So common story that the dream of our heroine is unlikely to be even surprising.
"In a dream, a sweet, but a rustic girl stands next to the current boyfriend - well-groomed, cool - and the former - cute and also rustic as she herself. She quickly tells the former that they were with the new beloved on vacation on a high mountain. What she rode from the mountain. What made some jumps. She was delighted. And on her with a decent smile, full of dignity, looks at her current friend, nods her words. And the former listens and periodically interrupts it, saying: "Yes, you can hardly do it - you do not know how to grieve," and the like. At the beginning, the girl is full of enthusiasm. But with each new comment of the former she fades, becomes uncertain and quiet. In the end silent. The former says goodbye and leaves. The couple remains in bewilderment. "
In the comments to Snoviditsa wrote that he would associate himself with this girl who believes in a voice criticizing her. The presence of love and support in the person of the current beloved she does not take into account. Familiar?
In fact, everything is simple. Scientists have established that in our brain several times more centers responsible for the experience of pain, and criticism is also pain. By the way, lovers of "constructive criticism" by note. Criticism, as if submitted, it was, perceived painfully even the most thick people. It does not mean that it is impossible to talk about what I don't like, does not suit, but to say so to be heard, and not a bill - this is a whole art.
And now back to the dream and her example. Sleep illustrates her drama. All characters of this sleep are internal voices. She is - and a simple girl, and a criticizing boyfriend, and the current beloved, with whom it is implemented and is folded. It is her negotiations that she behaves with himself. Is it surrounded by support or doomed to failure? Sleep reflects her conflict in which she lives his life. Every time it is worth it, whether it is worthy of a full life or must kill their vital energy, as one of the criticizing votes suggests.
By the way, the critical voice should be in us. His presence in our life is a sign of a normally working psyche, but when this voice is dominant, it is difficult to live with him, and you need to teach yourself to listen not only to him.
And this is the path is not only her, but also each of those who recognize themselves in such a common example.
And what dreams of you? Examples of your dreams send by mail: [email protected]. The way, the dreams are much easier to express if in a letter to the editor you will write preceding life circumstances, but most importantly - feelings and thoughts at the time of awakening from this dream.
Maria Dyachkova, PSYCHOLOGIST, Family therapist and leading trainings of personal growth Training center Marika Khazin