Perezida wa Fondasiyo "ihute yo gukora ibyiza!" Abitabiriye ibiruhuko babaye abakobwa bafite imyaka 10 kugeza kuri 15 uhereye ibigo by'ibigo no mumashuri yinjira. Umunsi mukuru "hagati yacu, abakobwa" ni urukurikirane rwibiganiro byingirakamaro na Master News Service kubyerekeye ubuzima, ubucuti nimiryango biva mubaganga nabaganga. Oksana yabwiye ko abitabiriye uyu munsi mukuru bari ngombwa, bikenewe n'umukobwa ugezweho kuba umubyeyi wishimye mu gihe kizaza.
- Oksana, mu munsi mukuru wakinguye nabakobwa?
- Ubwa mbere, nari mfite itsinda rinini ryabantu bahuje ibitekerezo, kandi buriwese yagerageje kwigisha abakobwa ikintu, cyingenzi. Twifuzaga kugira izo ikintu aho bishoboka gusobanurira abakobwa mu buryo yatoragamo, nk'uko ukeneye kwita ku buzima bwawe, uko bita ku ubwawe uko kwitegura kurema umuryango. Abakobwa benshi bishora mubushishozi. Barashushanyije, badoda, baboha, mu ijambo rimwe, bagerageje kumva icyo roho yabo abeshya. Igihe cyarahumutse cyane, ntawe urambiwe. Umunsi mukuru wahindutse ushimishije, kandi ndashimira abantu bose banshyigikiye.
- Niki watangajwe nabakobwa b'ingimbi, uribuka muri iki gihe?
- Abakobwa barakinguye cyane, bafite impano, bazi kuvugana, kuba inshuti. Ntibakeneye kubwira ikintu runaka. Bose bumva. Byuzuye imbaraga. Imitima ifunguye ibyiza, ubumenyi - ni ngombwa cyane!
Njyewe, mfite imyaka 10-15 nari umwana utuje. Nahoraga ngerageza kumva icyo imico yanjye mfite, uwo nshaka kuba inshuti, icyo nkunda kandi sinkunda, nzumvira umwanzuro. Mu mizo ya mbere, nagerageje Loti: Nagiye mubyina kubyina, kuririmba, kuririmba, gushushanya, gucuranga piyano na gitari nibindi byinshi. Iki ni imyaka iyo ugerageje gupfukirana byinshi bishoboka kugirango wumve icyo ukunda, ubugingo. Nashakaga kubanza kubimenya muri njye. Muri iki gihe, gusobanukirwa n'abantu bakuru ni ngombwa kumwana uzashyigikira no kohereza imbaraga mu cyerekezo cyiza. Kandi igihe mama yagerageje kunsobanurira ikintu, yarabikoze neza, nta nkomyi. Urugero rwe rwabaye ingenzi kuri njye. Mubwana, ni ngombwa ko umwana uwo ari we wese agira urugero rwigisha, icyitegererezo gishobora kunganya. Ibi twashakaga kwereka abakobwa - uburyo bwo kumenya ubwabo mubyerekezo bitandukanye, uburyo bwo kumenya gukora ikintu cyiza, uburyo bwo gusobanukirwa neza mubintu byinshi byingenzi. Nashakaga kandi gukora amahugurwa yo guteka, kwigisha abakobwa amatako cyangwa pizza, ariko bizaba igihe gikurikira.
Oksana Fedorova n'abitabiriye umunsi mukuru "hagati yacu, abakobwa." Ifoto: Instagram.com.
- Ibyo ukora kubwibyo byiyogo by'imfubyi ni ngombwa kandi bikosore. Ariko nanone, sinshobora kugufasha kukubaza, mubitekerezo byawe, mugihugu cyacu hari abana benshi batereranywe?
