Ukudashidikanya guturuka he?
Hariho nibura impamvu eshatu zibangamira abantu kwiteza imbere:
- Kumenya umuntu hamwe nabandi.
Umuntu hypersocial ikiremwa kandi kuva mu bwana afata icyitegererezo cy'imyitwarire y'ababyeyi, harimo kopi no gushidikanya.
- Yize atishoboye.
Umwana wakiriye ibitekerezo bibi cyangwa byiza kubabyeyi be, nyuma yigihe, yumva ko ntakintu giterwa nigikorwa cye. Ibi bintu bitanga icyubahiro gito, gushidikanya kandi bidashoboka.
- Ingorabahizi.
Hyperrophied yumva intege nke zayo no kwishyurwa bifitanye isano rya bugufi no kwihesha agaciro nke, kandi kubwibyo, kwizera gutakara kubwimbaraga zayo.
Ibi bitekerezo bitatu byikora tangira imyitwarire myiza ya gahunda mugihe iterana na Triggers.
Gutinya Inshingano
Ibyiyumvo nk'ibi birimo ukuboko hamwe n '"syndrome nziza". Umuntu atinya kwerekana gahunda no gufata inshingano, kuko abona ko atari mwiza cyangwa ushoboye. Mu gushyikirana n'ibidukikije bitinya kuba, kwerekana igitekerezo, kurengera imipaka. Ihindura abandi inshingano zayo kandi ifata umwanya wa pasiporo mugihe ufata ibyemezo.
Bidashoboka
Kubera gushidikanya mu rukundo rushingiye kubandi bantu, umuntu aragoye cyane kuvuga "oya". Ndetse yiteguye kwihanganira imyifatire yo kwiyenga. Byinshi muri byose bitinya kubona isuzuma ribi kandi nkishimira nabi, bityo rero bihora bihuta kumuhamagaro wambere winshuti kurundi ruhande rwumujyi. Kandi hano moteri nkuru ntabwo ari icyifuzo cyo gufasha, mubyukuri kudashobora kwanga.
Ubwibone
Ntibishoboka kuvuga 100% ko kugira isoni no kutagira aho bidahuje buri gihe ari ikimenyetso cyumutekano muke. Bibaho ko imyitwarire yubwibone nubu hari ingeso yo kwiyemeza konte yundi itanga umuntu nkuyu. Abonye cyane kunegura, kubura. Niba wumva ko umuntu ashaka gusimbuza ubukuru bwe, itangira kwitwara ahubwo gushishoza mugusubiza.
Icyifuzo cyo kwerekana ko gihoraho ku isi yose
Umuntu ahora agerageza kwiteza imbere kwerekana abandi ibyo ari byiza. Buri gihe biracyanyuzwe nuburyo bwe, gutsinda, impano. Duhereye kuri uyu kwihesha agaciro guhinduka hasi, kandi gushidikanya birakomeye.
Kwitinda
Umuntu arashobora kwiyumvisha ukuntu ari utoroshye gufatane. Ikosa ryose, bazenguruka umutwe inshuro nyinshi, bagahagarika ibikorwa byabo.
Ishyari
Umuntu ahora afite ubwoba bwo kubura ikintu icyo ari cyo cyose, ntabwo yumva ubutaka munsi y'ibirenge bye. Ibi ntabwo ari ishyari gusa bijyanye no gukorana igitsina. Birashobora kuba umukobwa ukundana, amatungo, umuyobozi kukazi.
Gereranya nabandi
Abantu badashidikanywaho bakunda kugereranya amakuru yabo yo hanze, imiterere yubukungu, ubwenge nubushobozi hamwe nabandi. Kandi umwanzuro ntuzigere uhinduka. Iyo ngeso nkiyi yibanda cyane no kwishyiriraho byinshi "ntacyo ndi" "kandi imizi igabanya kwizera muri njye.
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Inzira 5 zo kugandukira imyitwarire ishushanyije
1. Ntukifashisha inama kuruhande, hanyuma ugerageze gufata icyemezo.
Guhora wishingikiriza ku nama z'abandi, uhita usaba kubona uburambe bushya butagereranywa. Nubwo nyuma yo guhitamo, shaka ibisubizo bibi, noneho nta kibi kiri kuri ibyo. Ariko va mumwanya wumwana hanyuma utangire gukora.
2. Gereranya nawe gusa ejo.
Suzuma intsinzi yabandi hamwe nubutaka bwabo bigaragara. Ntuzigera ubona ishusho rwose kugirango upima ibintu muburyo bufite intego. Ahari umuntu wigereranya nawe, sohoka neza kukazi, ariko wohereza umuzimu wumuryango. Abantu bose baratandukanye cyane kandi buriwese ni mwiza muburyo bwabo.
3. Ibuka uko wari uzi neza.
Garuka mubwenge mugihe wagaragaje ubutwari. Ihuze nawe mugikorwa cyo kwiyumvisha no kubyutsa ibyo byumvikane muburyo bwimitsi. Gerageza gukora iyi myitozo kenshi.
4. Shakisha ikimenyetso muburyo uzumva ufite icyizere.
Kurugero, parufe, urufunguzo, igituba gishyushye, igihagararo kigororotse. Reka ugire mascot runaka, izatanga ubutwari.
5. Tangira gufata inshingano mubitabo.
Kubantu bamwe, niyo mirimo yo murugo itera guhangayika. Niba utazi kwishyura fagitire kandi kuri wewe ikora undi, noneho ugomba kwiga. Kwihesha agaciro kuzatangira kwiyongera buhoro buhoro.
Niba ushaka kugufasha kugira umuntu wa hafi kurushaho kwigirira icyizere muri wewe, noneho reba ibyagezweho cyane, akenshi birashima. Gerageza gushaka agaciro k'inshuti yawe, umukunzi wawe, bityo uzashimangira imbaraga zayo kandi ushimangire icyubahiro.
Kimwe cya kabiri cyo gutsinda kubera gushidikanya ubwabyo biterwa no kumenya intandaro zitera nubuhanga bwo gukurikirana imyitwarire ishushanyije. Shakisha ingeso zawe hamwe niyi ngingo hanyuma utangire kubikora.