American scientists thought why people on the one hand are waiting for recognition in love from their partner, and on the other hand they are afraid of it. Up to the fact that words about gentle feelings can cause hysterics or aggression in humans.
Representatives of the American Glendon Association, which specializes in the study of human psychology, conducted a whole study cycle.
The first thing they managed to find out that the subjects did not always realize their stormy negative reaction to the expression of love in their address. Moreover, they themselves could not explain such a rapid surge of emotions. It seemed to them that, on the contrary, they were waiting for these words from their beloved.
Scientists concluded that this is an unconscious process. Recognition in love forces people somehow react, changes their lives, that is, it displays the familiar zone of comfort. It is this moment that causes irritation.
The man once already experienced unsuccessful experience: unrequited love, betrayal, divorce, does not want to repetition. The psyche retains the memory: "Under such circumstances, it was painful." And the person subconsciously begins to defend themselves from emotional intimacy and attachment, trying to retire most from his partner.