Mw'isi ya none, umugore ntabwo byoroshye. Niba kare hashoboka ko ubukungu no kurera abana, ubu ugomba komeza neza, ngo ube umunyamwuga. Niba ababyeyi bambere bakemuwe uwo bashaka kurongora, none guhitamo gukwiye gukorwa! Kubwibyo, nta kwihaza, umugore ukijyaho ntashobora gukora. Kuki kwihaza? Bibi bijyanye no kwishingikiriza, amafranga cyangwa imitekerereze, umugore azagira intege nke, aba igitambo cyimiterere kandi ikoreshwa gusa. Ntakennye. Kukazi, umugore utunzwe akora nk'ifarashi y'ishami ryose. Rimwe na rimwe gushidikanya hamwe n'ibihe, rimwe na rimwe bisobanura ubunyangamugayo bwabo n'umurava. Ariko ku kuba ibi ari ugusenyuka. Kandi igomba guhinduka! Abagore benshi bibaza: Nigute Umva Izi mbaraga kugirango ubashe kwihagararaho no gufata ibyemezo bitariye kumarangamutima, ahubwo ni ukureba ejo hazaza? Kwihaza ni urufatiro rwinkingi 4.
Ntibitangaje kubona abafilozofe bavuze ko kugena ubwenge. Inkingi ya mbere y'ifatizo yo kwihaza ni imari. Biragoye gutekereza ku bwigenge, niba no ku biryo n'ibiryo byiza, Denuzhek ibura. Abagore bose b'ibanze bakeneye kugira umutekano. Nigute? Irashobora kuboneka kubwumwuga wasabwe nisoko, kurema ibikoresho byinjiza pasiporo (kugura umutungo utimukanwa wo gukodesha, nibindi), ibiganiro, nibindi, ndetse no gushiraho gukundana no ahantu hose ushaka gukora.
Ntuzigere ubura amahirwe. Ndashaka kubibona, ntabwo bivuguruza igitekerezo cyuko umugabo agomba guha umuryango. Hariho impirimbanyi muri byose. Wige gushimira no kwishima gufata amafaranga nkimpano kandi witondere hasi! Reka iyi nkunga ikundike, ariko ntabwo ari amahirwe yonyine! Inkingi ya kabiri yo kwihaza ari kwihesha agaciro. Ubwayo. Isuzuma. Ibyo utekereza kandi umenye ibyawe n'imico yawe. Abagore benshi, iyi nteruro ikimara kumva iyi nteruro, hita ihita itangira kuvuga ko bashobora gukora bike, biremwe, binubira. Hano hari hagarara! Ubu ni 100% by'uwahohotewe. Umukobwa utishoboye kuva mu bwana, bwagahagaritse. Akenshi kuko wabigishije mama, na Mama ni mama wabo. Ariko ibihe birahinduka. Kandi ugomba kwikiza.
Ushaka kwihaza - wige kubona imico yawe myiza, ubahe agaciro kuruta amakosa. Shima nkuko ushaka guhimbaza ababyeyi bawe. Ntukagire umururumba! Jya unegura, ariko ntukizeze wenyine. Witondere kwihatira akazi kakozwe kandi nkibyo. Ibi bizagufasha kudashonga mubukwe cyangwa kukazi, ntutakaze imyumvire yawe nkumuntu utandukanye. Ni iki kindi gishobora gufasha kunoza kwisuzuma?
Inkingi ya gatatu iriho iterambere rihoraho. Ndetse na inyuma yikirundo cyimirimo yo murugo, igihe kirageze cyo gusoma, guhanga, siporo, kuvugana nabantu. Tekereza urihe mugore wemera? Ninde ufite isura nziza kandi yaka. Bikabungabunga neza kandi bigashyirwa mubikorwa. Iterambere ryawe imbere kandi hanze niyo garanti yonyine yo kuguringa inyungu muri wewe kuva abo mudahuje igitsina, cyane cyane niba umaze kuva mumyaka "isugi". Umugore wishora mubintu hanze yinzu akaba azahora ashishikajwe numugabo we nabandi bagabo. Witondere gukomeza guteza imbere amafaranga yawe-gatatu ukora mugihe cyawe cyubusa, ariko unanire ubuhanga bwawe nkaho ukora umwuga. Nta sahani yanduye igomba kukubuza kubaho ubuzima bushimishije! Ariko birashobora guhinduka byoroshye kugirango wirinde ibishya. Bigoye gufata? Shora mu koza ibikoresho hanyuma ubone umwanya!
Kandi inkingi yanyuma yingenzi yo kwihaza ari kwigirira icyizere nubushobozi bwo kubaka imipaka. Nibintu byingenzi biranga umugore wigenga kandi ukomeye ukeneye kwigisha mubibazo byose. Niba utanze ubunebwe niba wemereye umuntu guca imipaka yawe, noneho bizaba byinshi kandi kenshi. Biragoye kubyizera mugihe igitekerezo cyundi muntu kiba ngombwa kuruta ibyawe.
Ntabwo usabwa kumvira umugabo wawe cyangwa shobuja. Kandi nta hantu na hamwe ntabwo yanditse ko ibitekerezo byabo ari ngombwa kuruta ibyawe. Ibuka ibi. Umuntu wese agomba kumenya: Hariho imico udashobora kwimuka, kandi iyi mico idashobora kurindwa nkuko umupaka urinda imipaka yigihugu cye kavukire. Ituze, ariko hamwe n'ingaruka za Saboteurs.
Hamwe no kurengera imipaka yawe bwite, ubushobozi bwo kubyitwaramo imyitwarire mibi n'inzika kumugabo. Ntibishoboka kwerekana ko ikosa iryo ari ryo ryose rizababarirwa ko witeguye gufunga amaso kuri buri kintu cyose. Amategeko agomba kubakwa nkuko ushobora kuvugana nawe, nibishobora na rimwe kubaho. Ni ngombwa kuvuga kubyerekeye amategeko yawe kandi umenye amategeko aribyo. Ikinyabupfura, ikinyabupfura cyangwa guhohoterwa ku mubiri bizaguhenze cyane kandi birashoboka ko agomba kwibagirwa umubano nawe. Ariko kubera urukundo, kwitondera, inkunga no kukwitaho bizashimira kumwenyura, amarangamutima meza kandi witayeho.
Umugore wigenga wiyitaho wenyine ahora arezwa kandi ashimishije. Ntoya usebanya kubibi, niko imbaraga n'amahirwe muri wowe. Baho mu mibanire myiza nawe.