It would seem that the fleeting passage of sleep, nothing particularly distinguished. And at the same time, the deep message of the dreams of himself. At the dawn of the creation of this column, I already mentioned that it was easy to dismiss from my sleep and say: "Brad dreamed." In fact, our dreams are not nonsense at all, the logic and relationship with the usual reality is simply lost. But at the same time, sleep is a symbol that concentrates transmits us the necessary information.
Here is an example of such a dream who sent a dream recently.
"Today in the cafe in the morning I wanted to go with a friend. And in a dream, we are already there. Choose a table, order coffee and dessert. All cute - as always in this place. Then the fuss begins. Cafe either leaves, whether they start repair. Destruction in one word. We forgot about us. I'm scandal, which is already waiting for coffee. I am politely answered, they say, yes, wait. Then they just cease to pay attention. And I'm angry and continue to wait ...
After waking up I was painted: I'm still waiting for something in my life, I pretext, I pretext that I do not notice the ruin around me. Instead of doing, not just wait. "
Sleep shows our dreams that in life she is in a passive pledge: expects, it will experience, she who gets plans, freezes, until the situation is more suitable for her, although everything becomes even worse - and its world is only collapsed.
It is worth saying that the wait, a fading is one of the three automatic reactions to the stressful, threatening situation. Formula 3 ° F, the so-called "FIGHT, FLIGHT, FREEZE" (which means "attack, runaway or freezing"). So our body behaves in a hazard situation, obeying self-preservation instincts. And this is an excellent mechanism of self-defense, but not always, we need to obey our biological knowledge about survival. Not all situations in life require the implementation of this behavior, as the conflict is not a direct threat. 3 F-formula is a behavior in a situation of real danger, developed in the process of evolution. But the requirement of his, the scandal does not really threaten us. Sleep shows our heroine as she not only survives, but also attacks others, provokes conflicts, and this in turn covers wilting for her, emptying the world around her. Most likely, this reflects its own fading process, which she diligently masks the squabbles, requirements, complaints and scandals.
Existential therapy is built on the fact that we are not given the process of its wilt and aging turn reversal. This dance with which we need to learn to live, every year I understand everything more clearly that even this life process will once be over.
Until our dreams have been angry from this fact by an angry requirement, but in fact, if she prompts this act, it will find that there is a process of some "empty", with which it is harder to respen than with not in time to the coffee.
And what dreams of you?
Examples of your dreams send by mail: [email protected]. By the way, dreams are much easier to express if in a letter to the editor you will write preceding life circumstances, but most importantly - feelings and thoughts at the time of awakening from this dream.
Maria Dyachkova, PSYCHOLOGIST, Family therapist and leading trainings of personal growth Training center Marika Khazin