Have a nice day! Let's start with the fact that this dream sent a man. It is always curious. And secondly, he raised the inexhaustible topic to change - it is always hot!
I will drive ahead and say that the author did not voice his inner monologue on what value he gave these dreams. What is treason for him, and why it is relevant now. In short, I know that he is in a few years in a relationship with a girl who is also mentioned in this dream. So:
"I dream dream that I am in a holiday home with my girlfriend, in a huge such building with a bunch of rooms. I am carrying this building and on rooms with some kind of lady, at some point I am visiting the idea to change my girlfriend. And at this moment there is some kind of porridge, it does not actually come out, but the sediment remained, as they say. And so, in fact, I will face a girlfriend after all this with a huge sense of guilt and thought: to tell her or not about this event. Recently, the topic with treason at all dreams of a week as much about, but today at least something is remembered. "
As the dreams did not ask his question, let's try to voice his questions to myself and tie with the content of sleep. How does it turn out that I dream it? Should I talk like this? How strong are our relationship, and will they withstand this test?
What am I looking out of our relationship? Why do you feel the feeling of guilt for the search and satisfaction of this shortage in front of my partner?
Since the topic of change was raised many times with dreams in this column, this time I want to add something new, and not repeat.
Perhaps, focusing exactly on the subject that for satisfying some needs outside the relationship with a partner (Shura-Mura in a dream with the lady) is experiencing a dream. We assume that a similar process passes a person when I intercepted food in fast food, knowing that he was waiting for a healthy food at home, which is genuine food. And the feeling of guilt is a signal that the need for he has poorly recognized, he satisfied incorrectly. For example, a man believed that he was hungry, but actually felt the "hunger" of another plan. He was angry, excited or depressed. He needed to compensate for these feelings with whom he did not know how to cope, and fast food was an attempt, but unsuccessful, in complacency. Do you know this?
I will say carefully my assumption that the dream dream illustrates the same process, but instead of food, sex acts as an intermediary. Sex - as an affordable way for someone, to satisfy, calm, compensate for suffering and growing alarm. In a sense, it is easier to keep the secret from a loved one if I changed him. There is always something to do. And the obvious meaning in front of the nose is 24 hours a day: not to be caught and not to do another hurt.
I suggest our dreams to detect what kind of call inside is he hears truly? What cares him that he does not give consciousness to fall asleep and cause some kind of suffering?
Maybe it's not about treason, but that relations are only part of the implementation. Something can be implemented in another union, optionally fastened sex. Perhaps there are still topics, challenges in life, for which the dreams did not dare, and now the dreams "suggest" the methods of consolation, pity for themselves and techniques, as you can not meet with these impulses, but to serve fear of being exposed.
By the way, the sense of guilt is considered in many contexts, including in an existential, personal sense, when a person realizes that he lives not on the call of the soul, but rides on other rails, for example, instead of self-realization, it is engaged in searching for approval from loved ones.
I wonder what you dream? Examples of your dreams send by mail: [email protected]. The way, the dreams are much easier to express if in a letter to the editor you will write preceding life circumstances, but most importantly - feelings and thoughts at the time of awakening from this dream.
Maria Dyachkova, PSYCHOLOGIST, Family therapist and leading trainings of personal growth Training center Marika Khazin