Gutandukana no gushyingirwa inshuro nyinshi ntibizatangariza umuntu uwo ari we wese uyu munsi. Ibyo bihe birashize ubwo umugore watanye yafatwaga nkubwoko bumwe butuzuye, atishoboye, akamureba yicujije. Muri iki gihe, abagore benshi batsinze bafite amateka ya babiri, batatu, cyangwa kurushaho. Ariko no muri iki gihe, uburambe butatsinzwe bwo kurema umuryango ubwambere aracyafite ingaruka mbi ku mugore kandi, mbere ya byose, kubwo kwihesha agaciro.
Imwe mubwoba ryingenzi - ireba ko ubukwe butaha nabwo buzaba butatsinzwe. Abagore bashyingiwe, cyane cyane bakiri bato, niba ubukwe bwabo bwarangije kuba babi kubera umugore w'uwo mwashakanye, atangira kutizerana kugira ngo afate abantu, kandi niba impamvu yo gutandukana yashinze imizi mu myitwarire yabo, ntibashobora yitiranya ko badashobora gukiza umuryango.
Hagati aho, ibarurishamibare, hamwe nubunararibonye bwihariye bwabagore benshi bavuga ibinyuranye: ishyingiranwa rya kabiri mubihe byinshi birakomeye kandi neza. Ibi biterwa nuko mubukwe bwa kabiri, umugore araza, nkitegeko, asanzwe afite imyaka ikuze kandi ashinzwe guhitamo gutandukanya, no kubaka umubano mumuryango. Kubwibyo, ntabwo ari ngombwa gutinya kwinjira mubucuti bushya numuntu ukunda, kandi niba ibintu byose bihuye, hanyuma ugaterana nawe, byongeye gukora umuryango.
Ekaterina zdan.
Abagabo kwisi nibyinshi, kandi niba umugabo wawe wahoze cyangwa umuhigi wawe wabanje guhura nibyo witeze, ntabwo bikwiye ubunararibonye nabi kugirango ukwirakwira hafi ya Kimwe Cyiza. Abantu baratandukanye cyane, kandi umubano mushya gusa urashobora gufungura amaso yumugore kuburyo buryo bunini bwimyitwarire kandi ko, niba ubishaka, barashobora guhitamo umugabo kuba.
Ariko, urufunguzo rwo gutsinda mububano bwa kabiri ni ukubahiriza amategeko atari meza. Ubwa mbere, ntugomba kwibanda ku bunararibonye bwawe bwahise kandi butatsinzwe mumibanire yumuryango. Ntukibuke ubukwe bwawe bwa mbere, nubwo muburyo bubi. Ubucuti bwahoze kandi bwahoze bukwiye kutaba mubukwe bwawe. Ibi ni ibyahise, kandi reka bigume aho, aho bivugwa, - mu nyenga y'ubugingo bwawe, muri we, mu buryo bw'ingoro.
Icya kabiri, ntakibazo gishobora kugereranya umugabo uriho ufite uwabanje, na none, nubwo muburyo bwiza. Bitabaye ibyo, umugabo azumva ko ahora ahari kuri iyi kabiri itagaragara cyangwa, mubyukuri, umugabo wabanjirije. Ni nako bimeze no gusobanura ababyeyi, abandi bavandimwe, abakobwa bakobwa: ntibagomba imbere y'umugabo mushya avuga ku muntu wamubanjirije.
Icya gatatu, hashingiwe ku bunararibonye bwa mbere bwumubano wubukwe, birakwiye ko ushushanya, birumvikana rero gutera amakimbirane, gutongana, kutumva, no kugerageza mumibanire mishya kutagitanga imyitwarire kuruhande.
Ubukwe bushya ni urupapuro rushya rwubuzima, kandi ni ngombwa kumva ko ibintu byose bishobora kuba bitandukanye muri byo: Umugabo mushya afite izindi ngeso zurugo, ishakisha ubuzima, uburyohe. Ibi bigomba kwitabwaho kandi ugomba kubaka umuryango mushya, kandi ntugerageze kwiyegereza icyitegererezo cyumuryango wa kera ufite umusimbura wumwaka wambere mumuntu mushya. Muri icyo gihe, birakwiye gusobanukirwa ko gushyingirwa bushya ari amahirwe yo gukosora ibintu, hindura imyitwarire yawe, kugirango utange imyitwarire yawe mu buzima bwawe bitakozwe mubihe byabanje.