"Ina jin tsoron zai yi tunani game da ni," - magana magana? Wataƙila an gaya muku ko budurwa, lokacin da suka gaya cewa suna da sabon abokin tarayya. A cikin al'adun Patriarchal, al'ada ce cewa yarinyar ta kamata ta sami abokan cinikin jima'i 1-3, kuma abin da ya wuce wannan fuskar magana ta magana game da karancinsa. Zai yi wuya a faɗi dalilin da ya sa mata kansu suke farin cikin tallafawa wannan ka'idar kuma sun ƙaddamar da kansu ga abokin tarayya a cikin abokin budurwa. Koyaya, wannan kayan yana so ya taimake ka shawo kan fargabar ciki kuma ka zama mai gaskiya tare da waɗanda kuka fi so.
Budurwa ba ita ce mafi girman darajar ba
Da zaran yarinyar ita ce, da tarbiyar wacce ta haifar da kiyaye budurwar SPLAVA a cikin rukuni na mahimmin mai nuna mahimmancin ɗabi'a. Wasu suna yin jima'i da abokin tarayya a ranar farko ta haila, wasu kuma suna yin tiyata na filastik. Ana iya bayanin abin da ya faru na dindindin ta hanyar ilimin halayyar dan adam ko kalmomin da suka fadi a cikin wani mace daga ƙarami - Mama, tana son mutum a makaranta - duk waɗanda suke da darajar mutum. Kodayake girman girman mutane da yawa zasu ƙayyade gaskiyar cewa zasu zama abokin tarayya na farko, amma a cikin yawancin mutane zasu fi son yin jima'i da yarinyar da ta riga ta sami gogewa. An yi bayani game da dalilai masu amfani - babu rashin jin daɗi yayin ma'amala, fahimtar jikinsa da ƙarfinsa, rashin ƙarfin hali da sauransu.
Jin kyauta don yin magana game da abin da ya gabata
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Magana game da kwarewar ƙarshe
Ga manya a cikin dangantaka mai kusanci, bai kamata a ji tsoron magana game da kwarewar dangantakar da ta gabata da kuma gaskiyar cewa ba ku so ko, akasin haka, sosai son jima'i da abokan hulɗa. Yana da mahimmanci kada a kwatanta saurayin da ya gabata tare da waɗanda suka gabata, don kada a cutar da shi, amma za mu iya magana game da abin da ke haifar da rashin damuwa ko kuma abin da ke cikin kayan gado ne ba su dace ba. Wannan zai ba ku damar gajarta lokacin "goge" lokacin da kuka ji duniyar abokin tarayya. Ba duk ga mutane bane, alal misali, kamar jima'i na baki - wannan al'ada ce, ko da zaku haifar da mafiya mamaki a cikin mahimman. Zai yuwu sabon ƙaunatarku a kan kwarewarku za ta gaya muku yadda ake warware wannan ko wannan matsalar.
Mata suna son jima'i ma
An yarda cewa maza suna samun jin daɗin jima'i. Wanda ake zargin shi ga mutumin da zai fita ya fita daga kulob din tare da 'yan mata daya ko biyu, wanda zai manta da kiransa gobe. Manta game da kowane rabo lokacin da ya zo ga dangantaka mai kyau: Kuna da daidai 'yancin yin barci tare da wani mutum da kuke so ko yin jima'i kawai a cikin dangantakarku - kuna ƙayyade iyakarku na ta'aziyya. Idan abokin tarayya shine isasshen manya, bazai taba zargi da ku saboda sha'awar yin barci da maza daban-daban ba. A akasin haka, yawanci mutane yawanci suna cikin masaniyar wani kuma suna farin cikin jin wasu labaru na nishaɗi, wanda ya yi gyare-gyare wanda ke nuna matakin ƙarfin ɗan adam.
Zama Frank da kuma shirye don gwaje-gwajen.
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Kar a m
Daga shawarwarin da suka gabata, yana da ma'ana a gaba - magana game da sha'awarku cikin kalmomi a bakin. Babu buƙatar inflate a kanku kamar saurayi zai yiwa kalmominku. Duk tunaninku da sha'awar ku nasiha ne daga gare ku, don haka jin daɗin dabi'ar ku kuma ba sa ɓoye shi daga abokin tarayya. Yi gaskiya da jin daɗin rayuwa, kuma manta game da ƙuntatawa har abada. Dangantaka yakamata ta sanya rayuwarku mafi ban sha'awa da arziki, kuma ba sa ka canza kanka.