Handsome man: how to deal with narcissism?

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- Olga Nikolaevna, with what problems come to you?

- This category of men will call the conditionally "generation of Millennium", as they overcame the Millennium Railway, being at a young age. And now it is people aged 20 to 35 years old.

In general, all the collisions of their destinies can be reduced to three moments, the first is a relationship with women, the second is its own image of itself as men and the realization of their own way into life, and the third - stunning symptoms of very strong neurosis. The result - they left face in the wall and do not move anywhere.

- More?

- I chose the most key points. It is a loss of the meaning of life, the loss of desire, loss of will, as well as phobias and obsessive thoughts. Here is the standard set with which they live today.

But this is not the main problem. The results obtained in research say that today it is a generation of men, literally affecting a narcissistic disorder.

Hit! Narcissical disorders that many psychoanalysts speak, among the current youth, three times more than that of the generation of older people. Statistics show that students surveyed in 2009 are narcissible by more than 50% compared with 1982 students. All other psychological problems that I listed above are the essence of the generation of increasing qualities in the modern era of narcissism of the individual.

- Handsome man, admiring himself - is it bad?

- It only seems that this is a harmless diagnosis. Millennialys are obsessed with glory, and this leads to the fact that they do not want to work at all, which is not liable. Most of them are painfully perceive their categories, they are ready to even be an assistant of a well-known person, only in order to be noticed. They have no doubt about self-importance, they are absolutely confident in their own steepness. They often overestimate their indicators, their success, and this is due to the fact that, being children, they received a huge amount of promotions, literacy, prizes. Parents and school did not create the situation situations, overcoming the difficulties that it is necessary as a motivational engine for a man. Millennialys are extremely lazy and passive, since the motivation of achievements is at the lowest level.

This partly comes from the fact that many since childhood thanks to parents are already everything. What to strive for?

Millennialys are docked only on themselves and on their generation, they are transnational, and this means that they have weak ties with their own culture and an older generation of their country. But they are very similar among themselves, living in different countries. In addition to the listed factors, it should be noted that the representatives of the Millennium generation are actively likely to be responsible and avoid it easily and without thinking. They are not erudite, they have a highly developed desire for finished schemes, instructions, recommendations. Millennialys do not like to make decisions, but in general they have a lot and positive qualities.

- After the above listed, they also have positive qualities?

- Millennialys are called the first negative generation that supports active friendship with their parents, from which they actually do not seek to separate. Most often simply because dependent on dad and mothers. They are not aggressive, very careful, miles, smiling, they have no problems, they are characterized by a high degree of desire for life comfort and security.

- Only one question remains. Does a modern young woman suit a man with such qualities to create a family?

- The life of a modern young man flows in the desire to obtain pleasure. They are real playboys, very like a variety of games and prefer to play them. Curiously, but, as in childhood, the games should someone organize them, which generates the whole of the gaming business industry for them.

Sex also becomes a variety of their games, it is a cute prank without consequences, which modern medicine has taken care of. They honestly declare that they want to have a family, children, but did not take a single step towards this dream. The slogan of Millenialov: "Why do today what you can do the day after tomorrow!"

- If they are so strive for pleasure, how do they work then? What prefer to do?

- Any work should pass and deliver them. They cherish themselves in social networks: "I live on Jamaica, I go to a red T-shirt. Rest and sunbathing - my job! " Modern men travel a lot, they are in search of themselves, they gladly inform the world with the help of various social networks their bodily and spiritual coordinates. All of this they need to maintain communication with themselves and getting a response from a close environment, mainly the admiration register in which they need themselves due to their own narcissibleness and problems of reflection.

Therefore, the young man runs through the light on the one hand in search of himself, on the other - from himself.

And his own idea of ​​himself is replaced by the PR shares of his own me and written responses on the Internet.

Many of them are interested in any nearby, popularly popular, esoteric information, because in the depths of the soul they seem to be incomprehensible and mysterious to such an extent as a small child who does not have resources studies itself.

Young men love all sorts of "cool things", "Nyashki", "nyashnynyh" is the world of things that have an unidentified value purchased in distant countries and specially organized under these aspirations for their sublimated sexual pleasure.

In general, they cause sincere sympathy and look like they never had any misfortunes, difficulties, problems. In this positive, they strongly look at Down.

- Is this a problem for modern society, is there a real way out of the current situation or is it a dead end?

- Fix the problems of the existing generation in the global sense is difficult if not to say that it is impossible. Even psychologists who have now been loaded on the throat with such children who are given parents in an attempt at least somehow change the situation with the fact that they do not want to learn, work, but they just want to strike in social networks. In general, they very rarely achieve positive results, because millennia has powerful resistance to changes and work on themselves. These children do not see their problems, they are good and so, and the best thing that can be done is to leave them alone.

A real way out of this deadlock is to take care of the culture of raising children, where adults should not be hyper in an attempt to give their children for two - apparently, this adult famously had to be in childhood. Little love is bad, but too much is not at all good. In parental love, elements should be present, aimed at cultivating independence, autonomy and independence of the younger child. He should not be considered a continuation of the parent, about which the parent knows more than this child himself. This deprives the child of the feeling of its own unique individual Ya. And in this case, it will be very useful in time to separate children for independent life. When they face problems in their livelihood, they will not have another choice, how to engage in the fight for their survival. These are forced measures, but this is a real way out of the situation.

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