Igikorwa nyamukuru cyabantu benshi - "guhanga umuryango kandi bizaba umunezero" - akenshi bicika ku rutare rw'ukuri, kudashobora gushakisha ibintu by'ingenzi, bishimishije, bishimishije, bishimishije, bishimishije mbere yintoki kumutoki.
Umuryango ntabwo ari umurimo utoroshye, aho uhora ukenera kwimurwa ku byaha bizana imbaraga. Iyi nintererano ihwanye na ebyiri, ni intambara (gusa ntabwo ari imigati-yo bombo, aho umuntu yitaye kumugore, nimyumvire yubusabane).
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Mugihe cyamazu, byari byiza, byiza, ituze.
Kuri kabiri rero barishimye.
Kugirango tutagere kubintu "impfizi z'intama ebyiri ku muhanda w'imisozi".
Ni ngombwa kumva ko rwose umubano unyura mubyiciro bigoye nibibazo. Itandukaniro gusa nuburyo abashakanye bitabira ingorane - umuntu yiruka ku ngorane za mbere, umuntu arashaka uburyo bwo gukemura ibidukikije, bidashoboka kandi ko bizashoboka.
Umuhanga mu by'imitekerereze alena al-nk
Ibihe bigoye mumibanire yumuryango numwaka wambere, icya gatatu, cya karindwi na cumi na bine . Muri ibi bihe niho bigira ngorane, kandi icyifuzo cyo gukemura vuba ubutane bwose ari bwinshi.
Mu mwaka wa mbere ubuzima bwumuryango Abashakanye bakunze kuvugwa, mugihe itangirwa ribaho.
Ibibazo bivutse kubera:
- Ubuzima. Biragaragara ko adakunda bombo, atatanye hirya no hino mu nzu, ahahanamye, amasogisi yanduye munsi yigitanda. Umugabo arenganya icyayi cyane, atora amenyo kubatori kandi arya amaboko mu isafuriya. Kandi, ibibi, bisaba agafuni kuri sasita.
Kuva hanze birasa nkaho ibyo aribyo byose, ariko abantu bamenyereye kubaho muburyo runaka (guta fantom ako kanya, ongeraho imyenda y'imbere mu gitebo), yongeraho cyane igitebo).
Niba iki aricyo kibazo cyawe, tandukanya imirimo yo murugo, tegura iminsi yo gupakurura (Iyo byombi ari ikirundo mumipaka yimyumvire yawe, hanyuma nawe ukorera), reka kandi tudatunganye;
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-Ibiteganijwe birenze . Igihe umugore yari ategereje igikomangoma, maze umunyamabere aramufata, maze ahitamo "impamvu atari", noneho bazababazwa muri byose, usibye igikomangoma. Kuberako ikintu gikomeye ari ukuva mubitekerezo byawe kandi ugahisha amahoro kandi ureba neza uko ibintu bimeze, mubuzima bwawe, kumufatanyabikorwa.
Niba iki kibazo cyagukozeho, reba umugabo wawe cyane kandi wibaze ibibazo bike. "Niba nzahura na miriyoni mu murongo w'umugati, nzababaza umugabo wanjye?", Ni ibihe bintu byiza mugenzi wanjye afite? "," Ibyo ntashobora kwihanganira? "," Ibyo ntashobora kwihanganira? "
- nta byiyumvo . Iyo "Hasiki Tikali" n '"Abakobwa bakundana bose bamaze gushyingirwa, kandi ndi mubi?" Mu bashakanye, ibintu biteye ubwoba bitangira kubaho. Kuberako na bombo no kuba umugabo atari umuherwe, urashobora gukira, ugashaka isohoka kandi wemere urubanza rukurya mugihe ukunda umugabo.
Igihe cavalier amaze kwandika, wise mu gushaka kandi icyaha cyo kudasohokana, hanyuma bikagaragaza ko adatunganye .... Byose, ubuzima buzaba ikuzimu.
Niba wumva ko mubyukuri udakunda uwo mwashakanye kandi, kandi, kuba ufite ibyiyumvo bishyushye, kubaha, niba wumva umerewe nabi, urababara kandi uteye ishozi, ubwo busabane bugomba kurangira.
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Icyiciro gikurikira cyibibazo ni isabukuru yimyaka 3. Akenshi umubano wiki gihe urahagaze neza, utuje, bombo ntamuntu numwe utera. Umubano ugenda neza kandi, icyarimwe Impamvu nshya zo kuvugurura:
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- Mubisanzwe muriki gihe, abashakanye baza mumaboko ye hamwe numwana. Umugore atanga imbaraga ku mwana, kunanirwa, kurwana kumunota wubusa kandi aragerageza kuguma hamwe numugore we yakundaga kandi yifuzaga kumugore we.
