Turashaka gukunda abagabo, gukundwa, gutera ubwoba. Rimwe na rimwe birasa - ibi bizabaho, kandi nzishima. Ariko hano impamvu n'ingaruka birayobewe. Ubwa mbere ukeneye kwikunda, bitabaye ibyo nta kintu kizabaho. N'ubundi kandi, ntamuntu uzaduha umubano mwiza aho kuba ubwawe wenyine.
Deslike ikorwa mu bwana. Muri iki gihe, iyo umwana abonye isi yose kubabyeyi, umubano numubyeyi ni ukugaragaza umubano wisi nishingiro ryimyumvire yabo. Hardher kandi ubukonje ni ababyeyi, bigoye kwisanga no gukura. Twese twari abana kandi twibutse ukuntu dukeneye kumva kandi byimazeyo, guhobera, gukundwa. Kugira ngo ubwoba bw'umwijima budatera kurakara ababyeyi kugira ngo amarira kubera abahungu batahuye no guta agaciro no kuzura. Twese, tutirengagije, ukeneye urukundo rwababyeyi na caress, byibuze kugirango ubone urukundo rwurukundo.
Ubushyuhe bw'ababyeyi, gushima, ubwibone, inkunga nubutaka umwana wihesha agaciro akura, isi yose. Aho ubutaka bukonje cyangwa ataribwo rwose, ntakintu kizakura. Aho habaye byinshi, cyane, birakabije gukura umwana ukuze uzi igiciro kandi ntawe, ndetse n'umunyagintu ukomeye, ntuzavuna kwizera.
Umuhanga mu by'imitekerereze alena al-nk
Impamvu zo kudakunda birashobora kuba bimwe. Kurugero:
- Akazi k'ababyeyi, umunaniro wabo, ubugizi bwa nabi, kuva ku bana, kuva ku mwana, bimutera kumva ko ari muto, bitari ngombwa. Ndashaka gufunga;
- gusebanya ababyeyi badahuje igitsina akenshi bitera ibibazo muri kumenya ubwabo no mubusambanyi;
- Ishyari ku bana bato cyangwa nyina, guhora binjira "wakuze", ushyire ubwoba bw'abantu mu muntu, urwango umuntu mukuru. Kuva hano na "Nongeye 18", icyifuzo gihoraho gisa nkumuto;
- Gereranya nababyeyi hamwe nabasore baturanye, aho nibyiza, byiza, byiza cyane. Ibi bipimo bidahuye bitera impimbano no kwibasirwa no kugerageza kwerekana, "Ninde mwiza hano", cyangwa kuri syndrome nziza, cyangwa kubura imbaraga "Ndacyari bibi, kuki ugerageza?";
- Hyperopka y'ababyeyi ntabwo iganisha ku kintu cyiza. Ibyinshi bitemba, ntoya hariho amahirwe yo kubaho wenyine, nubwo hamwe no kuzuza ibibyimba bibura.
Nubwo ibintu byose byari byiza mumuryango, ababyeyi bari impuhwe, bitondera kandi bakurikiza microclie yinzu, turasaba imishinga, kandi urungano rwacu nibidukikije biterwa nubusitani bwacu, ishuri, kukazi.
Umubano wa mbere, kugerageza kubaka ikintu runaka, ntabwo buri gihe biganisha ku ntsinzi kandi akenshi birangirana numutima umenetse, gutenguha nibigo. Nubwo ibyo byose, ugomba kumva ko uburambe ubwo aribwo bwose ari ngombwa kandi bufite agaciro, birakenewe ko kuba imico yawe na kamere kandi ninde uzi uko ubuzima bwawe bwaba inyuma yawe.
Wige gukunda ni ngombwa kandi ukeneye igihe icyo aricyo cyose. Ku ya 20, muri 40 ndetse no mu 60, kubaka umubano na bo ni umusanzu mwiza n'umurimo w'ingirakamaro. Kuberako nta mubyiniro hamwe nanjye, rukundo hamwe nawe, rwose ntabwo uzaba umwuga, umubano, ntuzaba ibyo barose. Kuberako badakunda ubwabo ni igikomango cyiza hamwe nanditse "Ntabwo nkwiriye iyi" iburyo ku gahanga.
Nigute ushobora kwikunda?
- Bababarira. Ababyeyi kubukonje bwabo, abavandimwe bashinyagurira, abakobwa bakundana bavoma, gukunda inyuguti inyuma inyuma. Icara kandi ukore buri gice kivuga ububabare. Ni ndende, ariko igira akamaro. Ntiwibagirwe, ntukishingikirize, ntugaruke igihe cyose igitekerezo "Ariko ndashaka", ariko kubabarira;
- fata umubiri wawe. Hamwe nuburemere burenze, hamwe nubumwe, hamwe na hubber kumazuru cyangwa iminwa mito, hamwe no gukura hasi cyangwa amaboko manini - niwowe. Kugirango uhindure, ugabanye ibiro cyangwa guhindukanywa, ugomba kwifatira nonaha, no kuva mu rukundo rugana kunonosoka, no kwangwa.
Kwemererwa no kwiteza imbere bibeshya mu ndege zitandukanye: Ntushobora kuba mwiza, ariko ntiwiyemera. Kandi urashobora gufata kandi udatunganye. Ngwino mu ndorerwamo hanyuma wigire impumuro nziza. Isezerano ryo kumwenyura byibuze inshuro 10 kumunsi. Uratekereza, kandi sinigeze mpatiye kumwenyura, ariko kuko intangiriro izagomba kubikora binyuze mu "musambane?" No gushaka ibidukikije. Hanyuma ujye mu ngeso;
- Kuraho ibyiyumvo byo kwicira urubanza. Fata itegeko: "Ni iki, gisigaye inyuma." Kuzunguruka bitagira akagero mu mutwe, kubaka ibiganiro, gukina ibihe, impungenge ku ngingo: "Byagenda bite ndamutse njye ...". " Genda kera.
Ufite uburenganzira bwo gukora ikosa - ibi nibisanzwe. Ntugomba gutsindishiriza umuntu kubwamakosa yawe. Emera kuba udatunganye;
- Ntukigereranya kandi ntutegereze gusuzuma abandi. Ntugakore ikintu kuko mama (cyangwa undi muntu) ishimwe. Nibyo, ntabwo wabibonye mu bwana, ariko ubu ntutegetswe guhora uhindukirira no gufata uruhinja rwegereje. Urashobora kuba umunyabwenge cyangwa ibicucu, amahirwe cyangwa bitarenze umuntu. Inkuru zabo zose, amakuru yabo yumwimerere kandi nta ngaruka zimuntu zihari;
- Sukura ishimwe. Akenshi, gushishikarira k'umugore bitangiye gutongana: "Yoo, yego, guta, maquillage nziza." Yakoze ishimwe? Urakoze. Biragoye ko abantu bava mu gikono kandi, nimushima, niba ushima kandi ukabivugaho, wenda umuntu nawe akora wenyine kandi akore intambwe yambere. "Ntukakubite amaboko" kandi ntugaragaze ibibinyushwa byawe - birashobora kubana nawe, urabizi, ariko uwo uvuga, ntashobora kubibona.
Wibuke ko ushobora kutabona ikintu cyose kuko utari uko, ariko kuko uyumunsi amahirwe yagusize. Ariko ibi ntibisobanura ko itazagaruka ejo. Kunda kandi wemere uburyo ukuri ari uko ukwiye umubano mwiza, urukundo no kwitaho