How often do we listen to their doubts, fear, fears? How serious we treat our own experiences, especially if they are not logical? The usual way of thinking suggests that everything "bad" must be thrown out of the head. But dreams are not familiar to our familiar ways to avoid any experiences. Sleep can talk about the fact that we, like all living people, tend to doubt, be afraid or thinking whether to continue something: build a family, to make a project or learn.
Here is a good example:
"I had a dream. My manicure is sitting. Loyer is very sad, depressed. And he says: "I do not know what to do with Cyril (this is her husband)?"
Someone said she, he was no way. So she suffers: whether to diverge, whether to be together. I irritantly tell her that they have a family, a child. They are already together. Why does she listen to someone? I tell her: "Defended already, or you with him, or without it. Where will you find another devotional and loving man? "In a dream, he is so. Although in life he is a drug addict, free from his preferences of just a few years. The first thing that came to mind when I woke up is that a love is my own doubts. "
Wonderful dream! Our heroine sees an immature couple in a dream, in which relationships are painful: dependent partner and the infantile, doubting partner.
Of course, our dreams rightly defined the promise of sleep: a love is her part that she criticizes for immature attitude towards her husband and their partnership. This part of it, which is disappointed, is suppressed and has already ceased to invest. At the same time, this part does not do it to change the status of affairs, but just suffering. Another side of her soul instructs her, calls for a responsible relation.
Sleep reflects for our dreams to her part that has disappointed in partnership. By the way, it is not by chance that the images are chosen not by chance: in recent times, the addict and his wife who suffers and makes efforts to improve their lives.
Of course, in all just blame the other: partner - drug addict, unreliable and dependent. From him some suffering. Everyone will understand. At the same time, for a woman, this position of the victim and the prosecutor simultaneously helps to escape from their own liability for their lives. While she is engaged by the accusation and criticism of the other, her own plans are in place.
Perhaps the dream of our dreams reflects it that is this position of things: to correct the partner, demand that he become more loving, reliable - it is easier than to do his life more abundant and happy.
And what are your dreams tell you? Send your stories by mail: [email protected].
Maria Zemskova, PSYCHOLOGIST, Family therapist and leading trainings of personal growth Training center Marika Khazina