Amuna ambiri amva za kupenda kugonana komanso kulibe kanthu, amayamba kukwiya pamwambowu. Komabe, amunawo si oyera mtima - amasakaina amasakazidwa ndi akazi, monga momwe zimawonekera kwa iwo, pobwezera, koma iwo safuna kuzizindikira. Palinso maphunziro apadera, omwe abambo amadziwa bwino "zojambula" izi.
Mwamuna sayenera kufuna chilichonse
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#one. Mwamunayo akuyesera kuti andikhumudwitse
Zoonadi, ena mwa inu amva mawu oterewa: "Ukakana, chifukwa sukundikonda!" Osazindikira pankhani yaubwenzi, mtsikanayo amayamba "kuwongolera vutolo, koma onetsetsani kuti mwamunayo sakuimitsa - akangovomera, abwera ndi njira yatsopano yochitira mwa inu .
Pambuyo pake, amuna sayenera kudabwitsidwa pamene mayi akwaniritsa zofunikira zake, mwachitsanzo - palibe kugonana popanda kuchezera holide yake. Iwonso ndi omwe amafunika.
# 2. Munthu akuyesera kuti akuwonongeni ndi mawonekedwe ake onse
Madyerero awa amapezeka pamlingo wa chibadwa: bambo safunikira kuphunzira mwachindunji. Mkazi akangobwera pamaso pake, amene amamuona kuti amalota, adzanena zonse za mwini wake.
Munthu pamaso panu sadzatha kuyang'ana maso anu. Monga lamulo, amaganizira za thupi lanu. Ndikothekanso kukumana naye ndi mawonekedwe ongofunika kwambiri. Amaika manja ake m'chiuno, ndipo masokosi ake amatumizidwa kumbali yanu.
Izi sizowonekeratu, koma zoterezi zimakhudza mayiyu.
Ukwati sukukakamiza kuti mukwaniritse zonse za wina ndi mnzake
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# 3. Mwamuna amayamba kuvutitsa chisoni
Panthawi imeneyi, bambo angakhudzeni mwa kukopa ndi nkhani za moyo wake zovuta: Amadandaula za banja lake, ntchito, abwenzi - ndi chilichonse kuti musonyeze kukondera munthu wosauka komanso modandaula. Zokhudza chikondi pankhaniyi sizitero ndi zolankhula. Ndiye wozunzidwa.
#. Amakukondani pazomwe simukufuna kuchita
Tidzalemekezedwa, osati kwa akazi onse amasangalala kugonana pakamwa, koma si amuna onse omwe ali okonzeka kuzilandira, motero amapita ku machenjerero osiyanasiyana. Makamaka nthawi zambiri zimakumana ndi okwatirana, munthu akamaliza udindo wonse: "Kodi mungadziyang'anire bwanji mkazi wanu ndipo osakondweretsa amuna anu?" Amayi ambiri amaganiza mozama za kugonana komwe adadzigoneka pamodzi ndi chilolezo chokwatiwa. Kumbukirani kuti simuli mikhalidwe wamba kuti musachite zomwe simukufuna. Ngakhale kwa mwamuna wake.
Amuna akhoza kukhala ochenjera kwambiri
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#kuti. Mwamuna akuyesera kukuyimbirani chikumbumtima
Ngakhale ngati simukufuna chilichonse ndipo musamangokane, bambo amatha kusungitsa tebulo pamalo odyera osavomereza, ndipo ngati mukukana kuti musiye mapulani - zimachita zambiri.
Tiyeni timvetsetse bambo anu kuti mukusankhidwa mwa m'gulu lanulo lomwe mwangoyambira osakambirana nanu, ndipo simulipira "njira" momwe angafunire. Ngati mukunena molimba mtima, ndikuyang'ana pa iye m'maso, safuna kukusiyani.