"Umunsi mwiza! Mperutse guhura numusore ufite imyaka 8. Twahuye n'amezi menshi, kandi mu gihe ibintu byose bigenda bikomera. Ariko, ndababazwa no gushidikanya uburyo ubumwe nk'ubwo bushobora gukomera - bizaba ikibazo hamwe no gusobanukirwa no guhuza hafi? Nyamuneka tanga inama, birakwiye kubara mubumwe? " Elizabeth, ufite imyaka 34.
Nshuti Elizabeth! Umubano wumugore ukuze kuruta umugabo ubu ntabwo usanzwe. Ibyo ari byo byose byatsinze, utitaye ku myaka y'abafatanyabikorwa, birakenewe kugira Metaceloloniya - gusobanukirwa, ni byo ubumwe bwaremewe ko butanga buri mufatanyabikorwa. Niba uzi ibisobanuro byubufatanye bwawe mubumwe kandi bwuzuzanya, noneho imyaka ntabwo ari ngombwa. Ikintu nyamukuru nukumva nkigice cyundi muntu, ariko ntushonga rwose muri byo, ahubwo kiracyuzuza. Inzira nziza yo kwereka umuntu ko atabyitayeho ninyungu zivuye ku mutima akunda kandi akora. Kurugero, niba umukunzi wawe akunda siporo iyo ari yo yose, hanyuma ugerageze kwinjiramo. Reka umugabo akwigishe, reka yumve imbaraga ze nubugabo. Ariko ni ngombwa kumva ko ivunjisha rigomba kunganya, niba rero umukunzi atagaragaza ko ashishikajwe nubucuruzi bwawe, noneho iyi mpamvu yo kubitekerezaho.
Ukwayo, birakwiye kuvuga ingorane murwego rwimbitse, hashobora kubaho itandukaniro mumyaka. Ni ngombwa neza kumenya neza inkomoko yikibazo. Niba umugore yabuze, kurugero, tekinike mu mibonano mpuzabitsina, kandi arimo guhura nuburyo yahuza na mugenzi wawe, ubumenyi nubumenyi nubumenyi byose biroroshye gukora imyitozo idasanzwe yimibonano mpuzabitsina. Niba mugihe, imibonano mpuzabitsina ya kera ireka kwihanganira amarangamutima meza, ntakibazo gikemura intangiriro yubushyarane nubuzima bushya nubuhanga bushya, imigambi, ibikinisho byimbitse, ibikinisho byimbitse, ibikinisho bya hafi, . Niba utiteguye kuba ubushakashatsi nyamara, hanyuma ugerageze utangaze umufatanyabikorwa hamwe nijwi ryimitsi yo mu gitsina. "Pomp" mu bwigenge cyangwa kwiyandikisha byikora, cyangwa wiyandikishe mubuhanga bwo gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina.
Niba ikibazo, ku rundi ruhande, nuko umufatanyabikorwa muto "adagera" mu mibonano mpuzabitsina, noneho akoresha amayeri mato y'abagore, ushobora "kwigisha" igitsina cy'abagore kandi icyarimwe atamubabaza.
Ikindi kintu nigihe ibibazo mubuzima bwimbitse kivuka kubera kutumvikana gukomeye mubintu bibiri cyangwa byimbitse byimbitse yo mumitekerereze, bikabije, gukosorwa kwabo. Ni ngombwa kumenya no gufata ikibazo, hanyuma ugatangira gukorana nayo. Niba abafatanyabikorwa bashobora kubona icyemezo wenyine, bizashimangira ubumwe bwabo. Niba bidakenewe gukora utabifasha, ntibikwiye kubikurikirana, nibyiza kumarana ikibazo no gukuraho ikibazo kuri psychologue-imibonano mpuzabitsina kuruta gukurura ubuzima bwuzuye.
Nta nama rusange, kuruta kuyoborwa mumibanire hamwe nitandukaniro. Ariko birakwiye kuvuga ko ibyo ari byo byose bikenewe ubwihindurize buhoraho. Abafatanyabikorwa bagomba kunozwa buri munsi. Fata itegeko kugirango uyobore gusa ibyiyumvo byawe gusa, hano icyerekezo ku gitekerezo cya gatatu gishobora kubangamira cyane, kuko ikikwiriye kuri kimwe, ntizisabwa rwose kubandi. Kandi mubyukuri amashyirahamwe avuka hanze yurwego, harimo imyaka.
Ekaterina Lyibimova, kuyobora umutoza wimibonano mpuzabitsina wu Burusiya