I heard a recent reasoning of one woman about whether it is worth looking for a satellite life in a mature age. The fact is that this woman is a widow, adult children. After mourning and experiences on the care of her husband, she established her life, filled her in interest, friends, creativity, study, advanced in his career. But the question about a close person nearby remains open and has no definite answer. I would like, however there is a lot of "but".
And here's a dream in hand, as they say.
"I'm in the group of women who are younger than me, I am on the field. I myself look like something strange: hair unpacked, wide clothing, neglected. I understand that these women are a suicide group, they are in the crowd, and the fields are organized on the field. And they all persean and mindlessly waiting when they are suitable. And I am also waiting, but when my turn is suitable, I decide that it does not fit me, turning around and leaving. No one forces anyone, I'm just leaving. "
Hearing this dream, I carefully asked his hostess, what he hints to her. She said that at work often faces many women younger than it, which is defined to the question about finding a partner: "Need." And get married, often secondary or even for the third time. And for our dreams, this is not only a search for a close person, it is also a recognition that she may have to accompany someone's care again. Her colleagues, not having such experience, easily associate themselves with wedding bonds. For the dreams, they suicides who agree to support someone in the last moments of life, she in reflections, whether this experience will withstand this experience. Interesting sleep detail, that she is untidy, inaccier in it. I think this reflects her first "uncongenic" gusting to create relationships with someone. Even before the mind turns on, experience, logic, its impulsive side says: "And I want, like other women." But sleep reflects her choice at this stage, it leaves the crowd of frivolous in his choice of women.
At the same time, the search for a loved one is part of our nature. We need a special witnesses of our life, a living being, who with trepidation observes our life peripetics, our ups and downs. He can substitute his shoulder, and sometimes - give a good "pink" so that we start to act. And we will be able to testify and accompany someone's life. Of course, we strive for this at different stages of life, the age here is nothing. It brings only adjustments.
However, this witness may be not only a man and not only in the status of her husband. Close relationships can have different contact forms: Friend, colleague, student or teacher, travel companion ... It is worth only to expand your idea of the proximity, which you can wish our heroine.
And what dreams of you? Examples of your dreams send by mail: [email protected]. By the way, dreams are much easier to express if in a letter to the editor you will write preceding life circumstances, but most importantly - feelings and thoughts at the time of awakening from this dream.
Maria Dyachkova, PSYCHOLOGIST, Family therapist and leading trainings of personal growth Training center Marika Khazin