Ndabaza icyo iki ari ikimenyetso kidasanzwe? Kuki twibona mugihe runaka?
Ni izihe nzozi zizahindurwa binyuze mu gushushanya kwubwana bwacu?
Dore ingero zimwe:
"Mu nzozi, mbona ko umukobwa wanjye muto avuza induru mucyumba cyanjye. Birasa nkaho atari njye, ariko mu nzozi numva ko uyu mukobwa ari njye. Arangurura ijwi, arira, nto cyane. Kubera impamvu runaka ndimo kuvanga kwangwa n'impuhwe. "
Cyangwa izindi:
"Mu nzozi, ndi umukobwa watekaga. Mfite umukobwa, ibitotsi ntibitangaza, arasanzwe. Bisa n'ubuzima. Sinzifuza ko umukobwa asinzira, kandi akagira akajagari. Ndakurara. Nyuma yigihe gito ntareka kubyiga. "
Noneho reka duhindukire ku byaha by'isesengura ry'izo nzozi.
Kurya ibitotsi ntibisobanura ko ubutumwa bwe hejuru.
Kugirango utange ibisobanuro kuri ibi bitekerezo byinzozi, hindukirira itsinda rusange ryisesengura ryubucuruzi, inyandiko y'ibitabo bizwi cyane Erika Bern. Gusa ubunebwe ntibugerageje gusoma imirimo ye: "Abantu bakina imikino" na "Imikino Yakinishijwe abantu." Ariko, ibi bitabo ntabwo byoroshye, nubwo bizwi.
Umwanditsi arasenya ibihugu byinshi aho ego yacu ishobora kuba: umwana, umubyeyi n'uwakuze.
Utagiye mubintu bigoye bitangaje, imiterere yumwana ni leta yihite, mibereho, ifite imbaraga. Muri yo, turashobora kurushaho kwibonera mu buryo butaziguye ibintu mubuzima. "Umubyeyi" muri twe ashinzwe imyitwarire, kuko "urashobora" kandi "ntibishoboka."
Mugihe cyo gukura no gukura, umwana abaho intege muri twe, kandi umubyeyi arakomeye. Kurenza byinshi byo gufungura, korohereza no kuyobora bigomba kubikwa. Akenshi "umwana" yatunganijwe muri twe, ubwoba, bihebye haba mubabaro.
Umwana mu nzozi aho twiga ashobora kugereranya ikibazo runaka. Gusa biva muri kiriya gihe uyu mwana ari mu nzozi.
Muyandi magambo, umwana wimyaka runaka "akonje" muri twe, aho bimwe byabaye. Hamwe niki gikorwa, umwana yari bigoye kwihanganira. Nk'ubutegetsi, bwaherekejwe na potasiyumu y'amarangamutima, ndetse no muri iki gikorwa kandi nyuma y'umwana utagize ubwitonzi buhagije n'inkunga.
Ibintu nkibi kuva mubana bibuka igihe kirekire, abandi bahanaguwe murwibutso, nkaho atari na gato.
Ariko gusinzira bikinguye imbere yacu, mugihe umwana wawe w'imbere yashoboraga kwibonera ingorane zayo, ibibazo ndetse rimwe na rimwe bihahamutse.
Hamwe nubufasha bwinzozi hamwe nisesengura ryabo, urashobora kwiga cyane, ni "ikibazo" agiye kubwira.
Kurugero, niba inzozi, nko mu ngero zacu, zibona umwana muto cyane, birashoboka rwose ko yahanganye nuwabigizemo uruhare yibyabaye mumyaka ya mbere.
Niba umwana mu nzozi arashaje, agereranya ingorane z'ikindi myaka: Ishami rya Mama, gushaka umwanya "Nanjye ubwanjye" Njye ubwanjye, kubaka umuntu ku giti cye n'umupaka. Cyangwa ikibazo runaka cyabaye muri kiriya gihe cyo gukura.
Menya rero neza umwana wawe w'imbere. Birashoboka nonaha, mu nzozi, yemerera ingorane ze, zihanganye n'ibyiyumvo bitarangiye.
Witondere kandi imyifatire y '"abakuze" b'inzozi kubana babo. Umwe wagize ishozi n'impuhwe, uwa kabiri ararakara.
Ibi nibintu byiza byukuntu ari "abakuze", igice nyacyo cyimyitwarire, igice kivuga ibyabaye kuri twe muri twe. Akenshi uburambe bwaba muri twe kuva kera, kwegeranya, mubyukuri kuko "ababyeyi" uruhare rwacu banegura, bibuza kuba ababajwe, babi, mukundana.
Niba twihanganye kandi twitondera umwana wacu, ntabwo ngomba gukiza ibyiyumvo byinshi muri twe.
Ubuzima bwimbonerahamwe bwaroroshye kandi bushimishije.
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Maria Zebeskova, umuganga wa psychologue, Umuvuzi wumuryango, Amahugurwa Yambere Yimiryango Yiterambere Yumuntu Marka Khazina