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"Tell me, what does it mean if I dream constantly, as my young man with me tears a relationship: leaves, disappears or I can't find it? In fact, we are together for several years. "
Let the dream of this did not write this, it seemed to me that the sleep content was surprised and discouraged. It seems to be a stable and sustainable relationship in life, in a dream - shaky, fragile, and the partner is inappropriate.
As a dream gives us that information that is often unconscious and is stored deeply in the unconscious, then seen can shock us.
Fear of gap, feeling abandoned - one of the most wondering experiences in life. The experience gained in this is very difficult to worry, therefore feelings associated with abandonment - sadness, fear, shame, anger, - go to the unconscious. To cope with this pain, we use the models of behavior that "guarantee" us safety. We use different sophisticated methods to reinstate ourselves from re-pain: We become overly demanding of the partner, choose secure partners who are unable to leave us, for example, dependent on us and our attention and care. Sometimes there are too distant relationships with a partner without mutual obligations to control and protect against this pain.
Moreover, even if after experienced pain, it is possible to create a reliable relationship, the alarm and vague expectations, that the pain will return, they do not go anywhere.
If the pain does not remember, but simply the wills of the will bend deep into the subconscious, then the painful experiences will pursue in sleep.
And apparently, this is the case of our dreaming, which seemed to build a reliable relationship, but at the same time introduces the solar fears and resentments to these relationships.
This is a sign that would be good to deal with the fact that from the past painful experience is still not already experienced, still torments and pursues. Or, maybe the relationship with its current partner keeps a good facade, but in fact she catches signs of unavailability, alienation, distance. These elusive signs are still difficult to express in words, but sleep demonstrates her guesses and premonitions more frankly.
In any case, such a dream is an undoubted signal to pay attention to your own relationship.
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Maria Zemskova, PSYCHOLOGIST, Family therapist and leading trainings of personal growth Training center Marika Khazina