneho agomba kugira imibonano mpuzabitsina, ariko icyarimwe arumirwa kandi afite isoni.
Benshi muritwe, abagore n'abagabo, byerekanwe mu myaka ya mbere, nyuma bavuze ko imibonano mpuzabitsina ari ikintu cyanduye, kibi, kirabujijwe. Buri wese muri twe yatsinze ibyo yiga ku mibonano mpuzabitsina icyo aricyo.
Niba usuzumye, urashobora kubona abashidikanya byose byerekana imyizerere yangiza kuri wewe no gufatanya uwo utera kuryama. Umuntu azashimangirwa cyane, kuko adahagije guterwa isoni numubiri wawe, umuntu udafite ishyaka n'umuriro usa n'umufatanyabikorwa, umuntu atinya ko afite intege nke n'intege nke, umuntu ahisha igitsina bidahagije.
Mubidafite ubwenge, hari ibintu byinshi bibuka mugihe twanze cyangwa dusekeje. Kandi uko bibabaza ubu bunararibonye, niko abasomyi benshi "bibagiwe." Ariko akomeza kubaho no kudukurikirana mu buzima.
Binyuze mu bitotsi, urashobora kurokoka muburyo bushya, kimwe nurugero, nagerageje kwiyoroshya, ariko byahuye numva ububabare n'ubwoba.
Gusinzira bizakora akazi ke, abishaka barashobora kwifasha, nk'urugero, kuvuga ubwoba hamwe na mugenzi we. Ibyiyumvo, nkitegeko, reka gutoteza. Hariho amahirwe ko ubu mubihe byubwoba bwubwoba no kwibeshya bizaba bito, kandi umwanya munini wo gushishikarira.
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Maria Zebeskova, umuganga wa psychologue, Umuvuzi wumuryango, Amahugurwa Yambere Yimiryango Yiterambere Yumuntu Marka Khazina