- Njye mbona, hari ikibazo cyo kurera ibyiyumvo bya kibyeyi. Ibi nibyo bigomba kuzamurwa nimyaka yingimbi mugihe umukobwa atangiye gushinga ubwenge bwumugore ukuze, uzaba umunyamahanga uzaza murugo rwumutima. Kandi uko ubuzima bugoye ubuzima bubaho - kandi ntabwo baba mubakobwa bo mu bigo by'imfubyi, ahubwo ko atari mu muntu uwo ari we wese - nta muntu wishingiwe muri bo. Rero, ntabwo rero bibaho, hagomba gushingwa runaka mu mutwe wa Mama w'ejo hazaza bidakwiye gutandukana n'umwana wabo mubihe byose. Biragaragara, uku gukangurangira biterwa ninshingano. Mbega ukuntu inshingano zubuzima bwundi muntu zashingwa, biragoye gusubiza. Ikibazo nigikenewe kugirango ukemure ikibazo cya psychologue.
Birumvikana ko amazu y'abana ntashobora gukemura ikibazo cyose cyimfubyi zabana. Leta igomba gufata inshingano z'iterambere ry'ikigo cy'umuryango wa Patoroni. Mu miryango nk'iyi, abana babana n'ababyeyi bamureraga, ni ukuvuga mu barezi. Nari mu miryango nk'iyi. Nibyiza cyane kuruta impfubyi, aho umwana nta mwanya wihariye, aho isenyutse mubwinshi bwabana. Kandi birakenewe gusobanura umugabo muto kumuntu muto kugirango mubuzima bwe bwose agomba gusubiza hakiri kare cyangwa nyuma. Ubuzima buri gihe hamwe nawe bizakenera igisubizo. Kwizera buri gihe haza gutabara mubihe nkibi. Afasha gutsinda ingorane mubuzima.
- Kandi utekereza ko ari ingenzi muri iki gihe kubakobwa, icyitonderwa gikwiriye gufasha abangavu bakura bakura abantu bafite ubuzima bwiza, bwuzuye?
Ati: "Kugira ngo tuvuga mu masomo, ni ngombwa ko umutwe w'ikigo cy'abana ari umuntu wishimye, witonze uhisha ubugingo bwe mu bana. Niba ibi aribyo, guhanga bitera imbere mu cyumba, hari itumanaho risanzwe hagati yabantu. Gusa mbona ko niba ibizunguruka bifite agaciro keza k'umuntu ukwiye, noneho birahagije. Ibi mvuga nkumukobwa wareze adafite se. Ndumva ukuntu ari ngombwa kumukobwa ari umuntu wumugabo, kugeza kumashusho ya Data wuje urukundo, wita ku bandi arakenewe. Kuva hano hari urugero rwiza mugusuzuma bihagije abo basore bazahura mubuzima. Nibyiza, kuva mubana bato, Papa abwira umukobwa we ko yari afite ubwiza, ubwenge, bwiza cyane. Buri mukobwa agomba kumva ukundwa kwe mumuryango. Kandi ntabwo ari ngombwa ko yakoze ku marushanwa meza. Ikintu nyamukuru nuko kwihesha agaciro biri kurwego rukwiye. Bizatuma bishoboka gukora umuryango wuzuye wuzuye, ufite ubuzima bwiza.
Oksana Fedorova yizera ko mubihe bigoye, umuntu ahora ashyigikira kwizera. Ifoto: Instagram.com.
- Biragaragara ko muriyo mu nama hari ukuntu uzamura kwihesha agaciro abakobwa? Kandi muri rusange atoroshye?
- Ntabwo ari hasi, birasuzugura. Bari inyuma yumubiri no mu maraso, batinya kubaza ibintu byinshi. Rimwe na rimwe birakenewe gusubiramo inshuro nyinshi ikintu kimwe. Sinshaka kuvuga ko bakura ukundi, ariko bakeneye kwitabwaho cyane, kurushaho kwitabwaho, ugomba kubavugisha igihe cyo kubaho mugihe runaka, ahubwo ukeneye kuri gahunda. Noneho umurimo wacu nukuyobora muriyi nama kugirango utsinde, ubahe umwanya ukwiye. Intsinzi ntabwo ari uguhinduka icyitegererezo hamwe n'ikamba ku mutwe no kwishimira abantu bose hirya no hino. Ibyishimo by'abagore muyindi: Iyo ufite umuryango usanzwe, uhoraho, umugabo mwiza, umwana muzima.
