Women - creating pragmatic. After meeting a man, they are able to present him in five minutes with their husband and the father of children, to mentally fly on vacation and introduce them to their parents. The men are all easier. They estimate the girl for the short term: her femininity, appearance, smile. "Came, I saw and married" - it rarely happens. No matter how cool, must go through a certain period so that he decided: "I want it to be my wife!"
Relations between partners are different. For some women, these are meetings for sex three times a week. Or winking in the office at the xerox. Someone is waiting for the transition to a new level, because "It's time, we have long meet - the intake of 2 months." Sometimes relationships support the Internet through cities and even countries. But harmonious relationship is a complete order on the emotional and physical levels. There is not enough cherished rings in a small box.
When pre-wedding campaign comes, it is impossible to put pressure on a man. But often the girl seems to be triggered by internal alarm: "It's time! After all, I already 20. or 30. " She hints. Hints go into daily conversations and even nigging about the wedding, while the man does not begin to throw the brain.
It's mistaken to think that he just forgot or did not realize. Most likely, the man stops the proposal of the arm and the heart is quite a logical thing - the confidence that he is not ready yet. Unfortunately, it is just an excuse. It's convenient to be a man with a girlfriend, he doesn't need more. Most likely, such relationships will only lead to loss of time. If a man is good next to a woman, he wants it to be so always. It happens that he avoids financial responsibility. Remember how in a fairy tale about a thumb when Mole calculated: "She eats the floor of the grains per day. I get married! " "And a year ... - no, do not marry!" A man knows that to keep his wife is not the same thing as led restaurants and gifts to give. Further will follow more spending on children. And he wanted to update the brand of cars, live for himself ...
Do not put pressure on your beloved man
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There are girls who seem to be written on the forehead: "Hey, someone, take me marriage!" Normal men are read and quickly erected from relationships at the initial stages. And frozen men are attracted to the girls, Mamenikina Sons or Pickpearts. Those who are initially not afraid of her aspirations to make marriage as soon as possible. After all, he knows exactly - this will never happen!
But what does Normal Men stop? Men are also afraid. True, unlike female, their fears are rather driving power. Here are frequent Prerequisites for men's fears:
- Choice. The fateful solution to a man is more difficult to accept than a woman. After all, he has, thanks to Testosterone, the left hemisphere of the brain is more developed, responsible for the logic. A man thinks strategically, analyzes. Women are more emotional, so they are more often impulsively "coming married."
- Loss of independence. After all, even if the couple lives together, the illusion of freedom in a man remains. He is frightened by the idea that "it's forever." Women's wisdom is to leave a feeling of freedom and after marriage. Otherwise, a man seems that it's not a ring on him, and the shackles.
- Fear of responsibility When he understands that after the wedding, you will have to become not only husband, but also by the Father. The world will turn upside down, the level of obligations will increase as soon as it crosses the regimony threshold. But the responsibility is not issued with the certificate of marriage. She is either originally laid in a man or not.
- unsuccessful examples Familiar, friends and especially parents. He does not know what is a divorce, drama, the section of property, alimony. This fear will remove only a very tactful and tender woman who will prove - this will not happen to us!
- Perm fear. He still feel a light breeze by a bachelor life. Even if you live together. He likes the chance to light at a party and point to the night on the bike. He will not use them. But maybe! A stamp in a passport is a step of growing up. And not all men are ready to grow up, and it is not necessary to be infantil to this.
- fear of failure As a man does not want to be disappointed in the choice. He must make up 200% that this is the most unique woman and the perfect mother for his children. And she chose him not because of money, connections or metropolitan regulation.
Reverse reaction
Ring and stamp in the passport are not always the key to harmonious relationships.
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"When do you get married?" - Favorite question of relatives and friends. He does not sound anything from the radio in his car. Outside the outside causes a rejection from men, reverse reaction: "Why should I do, how does any aunt Clara impose?" In this case, it is necessary to create such conditions so that the man did not presue. Does your mom ask about it too often? Yes, she worries. But explain to her tactfully that in marriage it is better late, but consciously.
In general, we now turn to specific actions so that the stamp finally appeared in your passports.
1. Talk calmly. Find out that he does not suit you as in a woman. Or vice versa - you demand more than he is ready to give. If a man closes, he hides a real reason. Ready to endure indecision and adjust? Go across or manipulate to get the desired? It is hardly similar to healthy and harmonious relationships. A man should want weddings himself. Only in this case will the marriage will be happy.
2. Place your dealer. What do you feel? Sometimes there is a problem in low self-esteem. The woman seems to be that nobody will love it, satisfy and take, like this man. This is from self-satisfaction, from lonely fear. Believe me, there are many men in the world with whom you can be happy!
3. Take yourself. Become the woman who want to marry. Work with self-esteem, pump your female qualities. After all, the stamp in the passport is not a destination. This is only an intermediate point on a big travel map called a happy relationship. You have coordinates - it's time to go on the road!