"And how you are not ashamed!". Admit that they heard such a phrase in childhood more often than "with good morning!". And that the sin to thaw, every second parent across the shame brings up his own child. It is ashamed to be a bad student, a shame to be an upset, be active when everyone behave quietly, ashamed to want something that parents have no money. It is ashamed to eat with an appetite, the food blending so that the juice is flowing from it to face. A lot of things are ashamed, isn't it?
Shame is such a difficult feeling that it is better to be good and obedient than to worry about people. And at the same time, shame is a real paralysis: feelings, thoughts, spontaneous and honest manifestation of themselves. All those who were shaped, do not know how to stand up for themselves. Even in the most evident and unfair cases towards themselves, blame themselves. If the parents only knew what consequences for a lifetime leaves the "lining" upbringing!
The fact is that shame is a social sense, we are experiencing it in humans when we are told that such as we are, we have no right to be. In childhood, we hear it from meaningful lovers, and then we are talking to ourselves, in perfectly constraining ourselves from any initiative. The shame permeated all spheres of our life: money, education, prospect, property, order in the house, food on the table, sexuality, body and its ability, image, creativity, religion, political views, public speeches. All our truthful personal views, our desires and genuine feelings we hide in the secluded corners of our soul, so as not to be ashamed of it, it is very painful to worry.
However, our dreams help partially cope and "digest" the situations of shame.
Not knowing deep context of the life situation of the dreams, I will give a short passage of her sleep:
"I go out of my own house, in a T-shirt, in pantyhose and shorts, lowered to the knees, and in high heels and go throw the garbage. The territory near the house is mine, so I am not ashamed, but as soon as I come to the gate, I immediately became unlike myself, suddenly someone sees. Turning my head, and I look at some girl from the window of another house with a window. I pulled the tights and went out to throw out the garbage. "
This fragment shows our dreams that she looked at some event associated with shame, as well as, as it seems to me, with sexuality. It is told by high heels, lowered panties and tights.
The dream is quite transparent. What is our dreaming can take for ourselves from this dream?
First, her subconsciously copes through sleep with some situation and shame, it is impregnating.
Secondly, she should watch her own feelings. Especially when it comes to something personal, intimate. She also stands like in a dream, make sure that it is quite reliably for the experience of different feelings. In a dream, she collided with shame, leaving the "reliable" place. Shame, like any difficult feeling, is impossible to truly survive without reliable support. Most likely, we will displace it, turning into excessive activity, anxiety or arrogance. Only in a reliable place for themselves, consider, near a reliable friend, close and giving support by a person, we truly express the painful and deep experiences, which we will leave us with such a scenario. Otherwise, they will remain with us, turning into our shadow. We will fight them, outstretten, but they still feel them.
Our dreams can be created by the creation of a reliable space and support group for an honest conversation with the wrong topics.
And what dreams of you?