Iyo twinjiye mubucuti, turizera ko uwo mwashakanye azakomeza kuba indahemuka kuri twe, yirinde mardini. Ariko bibaho, ikibabaje, ntabwo buri gihe. Rimwe na rimwe, kubahemba bibaho, kandi rimwe na rimwe "mu mibanire irambye ibangikanye kandi ndetse no, mubyukuri, imiryango ya kabiri. Abagore benshi barababazwa kubibazo niba umugabo ari ay'ukuri. N'ubundi kandi, ibitazwi akenshi birababaje ndetse namakuru mabi cyane. Ariko nigute wabimenya niba umugabo ahindutse cyangwa atariyo? Niba udafite ibimenyetso ijana ku ijana, noneho inzira imwe yo gusohoka ni ugushaka ubufasha kumugereza wenyine. Nyamara, amafaranga kubikorwa byumwuga ntabwo aribyo byose, kandi umuntu ntashaka gutwara imibabaro mu kazu. Kubwibyo, urashobora kugerageza gushiraho ubudahemuka cyangwa ubuhemu bwa mugenzi wawe wenyine.
Evgeny Nikolaev
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Ubwa mbere, witondere guhuza terefone n'imiyoboro rusange "biratangaje." Tuba muri societe yamakuru, kandi itumanaho binyuze mubikoresho bigendanwa na interineti bigira uruhare runini kuri twe. "Ihamagarwa" rya mbere, rigomba kuba maso, muri uru rubanza rizaba: Kugaragara kwa terefone ya kabiri igendanwa ku mugabo we, atamamaza; Icyifuzo cyo kuganira kuri terefone yonyine, nta "matwi bitari ngombwa"; Kugaragara kw'impapuro z'ibinyoma mu mbuga nkoranyambaga; Gusohoka burundu kurupapuro rwarwo murubuga rusange, nubwo umugabo avuye muri iki cyumba.
Rimwe na rimwe, hashobora kubaho isesengura ry'imibereho rusange - "Gukunda" munsi y'amafoto, havuka abantu bashya mu nshuti. Birakwiye kwitondera nimero nshya za terefone zishobora kwiyoberanya nkibyiringiro nka "Vova" cyangwa "kolya" - abagabo benshi ntibatandukanye cyane kandi bakizera ko abagore batazitondera ibyo byanditswe.
Icya kabiri, impinduka umuntu ahindura imyitwarire, ingeso. Kurugero, niba uwo mwashakanye afite akamenyero ko kugendana ninshuti zo kunywa byeri mu kabari, none birahinduka neza nta kimenyetso cyo kunywa inzoga, ariko uhora ugenda ku wa gatandatu. Hashobora kubaho inyungu zihoraho kandi nshya, niba gitunguranye umugabo atangiye kwiga uburyo bushya bwa muzika cyangwa asoma ibitabo, akaba ari ngombwa atigeze ashimisha cyane, ntabwo akumiriwe cyane kugirango amenyeshe kuri umuziki cyangwa ubuvanganzo uburyo bushya bwa pasile.
Niba umugore akunda rwose kandi azi umugabo we, ari wenyine, bizumva impinduka muri yo
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Icya gatatu, byinshi birashobora kuvuga impinduka mu ngeso zurugo. Kurugero, niba umugabo yitaye cyane kubigaragara, hanyuma avuga adukaze kubyerekeye gusubiramo uburemere, atangira gukina siporo, yatangiye gukina siporo, yatangiye kwiyuhagira siporo, yiyuhagira mbere yo kugenda no kwishimira kugendana hanze no kwishimira akaba n'imyuka. Biragaragara ko hagati yigitabo, abantu bose bashaka gukora ibitekerezo byiza cyane.
Kugabanuka gutunguranye gukurura imibonano mpuzabitsina bizaba ikimenyetso cyo gutabaza, cyane cyane iyo umugabo yahoraga atandukanijwe n'imiterere yo hejuru, kandi aherutse kubabara, atari ukuvuga ko inzoga zagabanutse muri Libido.
Ariko, niba koko umugore akunda kandi azi umugabo we, We ubwayo, byimazeyo, azumva ko yagaragaye kandi azumva ko atari a nyirabuja, noneho byibuze ushishikajwe nundi mugore. Niba ibimenyetso bya documentaire byibi bizasabwa, noneho urashobora kureba umugabo wanjye, vuga, gerageza kumukurikira, umuhamagare inshuti runaka na urwitwazo, nibindi. Ariko inzira yizewe yo kwiga kubyerekeye ubuhemu bwumugabo we, byukuri, ubujurire busaba ubufasha kumugaragaro.