Ni ubuhe buryo bushobora kwitwa uburozi? Mbere ya byose, bagutera umunezero, uburozi buturuka imbere. Nta bwumvikane mu mibanire y'ubumara, ariko, ku rundi ruhande, biganisha ku bibazo by'imitekerereze, gusenyuka h'amateka, ndetse n'indwara z'umubiri. Gukuraho ibyo duhuriyeho, gusigara imyaka myinshi, ariko niyo byarashobora kujya kumenya uburozi no kumenya: umubano wawe ntakabaho.
Kubwamahirwe, ubushyuhe kandi burangwa na rimwe, hamwe nigihe, umubano urashobora gutanga igikoma. Hariho impamvu nyinshi zibiki. Ibi biragoye, ubwoba bwimbere cyangwa ibyiyumvo bikonje hagati yabantu babiri. Uyu munsi, njye, Yulia Lansk, urukundo-umutoza No 1 kwisi kumenya ibihembo byabanyamerika, nzagufasha kumenya ibimenyetso nyamukuru byubusambanyi bwuburozi.
Ibitutsi
Akiid, amagambo atari yo kuri aderesi yawe, niyo yaba avugwa mu giseke, ntabwo aribwo buryo, ahubwo ni pathologies. Kuba umugabo ashoboye gutukwa umubano birashobora gusobanurwa na mbere yuko batangira. Itegereze uburyo wahisemo kuvugana nabantu bakikije ari babw'isi. Niba umuntu adahuye nibintu byose bimukikije, igihe kirenze, uzisanga kurubuga nawe. Umukungugu uri kuri Windows widirishya, indabyo zitari muri politiki, igikombe gihagaze hamwe na roct hasi, kandi ntabwo ari hejuru, ibi byose nkigisubizo birashobora kuba impamvu yo gutukwa mubintu byawe.
Imfashanyigisho
Kubwamahirwe, mubucuti bwuburozi, igice cyibitutsi mubitekerezo birashobora kuneshwa vuba. Noneho, ihohoterwa ryumubiri rije gusimbuza interuro. Niba umugabo yemeye gusunika umugore, ayijugunyamo cyangwa "gato" gukubita, kuva mubucuti nkiyi ni ngombwa gutandukana vuba bishoboka. Nubwo, amaherezo, umufatanyabikorwa azasaba imbabazi, arakurira kandi aragushaka kugaruka, menya - yamaze kwambuka ikiremwamuntu, kandi ntakintu kimubuza kubikora.
Mu bihe by'amakimbirane, ntabwo no kubanza kuzamura ikiganza ku mugabo. Bitabaye ibyo, ntashobora kubuza no kugukubita. Mubihe byombi, tutitaye kubyo batangiye amakimbirane, subiza ubwumvikane buzaba ingorabahizi. Hamwe natoneye, umwanya uzibukwa mugihe cyo gutunganya intoki, amaherezo uzasenya burundu ubumwe bwawe.
Julia Lansk
Kunegura gukabije
Ibirego bihoraho, gukura kwikuramo no kunegura cyane kumufatanyabikorwa - bitatu "bileire" byubatswe nubusabane bwububatswe. Akenshi, ibibazo nkibi bituruka kubibazo byabana.
... mu bwana, Andrei yarokotse ubutane bw'ababyeyi. Byabaye ko umuhungu agumanye na Se - nyina yabasize mu wundi muryango. Uyu munsi Andrei - Umugabo wabaye, ariko ntashobora kubabarira ubuhemu bwe - nuburyo abona ko ibintu bimeze. Nk'uko Andrei abivuga, abagore bose - ifunguro rya sahologiya n'abatoza ...
Nibyo, birakwiye gutandukanya kunegura neza mumibanire (iyo umugabo akwereka urugo rudafite gahunda, ibiryo bidashidikanywaho, ibiryo bidashidikanywaho cyangwa kwangiza ibirego biva mu majwi yagoswe n'imbere. Ibirego bidatanga ubutunzi no kunegura igihe icyo ari cyo cyose - ibimenyetso byuburozi ku iterambere ryumubano.
Kumenya kunegura gukabije hamwe nibirego bidafite ishingiro byo gushinja umufatanyabikorwa kuri aderesi yacyo, biroroshye kurangiza umubano wuburozi kugeza igihe cyose bakiriwe neza na bose. Bitabaye ibyo, "urukundo tango", wagombaga kuba ubumwe bwawe, amaherezo uzahinduka umuhati wa rugby, hamwe numukino udahwema uranga kandi ukigitero.
