Nk'uko byatangajwe na psychologue, ubushobozi bwo gukundana no gukurura ibitekerezo bidahuje igitsina buri mugore, ntabwo abantu bose bazi gukoresha iki gikoresho gisanzwe cyo kureshya. Utagira umutima, biragoye kwiyumvisha intangiriro yumubano uwo ari wo wose, niba rero wumva ko kunanirwa gukurikiranwa no gukundana, urashobora gukenera kumenya inzira zuburyo bwiza, tuzabibwira.
Umugabo biragoye kunanira munsi yumugore
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Shyiramo ibitekerezo hamwe numugabo
Uhagarariye uburinganire budasanzwe arashobora kunanira atoroshye isura ishimishije. Mbere yuko uza guhura nawe, ugomba gukurura ibitekerezo byumugabo ukunda, ariko ntabwo bifunga, ariko ukinisha: Ntukarebe kwibandaho, bitabaye ibyo, uzatera umuntu gutekereza ko hari ibitagenda neza kuri we. Komeza mumaso yamasegonda make, hanyuma ukure kuruhande. Niba ukora byose neza, urashobora kwiringira impuhwe.
Ntutangire ibiganiro bikomeye
Ntakintu kibi kirenze ibiganiro ku busobanuro cyangwa politiki imbere yumugabo ufite gahunda zikomeye. Irinde kandi ibibazo byose bijyanye nubuzima no gutukwa nabandi. Itumanaho ryawe ntirigomba "kohereza" cyangwa mubi bye. Gerageza gukora no gukomeza ingingo nziza, humura.
Ntutangire ibiganiro bikomeye
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Urwenya ntiruzaba hejuru
Nibyo, ntabwo abantu bose bahawe urwenya rwiza, ariko ibi ntibisobanura ko ukeneye kwifuromo no gutegereza mugihe umuvandimwe wawe azahitamo urwenya. Uko urushaho kuruhuka umuntu, hejuru azishimira igihe cyamaranye nawe kandi ukifuza kongera guhura, kuko abantu dushobora kumva koroshya atari byinshi. Ahari ni ugukingura no gusetsa bizahinduka ingingo yingenzi. Ariko nta gusetsa "munsi yumukandara".
Kudasobanuka
Flirt muburyo runaka bwumukino, ntabwo rero akubuza gukora ibitekerezo bidasobanutse, bityo ashyushya inyungu z'umugabo. Ariko, na none, nta bubabare - hafi umuntu uwo ari we wese imyitwarire nk'izo izagutera gutekereza ko ushaka umubano nijoro.
Humura
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Kora ishimwe
Abagabo, nkabagore, byoroshye cyane ku gushima. Niba hari impamvu, kora ishimwe rivuye ku mutima. Ku muntu uwo ari we wese, inkunga yakundwa, mu cyiciro cya mbere cy'ubwozira uzamuha kumva ko ushobora guhora uhora ari umuhine muri we, ashobora kutazahoraho muri we, ntashobora guhora aha.