Ni ngombwa kuvuga ko umunezero wumugore ari ibintu bitoroshye kandi aratoroye cyane. Nibyiza kuvuga ko kubwinzozi ze zigomba gukora cyane, uhagaze moderi yimyitwarire. Kora ishusho yumuryango wishimye, birasa n'amagambo yoroshye, kandi hari imirimo myinshi inyuma.
- Bavuze ku ikamba, kandi sinshobora kukubaza ikibazo nk'iki. Aherutse kurangira "Miss KINGINESE", kandi ntubyitayeho ko amarushanwa akomeye atigeze akorwa mu Burusiya mbere?
- Iki nikibazo cyamagambo. Mubyukuri, haribihugu byinshi batigeze bakora iri rushanwa. Ntekereza ko igihe ntarengwa ntacyo gitwaye, umurongo waya leta uzabikora vuba cyangwa uza. Nishimiye cyane ko amarushanwa ya Miss flandse yabaye uyu mwaka mu Burusiya. Ibi byerekana ko igihugu cyacu cyiteguye gufata ikiganiro nkicyo. Igihe ninjiraga mu marushanwa ya Miss Monose - 2002, ikibazo nticyashoboka niba cyashobokaga gufata amarushanwa nk'aya mu Burusiya. Ikibazo cyari iki, uburyo bwo kohereza umunywanyi mu Burusiya? Noneho ntituri dufite imyiteguro, nta burambe. Gusa twaguze itike kandi twirukana mumarushanwa. Muri Porto Rico, ikintu cyingenzi kuri njye cyari gikwiye gutanga igihugu cyanjye utahaga ibisubizo. Amarushanwa yabereye i Moscou yerekana ko twakuze dusobanukiwe n'ubwiza bw'umugore, mu gusobanukirwa ishusho y'umugore. Nzi neza ukuntu umugore mwiza ari mwiza gusuzumwa. Kubera iyo mpamvu, nishimiye rwose abakobwa baguye muri iri ruhe makuru kandi bashoboye kwiyerekana mubwiza bwabwo kwisi.
- Ikintu "Brande". Ibyo umugore akeneye kumva afite ikizere, kuko inama zizaba ziva muri Miss isabe!
- Ikintu nyamukuru nuko mumukobwa hari ibyiringiro nubusanzwe. Ugomba kuzamura imisaya, ugorora ibitugu kandi ntukagire isoni. Kubwamahirwe, kama kumugore kuzana uburambe, hamwe nibintu bimwe na bimwe. Ariko guharanira iyi leta ukeneye kumyaka iyo ari yo yose. Nifuzaga ko buri mugore yumva ameze neza, yibuka ko ari ngombwa kunoza ifishi, ahubwo ni ibino. Umugore uzi ubwenge azahora abona uburyo bwo kuba mwiza.
- Oksana, urashaka rero kwifuriza abasomyi kumwaka mushya?
- Nshuti nshuti, umwaka mushya uraza - kwifuzwa cyane, umunsi mukuru wishimye kwisi. Ikiganza cyumuntu cyatsinze abantu amarozi ya shelani yibyiza, kwinezeza nibyishimo.
Nifurije abantu bose mumwaka mushya umwuka ukomeye, ukomeye wo kwegera ikintu cyose gifite imbaraga zidasanzwe no guhumekwa! Reka buri gihe cyose gitegereje gusa ibyabaye gusa! Nibakuzane n'imiryango yawe mibereho myiza, ubutunzi, ikizere ejo! Ibyishimo, Urukundo nubwiza kubantu bose beza mumwaka mushya!