Kwihesha agaciro bihagije ni gake. Abantu ntibasuzuguye, noneho barenze - hagati ya bake barashobora. Bamwe mu ba psychologue biyita kwiyongera kwa Narcissism, basobanura icyifuzo cye cyo gukurura ibitekerezo bivuye mu biruhuko, bikabije mu biruhuko, biciriritse mu buryo butunguranye no kugerageza guhindura isura yabo mu cyifuzo cyabo. Ariko, ibintu byose ntabwo byoroshye: birashoboka kwigenga kumenya isuzuma rirenze gusa binyuze mumagambo tuzasobanura hepfo.
"Kuki utankorera ishimwe"
Ijambo ryiza ni ryiza kubantu bose, ariko bivuye ku mutima bizahora bifite agaciro kuruta interuro yerekana. Mubyukuri, Narcissus, mubyukuri, bityo rero, bityo rero hagomba kwandikwa muburyo bwo gushima nabandi bantu, cyane cyane igitsina. Abakobwa barashobora kwambara cyane cyane imyenda ifite ijosi rito, mini, irangi ryiza kandi yubake umusatsi, gusa gutera umusatsi wihariye mumarangamutima amwe. Abasore bakunze kuba hafi igice cyumunsi muri siporo, bagerageza gushyira umusatsi wabo no gufata imyenda kugirango bihangane imyanda.
Abakobwa barashobora kwambara neza cyane, gusa gutera hafi byibuze amarangamutima amwe mumarangamutima
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"Ijambo ryanjye - Amategeko"
Umuntu uhagije afite umwanya we, ariko ahora yumva aho abona abantu bamumwegereye. Ntabwo umenya mugenzi wawe, abana n'inshuti, bityo ntibirumvikana ko uhagurutse mu foto kandi ukareka uko wabaho. Urashobora kubona uburambe murukurikirane rwibibazo, ariko ntugomba kubashimira kandi ukagerageza kuganduza abakunzi bawe "Ndacyibuka amagambo yanjye." Itumanaho rigomba kubakwa kuyubahwa no gushimishanya, kandi ntibisobanura ibikorwa bya minipulative.
"Yego, nasekeje gusa"
Narcissus gufata mu mutwe ubwo aribwo bwose bwawe, kugirango buri kibazo cyoroshye, ibuka. Bakunda kandi gushyira igitutu ku ntege nke zawe kandi bagahindura ingingo zikomeye zo kuganira muri urwenya rwa Manipulative - kugira ngo bavuge umwanya wabo mu maso hakomeye, hanyuma bakabaza impamvu utigeze ushushanya uburiganya bwe. Mbwira umuntu inshuro nyinshi ko udashimishije mugihe agerageza ahantu habuze kugirango aguhamagare kumarangamutima. Niba itumva, bivuze ko byoroshye kubiva byoroshye kuruta guhura no kubabazwa no gutegereza gukura kwe.
Abantu benshi kugeza kuri 40-50 bavuga ko bari mu bugingo abana bagerageza kwirinda inshingano
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"Nibyo, ndacyafite umwana mu bugingo bwanjye"
Ikigereranyo kingana n'inshingano. Abantu bose bariteguye kubyo? Ntabwo. Abantu benshi kugeza kuri 40-50 bavuga ko bari mu bugingo abana bagerageza kwirinda inshingano, kuko abana basezera ku bana. Kwibanda ku rubyiruko rw'ubugingo, barashobora gutsindishiriza ibikorwa byabo n'amagambo. Tekereza mbere yo kwinjira mu mibanire n'umuntu w'abanabona - iyi mikorere ni mibi haba ku ruhande rw'abagabo n'uruhu.