Biragoye kuvuga umubare wumukobwa watsinze inzozi z'umuntu mwiza, umubare utari mwiza, ariko abagabo bakwiriye banze kubera kwizerana ubusa kugirango bashakishe iki gitekerezo nyine. Kandi hamwe nibi byose, hari bike nicyo gitekerezo cyo kwanga kitoroshye kuko uko ari kubitekerezo kugirango uhure ninzozi z'umuntu. Ariko ugomba kwanga, kandi byihuse ubikora, amahirwe menshi ugomba kubaka umubano mwiza "mubuzima busanzwe."
Bidasanzwe, sibyo? Byasa nkaho, birakwiye, birakwiye guhura numuntu utunganye - kandi umunezero uzaza, ubwumvikane kandi bwumvikane kandi urukundo ruzatura murugo rwawe, kandi urukundo ruzahoraho, kandi nta gikorwa na kimwe kizahoraho. Ariko ntibibaho. Kandi iyi niyo mpamvu imwe iremereye - ntanumwe muri twe ari mwiza.
Ukwizera gukomeje guturuka he?
Ntabwo ari ibitabo bya kera gusa hamwe nintwari zahimbwe cyangwa Hollywood hamwe nintwari zahimbwe cyangwa uburere bwa Hollywood kwari ugushinja, ariko nanone ukwiye ibyiza, ntukemere ko ari nto, ntuze kumvikana) . Umuntu utunganye ni kwibeshya, kandi kwibeshya kwangiza niba ushaka kugera kubintu mwisi nyayo. Icy'ingenzi nuko ari ngombwa kwanga igitekerezo cyo gushakisha icyifuzo kigomba kubyumva gusa, ahubwo ukemera. Kuberako dukunze gutera imbere, turabyumva, ariko ntidushobora kwakira mu bugingo kandi tugakomeza gukora neza.
Ibi bivuze ko ukeneye kumvikana kumubano uwo ariwo wose numuntu uwo ari we wese? Birumvikana ko atari byo.
Alena al-Ac
Urashobora guhitamo kandi bikenewe, ariko uyobora hamwe nubu buryo bwiza.
Ubwa mbere, kugirango wumve uwo ushaka. Ni izihe mico mu muntu ari ingenzi cyane, zirashimishije cyane. Gushaka umucuruzi ufite umutekano? Witegure kubyo azabura kukazi. Gushakisha Ubwiza buhebuje kandi bunezerewe? Ahari ntuzaba wenyine. Gushakisha Data mwiza kandi wita ku bana? Witegure ibiruhuko byawe, utazamara muri Mallorca, ariko muri Anapa. Nibyo, urugero ni bumwe, ariko bigaragara.
Icya kabiri, udafite stereotypes nurwikekwe. Niki cyamuvugisha niba atazi henry Miller? Afite imodoka ihendutse - Inshuti zanjye zizavuga iki? Imitekerereze yumuntu itondekanye kuburyo ibintu byose byiza bigaragara nkuko byemewe, kandi inenge zose zitangaje. Tekereza niba ibyo bibi bigira akamaro bikabije inyuma yinyungu.
Icya gatatu, ntutegereze umubano ako kanya. Ako kanya, ubutabazi cyangwa, ku buryo, kuroga, kwangwa bishobora kubaho. Kandi ibyo kandi ibindi byumviro birashobora kuba bibi. Ntugafate imyanzuro yihuta. Nibyo, abagabo beza, nkumubano mwiza, ariko inkuru nziza ni uko gushinga umubano mwiza numuntu nyawe bishoboka kandi hafi ya byose.