How to find the most true love to which everything and each separately seek? There is no single recipe. Love After all, she is about a lot about relationship with a partner and, oddly enough, about relationships with himself.
Love. When poems are composed by themselves. And throws in the heat from the thought of his partner. And butterflies in the stomach and the state when the wings grow behind the back. Yes, only all this is physiology. Hormones play with a man with a dick joke. All negative emotions and rational thinking are blocked. A feeling of pleasure and joy, "Love Euphoria" takes up over common sense. All this is beautiful and surprising, but only the condition of romantic love can last long only at a distance. As soon as the lovers begin to live together, there are general life, responsibility, obligations, children are born, it ends. And the study period of each other comes.
Therefore, if you do not want to part with romantic passions, but you want to experience your need, utility, constant sexual attractiveness and attractiveness, do not want to take responsibility and obligations - do not live together and do not give birth to children. Why raise injured children and experience partner for strength. Most likely, you can live and without trust, confidence in the future, without emotional intimacy and warmly, what is called love. Stay in love and in your fantasies, dream that somewhere there, there is someone else who you really need and are valuable. If it is not about you, then go further.
When two lovers begin to live in love, not only the ideality and dignity, but also a huge number of flaws become noticeable. Here, the first disappointments and the state of the annoyance appear. And then there are doubts: and if I hurried. You still have time to run away again in love, because the "chemistry of love" no longer works. And so, as it was before, no longer be. Those pink glasses are lost, and the period of quarrels and clarifying relationships occur. Everyone wants ideality. And to understand with a half-clow, and they performed all the desires, and were attentive, and the caring always. To felt that he wants to say or guess what the "clear sun" need, when it comes home. Just like with your beloved mom. If so is there. And if it was not in the distant childhood, the partner is doubly obliged to understand and try, for two - himself and mommy, who did not dat something. And maybe there is so much that no one can compare with it. And then the whole world of another person should rotate around the wonderful spring flower of Narcissa. And if not, it means that the partner is bad and the replacement is required. All this is the children's need and children's ideas about idealized maternal love or her lack, which is also somewhat. The egocentrism of this period of relationship is sometimes so great that someone from partners can adopt or adopt during the other time. But then the kid will grow up and separated from the parent, as it should be a grown teenager and goes into his new life for his new adventures. And someone remains with other people's emotional debts to deal with their parents alone with themselves in her loneliness. And maybe already with their real children.
This is the time when the couple begins to fight and redo each other and it leads to parting. And the search for new relationships, which, most likely, will be completed also. Or, that in an adult, together discuss and speak. Start each other with all the shortcomings. And then, most likely, the period of patience will come.
Therefore, if you still decided to part with romantic love and an adult to build relationships, then you want or not, you will have to go through the period of building relationships with a partner. And they begin with the adoption of the disadvantages of all. And perhaps what is so annoying from a partner, it has nothing to do with it.
And this is the very moment when the couple comes to the professional help of a psychologist. And it is from this point that studying itself and their displeasure begins. Why they? where? To tolerate and wait that Saba itself everything changes is impossible and unproductive. It is a hidden conflict, and all the burden of relationships alone cannot overcome. All the same blend. Patience - does not mean tolerate.
Patience means tolerance. This is the beginning of the most love. And then the children's egoism, which, as a rule, prevails in a state: did not see, did not hear, do not count with my opinion, did not appreciate, did not give, they did not accept, do not like, I give more - where is my reward? And TD ... begins to turn man to himself. I tell you, it is a difficult and difficult path. Recognize what I believed and did and spoke, not at all. And to realize their own imperfection very hurt. Knowledge and awareness - different things. And the pain that will be caused to yourself - more than physical pain. And not everyone, even the strongest and courageous, is capable of it. But this is the path that leads to proximity to himself and proximity to another. You can, of course, change the partner, by trying it as a suit, a couple or a dozen years old, and leave incomprehensible and unpleasured. But very few people know that sexuality is not love, silence does not mean consent, compliance does not mean - respect, and the adoption has nothing to do with recognition ... Only learning and feeling herself, having acquainted with her "bad qualities", having received them, finding them For them, place in here and now, answering your questions, why? - in relation to himself and to people, deciding with their needs and values and learned with joy and pleasure to share what you have with a partner - follow further
Believe me, you're close enough to the desired moment, but he may not like you. The ministry is not romantic love. This is the highest manifestation. I want and do not from the position that I approve me, but just because I so want. And I do not ask anything in return. Here and begins with mutually joy and pleasure. But you can come to this period of relationships only by passing all the previous ones. This is a prerequisite. Love is not for something. Not for money, not for good. Emotional comfort and warmth. In exchange for the same. Love must be cultivated in themselves in themselves and in a partner, not forgetting that its values and needs can others and so that they are in some way, they have become common with time, you need to work together and work. And each separately. Land in trifles and making a new new for two. And then respect appears. And many lived life tests, with support, attention to each other, with understanding and knowledge that there is one to whom I can trust, somewhere near, and only then confidence and gratitude arises. And only then there is an exchange of energy, feelings, thoughts ... And all that is mine, becomes common. One whole, thereby bigger feeling. Love.
Pleasure and calm joy from the fact that the one who is near and does not speak, and it is already clear what he said. And everything is done, without negotiating. Your partner becomes your mirror, but not a curve- as it usually happens. A mirror that reflects the invisible wonderful aspects of your soul and helps you become more holistic, unique and true to your nature and spiritual intimacy. And this same love that is being searched for long and many years, passing by and leaving sometimes behind those who loved and was near. By changing the passion, on the game in love, on the game in relationship, the game in "fashionable" and like everyone else. It is possible not to be played, but to live, live, and not sick, you need to learn what happened, once just given, and for various reasons are lost. After all, love suffers everything, it believes everything, everything tolerates and never ceases to be. She is responsible and undemanding. And maybe if you come to true friendship, sensual sexuality, tolerance, ministry, respect and confidence with a constant amendment on yourself, you can come to what the real love is called.
It is possible that you can go through all the stages without ambitious losses and experiences, you need to know and understand yourself. Be able to feel love in yourself and respect for yourself. Be able to love just people. Find her place in yourself, and not as in an old fairy tale: "Needle in an egg, an egg in duck, duck in a hare" ... Love she inside each of us. It is given to us as a great benefit and a great test. Like the path to yourself.
After all, if with a narcisstic dedication, and not with a sincere feeling, they treat himself, and there will be nothing to give. If you come from the position that the whole world is spinning around me, and I do what I want, and I will not take anything and tolerate, then love can not be found. "After all, a glass and so full - egocentric attachment to yourself" and love is an exchange. But what to change?
And at the end, you can overcome the desired tips:
· Be able to fall in love. Do not be afraid of close relationships. Be able to be in them.
· To be able to give up your fantasy that romantic love is forever
· To be able to negotiate and be tolerant. Allow to be your shortcomings. And disadvantages of another person.
· Be able to choose from many people's people. And for this - know and understand yourself. Understanding and feeling their weaknesses. Always, every day work on yourself.
· Be able to feel respect, trust and feel emotional warmth and comfort in your loneliness to yourself. Be able to share and exchange it in relationships. Because if you fill yourself with another person, it's not love it, but rather dependence on someone or something.
· Learn to love. Every day, starting with the question of yourself ... I love, and how do I feel it?
After all, love is a feeling that we all is presented, but it is not at all a random gift of fate. This is a reward for efforts, the desire to overcome the difficulties and the ability to make a lot of work on yourself and in relations together, and with your partner.