Wataƙila, kowane mahaifa ya zo tare da lamarin lokacin da yaro ya buƙatar bayyana wannan abin da bai yi wannan ba, amma yawancin iyayensu ba za su iya jimre wa motsin zuciyarsu ba, amma suna motsawa zuwa ta cutar da yara psyche. Don haka ta yaya kuke tantance jaririn a kan kuskure kuma a lokaci guda ya zauna cikin kyakkyawar dangantaka da yaron? Bari mu tantance shi.
Kuna zuwa halaye
Kada ka manta cewa duk wani yaro ya fahimci kalmomin ka a zahiri, sabili da haka wani koma baya kalma mai kyau kamar "kuna matukar inaccier!" Babu shakka yana jinkirta a cikin karamin kai. Yana da wuya a ga wani yaro ya fahimci abin da ake yi muku magana game da wani takamaiman halin da ake ciki, shi zai ze shi da cewa duk abin da ya aikata, ya ba daidai ba ne, a cikin wannan harka - shi ne inactious. Maimakon ba da halayen mutum, canja wurin zargi ga lamarin da kansa, alal misali, gaya mani: "gwada aiki da kyau." Ratanku a kan yaro - mafi munin abin da zaku iya zuwa.
Kuna da shi
Har yanzu, tuna cewa yaron bai iya canja wurin kalmomin ku zuwa takamaiman yanayin ba, sabili da haka guji mahimman kowane yanayi. Zauna tare da yaro kuma bayyana abin da daidai jaririn ya yi ba daidai ba. Karka yi amfani da kalmomi kamar "koyaushe", "kowane lokaci." Rage kowane takamaiman yanayin tare da yaro, a zahiri, a cikin kwantar da hankali.
An allura
Ko da yaro ya shiryu sosai, kar a juya ga abin da ba dadi a cikin kamannin kisan. A ce yaranku ba su raba abu tare da wani yaro a cikin aji ba, yaƙin ya fuskanta. A zahiri, wajibi ne don ganowa, amma ya zama dole a yi shi a hankali. Faɗa mini, don kare hakkokinka - Da kyau, amma ba shi yiwuwa a bada izinin tashin hankali ta jiki. Ka bayyana cewa akwai hanyoyin wayewa don magance matsalar, suna kawo misalai kuma ka tabbatar cewa yaron ya saurara gare ka.
Kuna kiran tsokanar zalunci
Ee, sau da yawa iyaye suna da wahalar kiyaye motsin zuciyarmu, alal misali, lokacin da yaron ya shigo cikin yayyafa jeans, kuma kawai kun sayi su kawai kwanakin da suka gabata. Maimakon jefa yaron tare da zargin, gaya mani cewa abin da ya fusata da irin wannan sakamako, zaku iya sanya sabon abu ko ma siyan sabon abu ko ma saya sabon abu. Guji sautin canjin, wanda zai sa karami ya girgiza kai. Ka faxa maka cewa yaran da kansa ya yi fushi da kai, amma yanayin da ba shi da daɗi a gare ku da kuma gare ku.