Ntabwo buri gihe ikora, cyane cyane iyo umugabo asabwa basabwa na zeru kugirango agire imirimo.
Igisubizo cyo hejuru: Umugabo ushyira hejuru mubuzima bwumwana, mubitaho, kandi umugore ntakinisha Intwari yifuza;
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- Ibibazo mubuzima bwimibonano mpuzabitsina . Birarambiranye, Presno, ntabwo mbere. Kohereza byose byimyaka ya mbere bizashira, ibikenewe byibanze, nko gusinzira.
Kurugero, niba ikoreshwa kugirango yirengagizwe ninzozi nuburuhukiro bwe kubwa nijoro bushyushye, ubu bimaze kuryama, ntibisa nkigitekerezo kibi.
Niba wumva ko ikibazo kiri muri cyo, ntutinye gutandukanya ubuzima bwawe no gutanga imibonano mpuzabitsina no gutanga imibonano mpuzabitsina, vuga, musangire ibitekerezo byawe, ucike intege imiti;
- Amakimbirane ashingiye ku bijyanye n'imari . Birakenewe gukoresha amafaranga kubyo umuryango ukeneye, kwiyanga mubintu, kwishyura inguzanyo / inguzanyo, bigira ingaruka zikomeye kumutekano wa psychologiya yumuntu.
Niba ikibazo cyumuryango wawe ari muribi, ugomba rero gukuramo ubumenyi ninshingano (ibigangiko byingurube, kubitsa, urutonde, kandi ntabwo kugura gitunguranye "Nashakaga".
Gusubiramo Ubuzima, Indangagaciro Nshya, Ikibazo cyimbere cya kamere - Ibi byose ni kimwe mubibazo byumuryango bitaha bibaho Umwaka 7 wo kubana.
Kenshi na kenshi, abashakanye bahura nikibazo gikomeye - ibi ntabwo byumva icyo gukora ubutaha. Umwana yagiye ku ishuri, uwa kabiri sinshaka cyangwa ntaho ushaka, umwuga urahagaze, amakimbirane n'ibibazo byose byatsitaye, kandi ibintu byose biringaniye.
Akenshi, iki kibazo kivugwa nk'imvugo yoroshye "Ni iki cyabuze?".
Kandi ntabwo amarangamutima ahagije no gusobanukirwa icyo gukora ubutaha.
Nta ntego n'impamvu.
Nta kwitabwaho bihagije kubafatanyabikorwa kandi ushaka kuba bishimishije kandi byifuzwa kuri we gusa, ahubwo nanone "byinjira" amarangamutima yabuze kubandi.
Akenshi hariho nostalgia kubuzima bwikigongo no kumva ko byose byari byiza kandi bishimishije aho, none birababaje.
Birakenewe gukemura iki kibazo byumvikana kandi buhoro buhoro: Kwitondera wenyine no kwitondera ubuki, tegura byinshi muri Ukwezi kandi witondere cyane mugenzi wawe, kuko aribyo, Raisher, ntabwo bihagije kuri iki cyiciro cyumubano.
Umwaka cumi na kane wumubano wumuryango Urashobora kurongora nk "ubucuti numugore we / umugabo we".
Abana barakuze, ariko bakeneye ababyeyi batangiye gutandukana muburyo bwabo (abana - ingimbi, kandi buri babyeyi babo bareba isano numwana muriki gihe kitoroshye), amahugurwa.
Ubuzima bwimbitse bwimukiye inyuma nibindi byose - ahubwo ni impetirwa mubashakanye kuruta kwifuza no gukenera.
Abafatanyabikorwa bumva badsabers n'inshuti nziza kurusha abashakanye bityo bagatandukanya hagati yabo kubera ubusumbane mu gusobanukirwa isano.
Muri iki gihe, ushobora kongera gukundana na mugenzi wawe: guhindukira mumyaka yashize, ibuka ikintu cyagaciro kandi cyingenzi cyabaye, urakoze kubitugu bikomeye cyangwa inyuma yizewe. Kurasa hamwe murugendo, gusomana nyuma yakazi cyangwa mugitondo, ureke abana ubwabo bahitemo aho bamenya nuburyo bwo kubaho.
Gukemura ibibazo byumuryango ntabwo byoroshye kandi ni ngombwa kumva ko umuntu umwe adashobora gukora byose kugirango mumuryango wabaye urukundo, amahoro nubwumvikane. Mbere yo guca umubano, byombi bigomba kugerageza kubigira imbaraga zose zo gukiza no kudashidikanya ubuzima busigaye kubyerekeye icyemezo cyihuse.
Kumena - Ntuzubake. Birashoboka ko utihuta?