Commes
Umubano aho ubuhemu bwari bumaze gufatwa nkuzuye. Ibyo ari byo byose n'ibihe n'ibizabanzirizwa nacyo, abafatanyabikorwa b'ubwoko mu gihe ubuhemu mu "mfuruka". Kandi niyo yaba umugabo numugore bakomeje kuruhuka, ntibazashobora kubana muburyo bwuzuye bw'Ijambo.
Ubuhemu bwawe ukunda - nka selmochin, mugihe mugihe kigenda cyane. Mu bihe nk'ibi, abantu bose bahisemo wenyine - birakwiriye kurangiza umubano cyangwa kugerageza kubakiza. Ariko, ibuka - "vase vase" itazigera iba imwe - ubuhemu bwabakunzi we ntituzibagirwa. Umubano w'abagabo n'abagore nyuma yicyubahiro watangiriye kurupapuro rushya kandi birashoboka cyane, ntibazongera gushyuha nka mbere. Wibuke: Babarira ubuhemu hanyuma ugerageze gutangira rimwe gusa. Niba ubuhemu bufata ifishi, umubano ugomba kuzura.
Kutitaho ibintu
Kutitaho umuntu ukunda cyane yakomerekeje kuruta icyuma gityaye. Iyi myitwarire ituma bishoboka kubyumva - nta byiyumvo afite, ntacyo akumva. Kutitaho ibintu birashobora gutangwa muburyo bwisi gusa, ahubwo no mubice. Ntabwo asohoza amasezerano, ntakumva, ntagumaho igihe, ntagisomeka mugihe hahuye ... nkigisubizo, "igice cya kabiri" - Ibikoresho "- Ntabwo babibona.
Kubona kutita ku buryo bwuzuye bwabakundwa, fata imbaraga kandi ukemerane - ntakintu kisanzwe muri iyi mibanire, kandi ukure ubusitani bukabije kubutaka butagira imbuto ntabwo bishoboka. Birashoboka cyane ko bizakenerwa kugirango uhitemo umwete wo kwihindura hamwe nimyitwarire yumufatanyabikorwa wenyine. Niba wumva ko umubano wagiye mu mpera zapfuye, ntutinye kubatererana, kuko abandi bagutezeho - guhuza kandi bafite ubuzima bwiza, abo ukwiye.
Guhuza, umubano mwiza - abatagutera ububabare
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Ibigo bibangamira gutsimbataza umubano uhuza
Akenshi, imibanire yubumara iratera imbere hashingiwe ku bitoroshye byabonetse mu bwana cyangwa bwaguzwe mugihe cyo guhinga no gushinga umuntu.
- Gutinya Gutakaza umufatanyabikorwa . Ihuriro aho umwe mubafatanyabikorwa atinya kubura undi, akenshi atandukanya hashingiwe ku ishyari rya patologiya. Igihe kirenze, "Igenzura" ritagenzuwe "ritangiye kurakara, kandi amaherezo, biba kwihanganira. Muri urwo rwego, "ishyari" rigomba kurakaza umukungugu wawe niba agishaka kubungabunga umubano.
-Bidashoboka . Iyo umwe mubafatanyabikorwa atashoboye kubona mubuzima, akenshi atangira gushimangira bitwaje umuntu ukunda, kureka ndetse asuzugura icyubahiro cye. Muri urwo rwego, uburozi burazamura kandi, akenshi, birahuza biragoye cyane. Guhura nibihe nkibi, gerageza umenye impamvu uwo ukunda adakora, amufashe kuba inzira nziza, ishyigikira gukora. Niba kwangwa kuri ego yawe bwite ari umufatanyabikorwa wumufatanyabikorwa, umubano nibyiza kurangiza.
-Gutandukana . Ubuzima hamwe na "uburozi" akenshi biterwa no kwishimisha. "Uraho, ni nde unkeneye?" "Ndarambiranye, ntarambiranye, mfite ibiro byinshi ..." "Sinshobora kutamufite ..." imyifatire nk'iyi y'ubuzima iri ku mufatanyabikorwa "uburozi" gusa. Ukurikije ibyorezo byawe byimbere, bizakomeza kubateza imbere, tureba uko ukomeza hafi, buhoro buhoro. Iyi ni moderi yangiza yimibanire, "uruziga rukabije", aho bibaye ngombwa kugirango uhunge ikintu icyo aricyo cyose.
Wibuke: umubano mwiza - abadagutera ububabare. Tutitaye kumiterere yububabare uhura nacyo - umubiri, mumico, imico cyangwa imitekerereze, menya: uri umubano wuburozi, mubimera byinshi, nibyiza kurangiza. Niba warabonye ibimenyetso byerekana "uburozi" mugihe cyambere cyo guteza imbere umubano, gerageza guhagarika iterambere ryimiterere itari nziza.