Abaganga bafite "amategeko ahimbye" imanza ", nyamara ikoreshwa rwose. Yasanze patologiya - Shakisha icya kabiri.
Kandi muburyo bwo mumitekerereze, ikora ukundi. Umukiriya yaje, azanye ikibazo - kandi no mu ruhererekane, ibi bizahishurwa n'ibi. Ntabwo kera cyane, mumwanya wanjye w'akazi hari ingingo yitwa "umugabo sofa", bivuze ko ari igihe cyo kubisobanura.
Hamwe nibi, abagore baraza, batsinze abitayeho babyarana abana. Ibikoresho, ibintu byumutungo ubuzima bwumuryango kuri bo. Ibindi - Ibibazo bya Ingamba zerekeye uburere niterambere ryabana: aho nuburyo bwo kwiga kubaka gahunda (kugirango tubone umwana, nkuko bihagije ibikoresho), aho kugura amagorofa aho ujya kuruhuka. Abagabo murugo: bakora ikintu murugo, jya mumabwiriza yumugore ahantu runaka, ukurikire igisekuru cya kera, ukampa imodoka muri garage. Niba hari abana, noneho ubafashe. Kandi ibyo aribyo byose. Icara murugo, amafaranga menshi ntabwo abaza ibyo bakeneye kandi ntame aho ariho hose murugo.
Muri rusange, iki kibazo gihuye nimpande zose zimwe na zimwe. Akenshi bifitanye isano no guhungabanya gutakaza ubuzima bwa cormal. Hanyuma avalan yabujijwe nabagabo, rimwe na rimwe rimwe na rimwe, yagwaga abagabo "guceceka", rimwe na rimwe hamwe nimyaka myinshi.
Hano hari ibintu bike bibaye ngombwa kugirango duhure mugihe dukorana nizi manza.
1. Urwego rwa sisitemu. Niba urebye ibisekuruza bike bishize muri iyi miryango, urashobora kubona kuzimira mugihe cyimyaka yintambara, kimwe no gukandamizwa, intumwa no mumateka yukuntu abagabo baburiwe irengero. Ukuntu bishwe, barakandamijwe, barasa. Mu kwibuka umuryango igumaho kuba murugo - intege nke, de-ingufu, ntabwo ari ahantu ho basore. Mu buryo bumwe, ubumuga ntabwo ari kumubiri gusa, ahubwo no gutakaza ubushake bwo kubaho bugaragarira ni ubudahangarwa bwigihombo cyumuryango. Urashobora kwikiza kandi urinde umuryango intimba mugihe cacu mugihe "Kunanirwa" ushakisha akazi cyangwa kumuzi yubucuruzi.
2. Ibintu byose ni nkibisanzwe ... "Ibishisho" muri Mama. Abagore benshi bafite ikibazo cyumuryango, bafite ikibazo kirambuye, bigaragaza ko mama mu bwana bwabo ntabwo bwari, cyangwa yari ikinyabupfura / kunegura / guhana no guhona. Mu buryo bumwe, nk'abana, abagore nk'abo, igitekerezo cy "inzu" ntabwo ari ahantu hshyushye kandi witaruye. Bashishikaye cyane kwibuka urubyiruko, gutembera, gukunda abo mwigana kuruta nimugoroba wo murugo. Noneho umugabo ntabwo akora imikorere, ariko akurikije aho ahari, yishyurwa "" umubyeyi "". Muri icyo gihe, ntashobora no kutamenya nyirabukwe, kubana n'inyungu ze kandi ko ari ubugome bw'abantu. Ingingo ntabwo iri mubuzima, ahubwo ni uguhuza nayo, iyo umuryango uri murugo.
3. Dukurikije iyi ikurikira indi indorerezi. Kubura abagabo nkabo murugo barabahindura mubundi mibanire yabagore batsinze muri leta hafi yo kwiheba no kwangirika. Amaganya yose, ibirego byose no kunegura, biracyatita ku mugabo, kubera ko hari icyo kintu kidakomeje kubana, ni ukuvuga umugore. Mu maso, atakaza imbaraga agwa munsi y'ibyabaye ubwabo, aho atari umuyobozi, "umuriro" na "byose hano bizategeka." Kuri uyumunsi, ni imbaraga, irungu kandi hamwe nibimenyetso byo gutabarwa kwizitirira, ni ukuvuga, ni ukuvuga, iyo tutabona igitekerezo cyo gushaka no kwiyegurira kwanga no kwiyegurira.
Nigute ushobora kubana nayo?
Kuri buri nzego - igisubizo cyacyo ndetse nuburyo bwabo. Ikintu nyamukuru nukumva ko ubwo buryo bwose butagamije ko umugabo ava muri sofa ajya kukazi.
Mu rubanza rwa mbere, inshingano zacu ni ukureba uburyo abakiriya bafite imigenzo rusange yo gutandukana n 'abagabo "bakomeye" bahitamo iyi nkuru yumuryango babifashijwemo na de-imbaraga zingufu zabagabo.
Mu rubanza rwa kabiri, ibibazo hamwe na mama nibyiza gukemura, aho gusubika ... uburyo bwo kubi ntagitekereza, wenda.
Ku rubanza rwa gatatu, umurimo w'abakiriya ni ugenera ibitekerezo n'ibihugu bitesha umutwe bitandukanye mbere y 'umugabo wa Sofa ". Shinga kandi utange inzira nyayo muri iyi leta mubuzima bwawe.
Inzira za Misa, ariko kubabona, waba wabanje gushimishwa nibimenyetso byumuryango, nko muburyo buzwi cyane: "- Nshuti, mubuzima akeneye impinduka zikaze! - Niki, ubeshya kuri TV uzareba sofa? ".
Maria Dyachkova, umuganga wa psychologue, umuvuzi wumuryango, amahugurwa yambere yibikorwa byimikurire yimyidagaduro Marika Khazin