Nk'uko amategeko, abashakanye bombi bumva ko gutandukana kera mbere yuko bibaho. Ariko, benshi bakuramo uyu mwanya kugirango wirinde ibyiyumvo bibabaza bifitanye isano niki gikorwa kidashimishije. Nubwo bimeze bityo ariko, hariho ibimenyetso byinshi byerekana neza ko ugomba gufata ingamba, bitabaye ibyo, ubukwe buzasenyuka mugihe cya vuba.
Mugihe cya Ssor, uwo mwashakanye atangira kujya kumuntu
Mubisanzwe, nta gutongana mumuryango ntibishobora gukora: biragoye kuguma iruhande rwumuntu umwanya munini kandi ntukagire amarangamutima adashimishije, reka bibe umugabo ukunda. Ibi nibisanzwe rwose. Ariko, mugihe kunegura bidafitanye isano nibibazo, ariko biragutera, nimpamvu yo gutekereza kubiba hagati yawe.
"Ibimenyetso" muri uru rubanza biraba: "Ariko wowe ...," Umeze nkama ... ", nibindi ntibishoboka gukemura ikibazo, kuko uwo mwashakanye arebye amakosa yawe ashobora gusa.
Ni ubuhe butumwa bwa psychologue bugira inama
Mubihe uhuye n'amarangamutima mabi, ntuzigere ujya kuri kamere: ugomba gukemura ikibazo mwembi mwicira urubanza. Irinde amagambo ashobora kubabaza uwo mwashakanye, akamenyesha neza ibyiyumvo byawe nuburyo ubona igisubizo cyikibazo.
Vuga kenshi
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Uwo mwashakanye arakureba hamwe nagasuzuguro
Ntabwo ari ngombwa kuvuga hano: Rimwe na rimwe, kureba kimwe bihagije kugirango wumve icyo umuntu agutekerezaho. Ntabwo bishimishije cyane. Noneho, gerageza wirinde gusebanya no gusuzugura. Gushinyagurira ntibikwiye mubuzima bwumuryango. Tanga ibitekerezo kumufatanyabikorwa niba yemeye imyitwarire muri Mwuka kuri aderesi yawe.
Igitero n'ibirego
Mugihe utangiye gukemura ikibazo nigitero, shaka igitero. Ni nako bigenda kubirori bya kabiri. Biragoye cyane kubaka ibiganiro byubaka mugihe umwe mubashakanye ashinjwa ibirego, kandi ntabwo buri gihe bifite ishingiro. Kugira ngo wirinde ibi, gerageza kwinjira mu mwanya wa mugenzi we utekereze uko abona iki kibazo. Ni ngombwa kumva icyo undi muntu yumva, noneho urashobora kuvuga kubyerekeye ishyirwaho ryimibanire.
Ntukibeshye wenyine
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Uwo mwashakanye arafunga
Iyo wubatse umuryango, ni ngombwa kwiga uburyo bwo kubona uburyo bwo kwegera uwo mwashakanye, bitabaye ibyo, uzagumaho ubwoko bwabandi. Byongeye kandi, umukunzi wawe arashobora gutekereza ko umeze neza, ariko mubyukuri udashaka gusa kwitabira amakimbirane. Gerageza kuganira kubintu byose bidahuye bivuka mubuzima bwawe.
Uhora wibuka inzika zashize
Nubwo byari byiza gute, abantu bibuka nabi, aho kuba beza. Ariko, kwibutsa uyu mwashakanye mugihe icyo aricyo cyose cyukuri nacyo cyibeshye: Ugomba gukemura ikibazo, kandi ntugakemure urumuri rushya rwicanwa. Live hano, utitaye kubibazo byashize, wongeyeho, nta mabi, ntibishoboka kumenya akamaro k'ibyiza mubucuti.
Shakisha uburyo bwo gufata
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