Kodi nthawi zambiri timakhala odabwitse ngati amandikonda kapena ayi? Kodi ndikwanira kukhala ndi moyo wonse? Tonse tikuganizira za chikondi, tilingalire za ubale wabwino ndi maloto oti tidziwe izi ndizabwino kwambiri padziko lapansi. Malo ochezera a pa Intaneti akuimba ndi zithunzi zambiri ndi zithunzi zokongola kuti chikondi chenicheni chotere komanso chomwe chimayenera kukhala mwamuna weniweni kapena mkazi wabwino. Ndipo nthawi iliyonse tikayika ngati ndikawerenga china chake chosangalatsa. Mutu wachikondi nthawi zonse umapezeka pa zokambirana zathu ndi anzathu, pafupi ndi anzanga. Inde ... ngakhale atakhala ozizira, koma kumverera uku kumathandizadi m'miyoyo yathu. Wina wakhutitsidwa ndi chiwerengero ndi chikondi m'moyo wake, wina kulibe. Mwanjira zosiyanasiyana, chikondi chimatenga mawonekedwe Ake. Aliyense ali ndi chikondi chawo. Ndikufuna kupereka imodzi mwa malingaliro osangalatsa pazomwe chikondi ndi chiyani komanso zomwe zimachitika. Katswiritswiri wazakatswiri wazakatswiri wa probert wa Robert Sthunberg amapereka njira yotsatira. M'malingaliro ake, zimaphatikizapo zinthu zitatu: Kukondana, Kukonda ndi Ngongole.
Pakugwirizana zimamveka ngati kumverera kwachiyandikana ndi munthu, pomwe mungapereke zokumana nazo zapamtima, banja limakondweretsa ndi chisoni, chomwe chimatchedwa kuyankhula ndi miyoyo. Kudzimva wachimwemwe komanso kutentha kwa kulumikizana wina ndi mnzake, malingaliro a chikondi chimaphatikizidwanso. Uku ndi gawo la chikondi.
Kukonda ndi momwe sizinali zovuta kulingalira, zokhudzana ndi kugonana, kumvako, kufunitsitsa kuyandikana. Ichi ndiye chinthu chochititsa chidwi cha chikondi.
Ngongole (kapena kukhulupirika) kumaonekera munjira zomwe anthu amayanjana. Izi ndi za chisankho chofuna kukonda kwambiri ndikupitiliza chibwenzicho, kapena ayi. Ngongole ndi gawo lozindikira chikondi.
Njira yabwino yomwe aliyense amalimbana - chikondi changwiro, chomwe chimaphatikizapo zonsezi. Koma izi sizichitika nthawi zonse.
Mwachitsanzo, mawu okhazikika, awiri okha ndi okwanira. Kutengera ndi mfundo izi, mitundu itatu ya chikondi ikhoza kusiyanitsidwa:
Chikondi = kukonda + chikondi. Anzake amamva kukopa wina ndi mnzake.
Rocky = ngongole +.
Ochezeka = Ngongole + (kudzipereka). Mwakutero, ubale ambiri nthawi ndi nthawi amasandulika mawonekedwe awa.
Chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe zikuluzing'ono sikokwanira kumanga ubale wautali komanso wolimba, koma china chake chitha. Zachidziwikire, sizitanthauza chikondi chathunthu, komabe ...
Zachidziwikire kuti aliyense adakumana ndi chisoni chifukwa cha anyamata kapena atsikana. Pali kutentha, chidwi, kumverera kuti mukuyandikira mwaulemu ", koma palibe chokopa, koma mulibe chidwi chogonana, chilakolako, komanso chikhumbo chofuna kuchita nawo udindo. Izi zimachitika chibwenzi chikapezeka muubwenzi. Ndiosavuta kulingalira kuti kuyankhulidwa.
Ndipo zimachitika kuti poyamba, pali chikhumbo chamisala, chokonda, chomwe chimachitika nthawi yomweyo, kapena kutsika, kapena nthawi. Nthawi yomweyo, popanda zokambirana zamaganizidwe ndipo, zoona, kudzipereka. Osati nthawi yayitali, komanso njira yomwe nthawi zina imathandizira. Ndiwo yemweyo ali owala, koma achikondi mwachidule.
Chikondi chovomerezeka - anthu akamalumikizana ndi ngongole zokha. Izi nthawi zambiri zimachitika mu ubale wophatikizika anthu akataya chidwi ndi kukopeka ndi thupi. Ngakhale nthawi zina, mwachitsanzo, anthu amakwatirana pa kuwerengera kapena ayi, chikondi choterechi chitha kukhala choyambirira pakugwirizana kwa maubale olimbikitsa.
Chifukwa chake mu maubale osiyanasiyana, chikondi chimatenga fomu yosiyana. Ndipo ziribe kanthu kwenikweni. Iliyonse mwazinthu zomwe zingapangidwe. Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti maubale ndiwo kudalira, ndipo okwatirana amachitirana nkhawa.